Praying for a Date

Thanks for the responses everyone. You all have been helpful and encouraging

Here is an update:

After the past few days not talking to him and praying about things, God led me to realize that my b/f and I have been moving too fast and we need to slow down and just take our time with things. We've both been going through transitions in our lives with jobs and school and everything, and although we've managed to become close, I know we need to still continue to build our friendship. Which is what my b/f was saying tonight when we talked. He said that he wants us to really be ready for a serious relationship before we just jump into one and he wants it to mean something and not be something we are rushing into because of the strong feelings we have.

I think this is what has been missing in our relationship. Taking things a bit more slowly I think is a good idea. Not that I want to break up with him, but I do feel we need to focus more on building our friendship and remembering that above all we are friends. It's good to know he's on the same page. Some advice I gave here and to friends was that you don't want a relationship to be rushed because it's so much more enjoyable and you'll really be able to build a strong foundation for possible marriage if you take things slowly and don't rush things. Should have taken my own advice much earlier!

I want to be able to be the kind of woman God wants me to be as much as possible before I make such a huge commitment like marriage, so even if my b/f is the man I will marry, I want to be ready and to make sure I'm the woman he needs and vice versa with him. He has talked alot about how it's important to work on yourself and to make sure you are becoming the person God wants you to be otherwise a relationship will not work (he is a wise person and he is a Godly man, just not perfect at relationships, but neither am I). His parents divorced when he was 16 and they had a lot of issues. He doesn't want his marriage to be like that and I think that's part of the reason he wants to make sure this is done right.

It's really hard to just say "oh I'm wasting my time" and just leave it at that. I've spent nine months getting to know this guy and he's part of my life, even if he does not take me out as often as he should. A lot of Christian men talk about how guys should do this and that and should treat girls this way or that way and tell women what we should expect. However, how many of you have actually been in a long term relationship? Sorry to be blunt. But, unless you have gone out there and put your words into action and have known what all is entailed in a relationship, I don't think you know what should be expected.

I'm not a picky person. Flowers and romance and all that stuff is great and wonderful. If you do those things for your g/f good for you, but just because someone isn't a perfect romeo doesn't mean they aren't worth getting to know.

I think it's time I leave this in God's hands and quit turning to CF for advice. No offense guys, but sometimes it just seems some people here, and single Christians in general, have this idealistic picture of what a relationship is about.

Sorry. Thanks for the prayers. I am under A LOT of pressure and stress. And the crazy part is I don't get a break. I go from semester to semester trying to finish school on top of all the other poop happening in my life. Not that it excuses being angry with you guys.