Preventing Homosexuality In Your Child

[Stuco]

Does this horrify anybody else?

When you put it up aginst a locker room it really aint that horrifying.

 

[Nymphalidae]

I don't have a problem with nudity or giving your kid a bath or anything like that. I just think it's really odd that to ensure your son's heterosexuality one of the recommended procedures is showing him how big your penis is. It's kind of perverted.

 

[QUIC]

According to this Doctor, I should now be straight... (I'm actually Gay)

I had/have a very close relationship with both my Mum and my Dad (and my Sister).

When I was growing up (between the ages of probably 2 and 10 I guess), I used to always share a Shower/Bath with my Dad (was mainly because we had to live on rain water, which - in that area of Australia, we didn't get much rain - thus had to save water, but I don't think that makes a difference).

I played just about every sport out there e.g. Cricket, Rugby League, Basketball, Hockey, Swimming, Baseball, Sailing (among others).

We lived on a farm so a lot of the time I was helping taking care of animals, helping with building fences (hitting a square peg into a square hole? More like hitting posts into the ground and nails into railings), One of my chores between the ages of 9 - 15 was to go and chop the wood for the fire every night in the winter (I actually quite enjoyed it).

I continued with the sports and chores right through my teens as well, but STILL I knew I wasn't straight from a young age. Explain THAT Mr Dobson.

This article also braught to mind a News story I read a while back: here's the link.. I believe it was originally entitled (when I read it) - Father Bashes 3 year old son to prevent him from being gay.

It appears that I can't post a link - but if you type this in without the spaces it'll probably work:

news . tbo . com / news / MGBV5C523BE . html

 

[mpshiel]

I am just wondering if Dr. Dobson (and he is passing off theraputic information as a Dr. right, not as a biblical interpretation?) has any genetalia exposure tips for the ladies (true, guys do tend to obsesses on male homosexuality and think lesbians are for making out in movies, or seedy floor shows)? True, I did not get good examination of my mother's vagina, and honestly, I don't really want to (regardless of the advice in "The mirror within"), I don't think seeing it would want me to lust after guys, but who knows?

Actually the part in Dr. D's advice that disturbs me the most is that men are "suppose" to like rough and tumble and I guess girls aren't. Which seems to me that you are setting yourself up to view that "real" men like it rough (which I guess excludes the billionaire Bill Gates and the thoerist Stephen Hawkings) - in which case, why not do a 1950's and beat em occasionally - if you are teaching them that men have to take thier knocks and love it, then why not link love and those knocks directly together? The idea that there are no striaght men who don't like a full body tackle? Please.

And personally, since the gay men I know all tend to be a bit obsessed with size like Dr. D is, I think the whole shower technique is a great training for insecurities in striaght men and lust and desire in gay youth (since we all know that striaght or gay, men are obsessed about the length of thier "manhood" - you can insult thier momma, but don't you call "it" small!)

 

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He can even take his son with him into the shower, where the boy cannot help but notice that Dad has a penis, just like his, only bigger.

Does this horrify anybody else?

What about this horrifies you? It's perfectly natural for little boys to look to their father's and see similarities in the human body. They even notice similarities to their mothers to some extent, though little girls tend to pay more attention to their mother's body. My son showered with his father, from the time he was an infant. He even showered with me when he was an infant. By the time he was a year and a half, I was no longer taking him to the shower with me, but his daddy was taking him. I also bathed him, as most mothers do, and so did his father. He saw his father nude on many occasions, and though I am a very modest person, he has definitely seen me in my underwear, though not lately.

It is you, the adult, who sexualizes these things, not the child. It is the molester who sexualizes a parent's right to parent the child, which includes bathing them or even showering with them, dressing them, etc. There is nothing sexual about this behavior unless you're a molester, and/or Michael Jackson. Many people who have been molested as children would see this behavior as frightening. It would set off alarms for them, and that's understandable. Perhaps they wouldn't feel comfortable showering with their children, and they shouldn't, if this sort of thing makes them think sexual thoughts, or frightens them. Not everybody is a pervert, and the majority of parents are caring, loving, persons who would never harm their child. We don't need permission from others on how to raise our children, nor do we need directives on what is appropriate and what is not appropriate. The government needs to stay out of personal family issues, and so do strangers. Unless a child is being abused in some way, people should mind their own business. What is right for one person, doesn't have to be right for another. I wouldn't assume that you weren't a good parent if you didn't shower with your child, and you shouldn't assume that I am, or that my husband was, simply because we showered with our son.

Btw, I do enjoy Dr. Dobson's books and interviews occasionally. He is a human, which means he's capable of failing, but that doesn't mean that everything he suggests is wrong. The idea that somebody could take something he says, and attempt to call him dangerous, is ridiculous. He has a certain parenting style that many people have found helpful over the last 30 years, and simply because some disagree, doesn't negate his abilities to reach others. It's not his fault if you don't understand that people are different, and different doesn't mean wrong. Gosh.... I thought all liberal minded people had a grasp on that already.

 

[Jet Black]

Adiya, any chance of contextual relevance to the OP?

 

[ottaia]

QUIC,

Here is your link http://news.tbo.com/news/MGBV5C523BE.html This should make it easier for others to find this article. This is the result when the rhetoric of Dr. D. is used in a homophobic world.

 

[ChristianCenturion]

Adiya, any chance of contextual relevance to the OP?

That is directing it "at the person" and has no relevance to the OP.
I was able to understand her context and relevance.

 

[Rochir]

Does this horrify anybody else?

Definitely!

 

[ChristianCenturion]

Definitely!

So... does anyone here in the overly worried group have some evidence to support their gymnophobia?

 

[Bevlina]

Closing for Staff Review.