prayer request

[Tcelt12]

Please pray for me..
Iam currently praise/worship leader at my church.My older brother is The senior Pastor.his wife co-pastors.both his sons attend ,and their families,as well as my wife and daughter,and our parents.
last night as we were attempting to rehearse a song,my sister in law walked up to the stage and waved some pictures at my nephew(who was singing beside me).he stopped singing and said "let me see those",and proceeded to look at the pictures.I stopped the group and said,"practice is over".i could not believe what these two did right in the middle of our practice.i walked off the stage and put my guitar in its case and said,''this is not a joke(meaning trying to practice).my nephew (who is 21 or so) told me i was the joke.i told him he had a big mouth,and walked out.
I try to believe that God has called me and my family to this church(they have been there 20 plus years,we have been there five years),and have received much positive feedback since i began leading the music,but i feel like my family is taking me for granted.it is very painful to have your flesh and blood act like this towards you,but tell you that they're glad you are there.
Iam considering leaving with my family.i really am confused over whether or not God has placed us here.we seem to be tolerated,but not really liked,or included.ministering with your actual in laws is not easy,i am finding out.it seems my nephew at least thinks i am a joke.and i feel confused about what the others really think.they would say they love us,but i do not know.i am weary of the tension.and i do not want to stay in a place where there will just be alot of underlying strife and resentment.me and my family seem to be outsiders within my own family,if that makes sense.has anyone had any experiences along these lines ? does anyone know what its like to minister alongside so many family members? please pray for me. thank you.

 

[Kyleg40]

Well the scriptures state that a prophet is never welcomed in own home town..I think its why I never went back home and ministered publicly there..

 

[tturt]

When we believe God wants us in a particular church, then you'll need to check with Him and see if it's His will for us to leave.

How long have you been the praise and worship leader?
This situation you posted, it is common or was it a one shot thing?

What did your nephew mean when he said "i was the joke?" Were they trying to get you to not take the practise so seriously? Is everyone in the choir suppose to be there? In other words, is everyone in the choir saved? Is everyone a volunteer or have a calling on their lives to be in the choir or both?

posted: "not really liked" We are who God says we are.

Are practise sessions started and ended with prayer? Instead of focusing on ourselves and other choir members, is there an attitude of focusing on the Lord while practising?

If you believe the Lord is directing you to stay in this church, then I would meet with the senior pastor to establish with him if you are to continue as the praise and worship leader. If so, then establish some steps where he reenforces his support of you in this role.

Praying that the Lord will reveal to you where you're to be in church and what your role is to be.

 

[Tcelt12]

I have been the praise leader for about two years.this was the first time with my nephew,but we have a regular problem with people showing up late,and a couple of them,i have to constantly get their attention to what i am trying to do at practice.they (as well as i ) are all volunteers.it is a very frustrating situation,i can tell you.my pastor says i am learning to be a minister,and he says he believes i am definitely called to the position.

 

[CindyisHis]

They do need to undersatnd you are in authority when you are leading. Without proper order, and with strife in the camp, the anointing will be affected.

That was a good question tturt asked about prayer before practice. It will make a difference. It only takes a few to ask the Lord to move among you as you yield yourselves to Him in worship. We should be worshiping to honor Him, not to show our talent. When our eyes on Him we will want to see Him glorified. We'll get a check in our spirit when we step out of line like both the one who showed the pictures and your nephew did.

Interestingly, at our church, our pastor's wife leads praise and worship, and even though he is senior pastor, and her husband, he very rarely usurps her authority at practice, whenever he is there. Sometimes he plays the keyboard (if there's a need) and he flows as the Spirit moves, or as his wife takes the lead. Whomever he gives charge of something to, he lets them lead, and follows himself. Of course if there were a reason he shouldn't, if the person were heading the wrong way, I've no doubt he would kindly instruct him, or remove him if necessary. But I tell you, at our church there is much grace extended when a person's has a right spirit.

I would meet with the pastor if I were you, after prayer, and share your dilemma. Pray together. Do what the Lord says.

 

[Tcelt12]

Thank you for your advice.the problem (or challenge)is that these people are all my family members as well.i regret letting my nephew join the team.

Has ANYONE out there ever been involved in ministry with their family ??

 

[CindyisHis]

Thank you for your advice.the problem (or challenge)is that these people are all my family members as well.i regret letting my nephew join the team.

Has ANYONE out there ever been involved in ministry with their family ??

Yes, but our story is great one. I'm happy we have no problems, but I'm sorry I can't relate.

 

[petlover]

I will be praying for you.

 

[irenemcg]

I will keep you in prayer. I pray the Lord will guide you and your family on this. I have never quite been in your situation, so I can't fully relate either, but praying for you in your situation.