I'm a male and I've been best friends to a lesbian for a few years on and off and I've been trying to be there for her, to take her places she needed to go or give her money for things she needed to get because she hasn't been employed for some a long time. I actually tried dating her a first but it didn't work out because no matter how good I am to her, she still prefers women. I really love her, and her family knows this, but I've held back my desires for her, to let her have her time and space.
It's not about me being with her, but in all the times I've talked to her about her lifestyle, nothing I've said seemed to ever click to her about the truth of her sexuality. She use to like guys when she was a teen she started liking girls and it was hard to resist. It gets real hard at times because I think most of her friends that she's known most of her life accept her as being a lesbian. I find this aggrevating, feeling like im the odd one out.
She always argues that she's not gonna stop liking women no matter what. I've recently done some thinking and praying and came to realize that her same sex attraction isn't the biggest issue, because we all might have our own lusts or temptations. It's that she doesn't need to act on her desires.
I know it's difficult for her to think that she has to live with her desires for the rest of her life witout acting out on them. I think that's why she just figures that that's who she will always be. I really feel sorry for her because I think she's confused. I'm praying that something will change for her.
It's not about me being with her, but in all the times I've talked to her about her lifestyle, nothing I've said seemed to ever click to her about the truth of her sexuality. She use to like guys when she was a teen she started liking girls and it was hard to resist. It gets real hard at times because I think most of her friends that she's known most of her life accept her as being a lesbian. I find this aggrevating, feeling like im the odd one out.
She always argues that she's not gonna stop liking women no matter what. I've recently done some thinking and praying and came to realize that her same sex attraction isn't the biggest issue, because we all might have our own lusts or temptations. It's that she doesn't need to act on her desires.
I know it's difficult for her to think that she has to live with her desires for the rest of her life witout acting out on them. I think that's why she just figures that that's who she will always be. I really feel sorry for her because I think she's confused. I'm praying that something will change for her.
