Prayers Please

[KristyAnne]

I am letting my ex stay with us for a few weeks, as he doesn't know anyone else in our city, and has just started a new job. I'm giving him a few weeks to save up bond and then move out. I've told him the exact date he has to be out by.

He is making things rather difficult at times by being a jerk. He is an alcoholic who has his good and bad days, and unfortunately I'm a convenient target on his bad days (verbal and emotional abuse). Kicking him out early is not an option, I want to at least give him a fighting chance with his new job and to save up for a place of his own.

I just need some prayers for the both of us. Prayers for me to be able to put aside my decidely un-Christian thoughts about where he can shove his disgusting and uncalled for comments, and to try to be more patient. I am feeling too angry and hurt to pray for him myself, but if you could also pray that he will feel God's love, and allow Him to guide him onto the right path, that would be great.

Thank you all. God Bless.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

I will pray for you, but please maks sure you take care of yourself first.

I have no experience with this kind of situation but I'll tell you what I would do. I would set very specific rules that he is to follow if he wants to stay at your home. If he breaks them then kick him out without feeling bad for him because he chose that road. And have zero tollerance for his bad behaviour. Sometimes God works through us to help others, if you really want to help your ex then help him become a better christian by teaching him how to treat others.

Take care and keep us updated.

 

[Gimpy]

I am sorry, I know you probably still love him, but an alchoholic is an alchoholic. Even if he manages to keep this job, how long is it going to last? Dont be a co-dependant. I know its hard to let someone you care about struggle and watch them pay for their way of life, but he is only going to make you pay for his way of life. For your own sake, if he doesnt go into treatment, none of it is worth it. I have know to many alchoholics in my life and drug addicts. They are the same. Its just that some are a little worse than others. Dont do it. I will pray for you though and that all goes well for you.
Pray and get Gods guidance.
God Bless you

 

[KristyAnne]

Thanks for the replies, guys.

Gimpy, I totally agree with what you said, but I definitely don't want to get back together with him, I didn't mean for it to come across that way. He is sleeping in my daughters room while she is sharing my bed, there is nothing going on between us, and there never will be again, I am very firm in my decision on this. I have been there, done that too many times with him to believe any of his promises.

I have given him until the start of February to save up, then that's it. I just need prayers to get through it in the meantime.

 

[madison1101]

I would not let him drink in my home, or verbally abuse me in my home. I would kick his butt to the curb and not look back. It is your home and he is a guest. Set boundaries and stick to them. He is responsible for his behavior. Tell him to get his butt to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting and not to drink while he is staying in your home. He can drink all he wants when he gets his own place. You are letting him abuse you, and you deserve better than that.