pride

[DawnS1065]

how would you all deal with this situation:

There is a lady in choir, who i have been praying for because more then one person has also diserned she is very prideful and actually has issues of jelously and wants me out of the choir. I used to be in her cluster group (we have smaller groups that meet once a month for ministry)... and when i had an outside commitment that was keeping me from regularly attending rehearsal she told me I had to choose... yet i later realized it was not true.. and that actually she wanted me out of choir because she got word i was about to be invited to join the praise team and was mad that they did not ask her. She has a beautiful voice but it is classical..

Anyways, I am trying not to be bothered by it, but i find myself feeling upset when i see her... i have prayed.. and forgiven.. yet i feel like i am being constantly pulled into a competition.. and I don't like it. Every time she talks to me its with a condesending tone. (and once i came back to choir she was visually bothered).

So... how can i best deal with this?

Dawn

 

[Determinedheart]

Well, welcome to ministry if the truth be known This happens all the time on our team and other people I know that are on worship teams. My best advice is you cannot change her only God can so keep praying as for the rest I know from my own experience problems will ALWAYS arise, Maybe God is testing /teaching you something? after all he won't put us in deep water if he hasn't taught us to swim I don't know, but I do know when we overcome these things that we are stronger and trust him more and learn to keep our eyes on HIM and not these distractions that the enemy likes to put in front of us. Trust me, I know this frustration I have the exact problem but I leave it up to the Lord, even if it takes 100 times of laying these things at Jesus feet keep doing it until YOU choose not to pick it up again, that is only when you will find your peace about this situation.

 

[SGM4HIM]

Keep your eyes on God, don't feed the fire, and it will extinguish itself eventually.

 

[guitarist4him]

I find that in most ministry opportunities there will always be one or more that feel that they should be in the place you are. I am in a similiar situation where I'm a new praise and worship leader. There is a individual in our team that has felt threatened by my presence. We share leading our services and when this person leads, I can sence her flexing of her "authority".

I have always said that God appoints us to our ministry. We simply obey. I'm not doing any more or any less than what has been asked of me. I simply pray that God will give me His grace, His heart, and His love so that I can extinguish the feelings that this individual has towards me. Always remember that God will finish what He starts.

In His Service

 

[DawnS1065]

thanks to everyone for posting.

I have really had to pray about this as i can't change her but i can pray for the Lord to break me down to change me. I am not long away from my own ministry with my fiance and i won't have to deal with this anymore. i just want to serve the Lord in a spirit of submission and never to be in a place where i am exhalted. i have asked God to please take me OUT of the minstry if i ever desire to be praised and not have all praises go unto Him.

Dawn

 

[Mastervolume]

What is God trying to tell you or show you through this person?

I am sure that there is a lesson He wants you to learn although it might not be obvious.

He might be using her for you to let go of something.

 

[DawnS1065]

What is God trying to tell you or show you through this person?

I am sure that there is a lesson He wants you to learn although it might not be obvious.

He might be using her for you to let go of something.

I believe you are right.

I am praying about it.

 

[Jenster]

When I have been in a situation like this, it is very challenging, so I empathize with you.

I try to remember that to let GOD take care of the situation. Be firm if you have to be with her, that's what I do. But I try not to be unpleasant or vindictive. For example, a woman in my worship team wants to be the center of attention, to the point of criticizing me when she's feeling threatened. I don't let her get away with the criticism, or else I would feel walked all over. Yet, I also am not criticizing her back, nor am I gossipping about her. I believe restraint is appropriate, but you don't have to be a doormat either. God will take care of the situation in time.

 

[bithiah2]

i am a praise dancer and although i don't sing, dancers can be some of the worst acting people when it comes to jealousy.
in my opinion, if this woman who is acting so jealous is really classically trained, she would know how to blend in with the other voices on the praise team. classical training gives a person a strong foundation to do many styles, not just one. i know it works for dance, so it seems that it would work for any other art form.
don't let anyone stand in your way. it is hard when people let their mind rule them instead of God, but stand and having done all, stand your ground and pray. God will fight your battles for you.

keep praising and giving thanks to God!
bithiah2
be encouraged