Preferring the single life, but having those "moments"?

[Jonaitis]

At least you have a job. I don't even have that.

I know a lot of Christian women who don't work actually...

 

[MariaJLM]

I know a lot of Christian women who don't work actually...

Those women are probably married, though, thus have spousal support.

 

[Jonaitis]

Those women are probably married, though, thus have spousal support.

Well yeah

 

[MariaJLM]

Well yeah

Well, now do you see the problem? I'm single(willingly) with almost no income.

 

[Jonaitis]

Well, now do you see the problem? I'm single(willingly) with almost no income.

Yeah, that is a problem. What will you do?

 

[MariaJLM]

Yeah, that is a problem. What will you do?

Just do what I've been doing for the past several years I suppose: essentially survive off scraps.

 

[Jonaitis]

Just do what I've been doing for the past several years I suppose: essentially survive off scraps.

But seriously, do you have to? What prevents you from working?

 

[MariaJLM]

But seriously, do you have to? What prevents you from working?

Mental illness, yet I can't go on disability either. It's extremely difficult to get on it where I am.

 

[Tokitee]

Well...I hope you guys find peace

Sending you hugs, goodnight!

 

[CodyFaith]

Yeah, it would be nice to have companionship.

I have to admit, it sucks to see people that I had a crush on growing up, having families and getting married.
I'm over here, trying to say anything besides....I have a job! Yay... :\

My exes are all getting married and having babies... and I'm just here like "How did I watch 2 seasons of a netflix show this quickly?"

The struggle is real for Christian singles lol

 

[ProGoddess]

I guess whether married or remain single has its own set of problems, issues and moments. It is known to everyone that there are many children who are being badly abused - physically and emotionally - by their parents. Then we have husbands and wives quarrel and fight day and night, and some went overboard to the extent of committing a murder or one party killing him/her-self, and some even bring their children along to die together.

In the past, we have wives and children being sold to the slavery market like some livestock and cattle. Then in recent past and even in the present of certain countries, some parents sold their children for money to satisfy their selfish habits like drinking and gambling. Those children were then being forced into prostitution or sold to some wealthy sicko pedophiles as sex slaves or amputating their limbs, maimed them, or anything for the purpose of turning them into beggars... and the list goes on.

In any case, human relationship is very complex and so hard to handle and maintain. Without God at the midst of it, that life we seek may not go well and even crumble.

The Lord teaches us in His Word:-

Proverbs 14:30, "A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones."

1 Corinthians 13:4-7, "4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

Let's look unto the Lord for our needs and I believe He will provide the best for us.

Take care, and blessings!

 

[Joined2krist]

I am amazed at seeing people I never imagined being married, getting married or already have children!

Why would you never imagine them married?

 

[Joined2krist]

I don't normally struggle with this, since I am pretty much an extreme introvert. But there are these times where I begin to want to go out and engage someone out of some strange passion for companionship. I become an extrovert in no time

I think you need some good friends or simply a pet to care for, these can help a lot with companionship. There are also females looking for companionship too, have you tried online dating?

 

[Sir Robbins]

I went the celibacy route because sex drive was merely non existent but the companionship thing is. It kind of sucks. I too am fine on my own almost all day, every day. It's at night and the morning that hurts. Also, days off hurt sometimes. I won't compromise on kids or "you know what" so I guess I'm screwed (not literally obviously). Oh well....

 

[ProGoddess]

I went the celibacy route because sex drive was merely non existent but the companionship thing is. It kind of sucks. I too am fine on my own almost all day, every day. It's at night and the morning that hurts. Also, days off hurt sometimes. I won't compromise on kids or "you know what" so I guess I'm screwed (not literally obviously). Oh well....

You aren't screwed, not really.... just having different desires and wants in life.

I don't think everyone who gets married just purely for sex, though it is a part of marriage life. Or just to have children. There are many things in life that we can seek for.

Humans are by nature social beings. We do need companionship. That's why we can feel lonely at times.

We all have our down time...

 

[GospelS]

I went the celibacy route because sex drive was merely non existent but the companionship thing is. It kind of sucks. I too am fine on my own almost all day, every day. It's at night and the morning that hurts. Also, days off hurt sometimes. I won't compromise on kids or "you know what" so I guess I'm screwed (not literally obviously). Oh well....

Same. I won’t compromise on kids either. And I’m not screwed.

 

[Lybrah]

It is strange, for most of the time I don't think too much about being in a relationship as they seem like a passing thought whenever someone brings it up. But then there are those moments that occasionally, if not rarely, come around where I begin to contemplate and yearn for it. What is up with that? When those moment come, it is like I develop a desperate feeling inside of wanting to go out of my way and be flirtatious. But normally, such feelings are dead and not so compulsive and I could care less about it.

Do you experience this same thing?

I do. Though as I am getting older and am losing any good looks I had I find it sad because I don't want to flirt. Who would find a middle aged woman attractive? I'm not that pretty anymore.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

It is strange, for most of the time I don't think too much about being in a relationship as they seem like a passing thought whenever someone brings it up. But then there are those moments that occasionally, if not rarely, come around where I begin to contemplate and yearn for it. What is up with that? When those moment come, it is like I develop a desperate feeling inside of wanting to go out of my way and be flirtatious. But normally, such feelings are dead and not so compulsive and I could care less about it.

Do you experience this same thing?

Yeah, it's called being human. Not much more to it than that.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I do. Though as I am getting older and am losing any good looks I had I find it sad because I don't want to flirt. Who would find a middle aged woman attractive? I'm not that pretty anymore.

Hm, it's concerning that you say that about yourself. Ever thought on working on your self-esteem?

 

[Jonaitis]

I do. Though as I am getting older and am losing any good looks I had I find it sad because I don't want to flirt. Who would find a middle aged woman attractive? I'm not that pretty anymore.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so you never really know who may meet and when.