Praying for Ex's

[RightThing]

If your S.O. prays for their ex's would you guys feel wierded out. I guess I'm kind of insecure about that or jealous that she still gives him time of day.

What's your opinion on this? Everyone needs prayer...right?

 

[invisiblebabe]

Everyone does need prayer.... but sometimes praying for someone you used to have feelings for, is just an excuse to still hang onto what was.

Unless the ex in question is desperate, suicidal, or has nobody else to pray for him.... I think she should let others pray for him.

It's almost impossible to build the future when you still have ties from the past.

 

[redwing030]

I am happily married and have been with my husband for 4 years but I still on a regular basis pray for my ex-boyfriend. I guess I don't see much harm in it as long as it's an appropriate prayer (i.e. not praying that they'll come back in your love life or anything). I pray that he finds God and that he's safe and happy. I think I started praying for him while he was in Iraq. But now that he's showing interest in finding out more about Christianity I pray that he continues his search.

 

[pegatha]

I am happily married and have been with my husband for 4 years but I still on a regular basis pray for my ex-boyfriend. I guess I don't see much harm in it as long as it's an appropriate prayer (i.e. not praying that they'll come back in your love life or anything). I pray that he finds God and that he's safe and happy. I think I started praying for him while he was in Iraq. But now that he's showing interest in finding out more about Christianity I pray that he continues his search.

I agree with this.

I also think that if there's an anger issue with the ex, or there are any hard feelings left over from the relationship, praying for him or her is important to your own spiritual welfare. I've found that praying for someone I'm angry at (not an ex, in my case, but the principle's the same) helps me to forgive. It keeps my anger at the offender from becoming a barrier between God and me.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I am happily married and have been with my husband for 4 years but I still on a regular basis pray for my ex-boyfriend. I guess I don't see much harm in it as long as it's an appropriate prayer (i.e. not praying that they'll come back in your love life or anything). I pray that he finds God and that he's safe and happy. I think I started praying for him while he was in Iraq. But now that he's showing interest in finding out more about Christianity I pray that he continues his search.

In my opinion, this would fall under the category of "desperate"... 'cause after all, everyone who does not know Christ is indeed desperate for Truth. Also, anyone in Iraq certainly could use all the prayer they can get.

Keep praying

 

[lady_of_god]

I don't think its anything wrong with praying for an ex.... however it depends on the circumstances. If he is just praying and there is nothing wrong or they don't even speak anymore than he maybe praying for something more than her well-being if you know what i'm saying.

But if she has come to him for prayer, or he feels in his spirit something is seriously wrong then sure he should pray. Hope that makes sense.

-Lady.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

I used to pray for my ex - that he'd find happiness, be blessed in his marriage (seeing it was quite soon after our breakup), and that he'd find what he was looking for.

It helped me get over him once and for all - I couldn't hold onto anger towards someone I was praying for!

I would be talking to your SO and asking why they do this - what they are using this for?

Discuss your feelings about it, and I hope you can come to a compromise. There were various things my FH did in regards to his ex that I felt very insecure about, and it was only when we discussed it and came to a compromise that considered both his and my feelings, that it got good closure and we could live without me resenting him feeling like this.

Don't put it off - discuss the reasons with your SO ASAP, and explain your feelings.

Sasch

 

[girlofgrace727]

i'm not in a relationship right now, nor am I married..but I do pray for my ex..we are still good friends, and well, I have no other guy in my life romantically, so its no biggie

 

[bliz]

Not only is it OK to pray for an ex, I think it is required. I also think it is the healthiest thing to do. None of us can ignore our pasts, whatever they were. This is someone who once was important to your SO. Perhaps it would help you put things in perspective if you started praying for him as well.

 

[B®ent]

I agree with Bliz, and I think you should be praying for her, too.

What are your motives in this relationship?