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Hi,

I know this is not the prayer area but I figure I would do this here because of I am a young adult. If you really don't think this applies then you can move it.

Going to a party today with my parents (no I am not a little kid, I live with my parents, I am 23) I ducked out after about 30 min and awkwardly made up a story that I had to be somewhere else when I didn't. Why did I leave a party with good people who were talkative? Because I am horrible in social situations, even though I have this huge desire to meet new people because I don't have many friends right now.

My whole life I have always felt nervous and very uncomfortable in social settings with people I dont know. Is it because I am uncomfortable with myself? Probably somewhat but I dont that's the whole story. I would say that I have felt rather lonely the past 2 years on and off. I don't need a relationship right now but the people I hang out with (okay 1 guy only) are just as negative as me and really could use some prayer about feeling alone.

I think I need to see a therapist or something.

If you read this far, I appreciate it.

If you have anything to add, feel free to. Have a nice day.

Jon
 

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Well its hard for me to say how extensive it is as to if its just something you need to work at or if it goes so far that you need therapy.

If its not that extensive then its a matter of crossing your comfort zone a little bit and doing it step by step until you suddenly realize that you are very comfortable around people.
 
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Hi,

I know this is not the prayer area but I figure I would do this here because of I am a young adult. If you really don't think this applies then you can move it.

Going to a party today with my parents (no I am not a little kid, I live with my parents, I am 23) I ducked out after about 30 min and awkwardly made up a story that I had to be somewhere else when I didn't. Why did I leave a party with good people who were talkative? Because I am horrible in social situations, even though I have this huge desire to meet new people because I don't have many friends right now.

My whole life I have always felt nervous and very uncomfortable in social settings with people I dont know. Is it because I am uncomfortable with myself? Probably somewhat but I dont that's the whole story. I would say that I have felt rather lonely the past 2 years on and off. I don't need a relationship right now but the people I hang out with (okay 1 guy only) are just as negative as me and really could use some prayer about feeling alone.

I think I need to see a therapist or something.

If you read this far, I appreciate it.

If you have anything to add, feel free to. Have a nice day.

Jon

I said a prayer for you. It couldn't hurt to see a therapist; it is very possible that you could have social anxiety. If so, that can be helped. It will not happen overnight, however. I've dealt with severe anxiety issues myself and it took a long time but I've made a lot of progress.
 
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Not sure if you're referring to me? I didn't do it on my own; I went to a professional and did systematic desensitisization to make anxiety more manageable for myself. I had a very severe anxiety disorder, though. If you don't think yours is severe then you could probably just deal with it yourself like Luther said.
 
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