Prayer for Peace and Restored Sanity

[Karin12414]

Hello guys, I really hope you are all doing well. I apologize in advanced for the length, but I need to get this off my chest..

My family has had one of the hardest weeks we've had in a long time... Long story short, my husband's brother, who just turned 18, assaulted their mom.. He has been paranoid and accusing her of using Meth. She admitted to me that she used to, but that she has not in years, but he was so convinced that he forced her down to check her pockets and found nothing but Pixie-Stix wrappers that she picked up for my daughter.(BTW, he is 6 foot 2 inches while his mom stands at 4 FEET)

First off, I don't care what he thought his mom was doing, NOTHING warrants that response! I don't care if there was Meth in her pocket! She is almost half his size and he knows she can't possibly defend herself!

My mother-in-law stayed with us during Christmas for a few days, and we all hoped the drama would be over and he would be remorseful, but he isn't.. He feels totally justified.. To the point that his mom asked him if she would be safe to come home, and his response was "are you going to keep making this a problem?" Not "I'm sorry" or "you're right". He basically promised to do it again!

My husband has done everything in his power to allow his mom to handle it, because she asked that of him. But last night it all just exploded.. My husband tried to fight him and, of course, he hid inside behind his dad. OH YEAH! and his dad is defending him! NOT HIS OWN WIFE THAT WAS ASSAULTED!

We are at a complete loss here.. I mean, they both truly believe that they did nothing wrong and that all of this drama was caused by my mother-in-law... Worst part is, she is starting to try and rationalize their UNACCEPTABLE behavior..

My poor husband is so lost right now.. he wants nothing to do with either of them, and has completely taken away any permission for them to have a relationship with our 3 year old daughter. I completely agree with my husband and support him.. but that doesn't change the fact that all of this sucks and shouldn't be this way...

When you become an adult, you have to face the hard truth that your parents aren't perfect.. but what are you supposed to do when they show you exactly how horrible they really are?

My husband is so hurt and angry.. his mom is trying to make things work.. but if that involves her accepting the blame and the way they treated her (When again, she has not committed the crime she is being accused of), is it even worth the effort? They won't accept any responsibility in this.. how is that fair to her?

My mother-in-law has been there for us through so much.. she is the primary one to watch our daughter while we work.. she is basically raising her.. why would we trust her with our daughter if she was as horrible as these pigs claim?!? There were times I felt I couldn't talk to my own family, and she was there for me.. I am so deeply hurt that anyone would do something like this to her.. let alone her own son... and for her husband to not stick up for her.. that just makes me sick to my stomach..

Thank you for reading through my rant.. this has just been too much of a week..

I'm just at a complete loss here guys.. if you have anything to say, it will be greatly appreciated.. but other than that, please pray for all of them..

 

[Tone]

Give them (the boys) some time...I'm sure that it was done out of fear, because you mentioned that your mother in law used to do meth. Her son must've been hurt by this, which is why he acted like that when he suspected she may have started up again. Just because they don't show the pain and remorse doesn't mean it's not there...he is probably crying when no one is looking. Give them the benefit of the doubt. I know firsthand the grip that meth. can have and the destruction it wreaks and I'm sure your brother in law and father in law have reason to fear. The fear and hurt can manifest in anger and in, as your brother in law did, going overboard. What he did to his mom is disrespectful and I don't condone it, but he's a hurt kid so be patient with him. Yah bless your family, I have prayed for them.

 

[Karin12414]

Give them (the boys) some time...I'm sure that it was done out of fear, because you mentioned that your mother in law used to do meth. Her son must've been hurt by this, which is why he acted like that when he suspected she may have started up again. Just because they don't show the pain and remorse doesn't mean it's not there...he is probably crying when no one is looking. Give them the benefit of the doubt. I know firsthand the grip that meth. can have and the destruction it wreaks and I'm sure your brother in law and father in law have reason to fear. The fear and hurt can manifest in anger and in, as your brother in law did, going overboard. What he did to his mom is disrespectful and I don't condone it, but he's a hurt kid so be patient with him. Yah bless your family, I have prayed for them.

I appreciate your response, but I just can't agree.

I've known this family for over 10 years now. It was not my mother-in-laws addiction. My father-in-law was known around these parts as the "Ice King". My brother-in-law knows this, yet he never said anything to his dad, whom I have suspected and personally seen have the stuff numerous times (I was an addict myself when I was a teen, so I KNOW the signs).

No, he chose to pick on a tiny old lady because he knew she couldn't fight back. Even when he had ZERO proof. And, if he has a problem with it, he can leave! He chose the 4 foot woman over the 6 foot 3 inch man, because he KNOWS he can win against her.

I also disagree that they feel remorse. We gave them the benefit of the doubt and chances to apologize, but when a woman asks if she will be safe to come home, and you can not say "yes" and "I was out of line", you are not sorry. If you can stand there and tell her "why" you did what you did and not be able to promise her it won't happen again, you're not sorry. If you can watch your son assault your elderly wife and then say "you ruined everything" afterwards, YOU ARE NOT SORRY. They lost the "benefit of the doubt".

This woman was a Veteran in our Army. She was a Nurse, she became a stay at home mom to raise her two sons and now to help raise my daughter. She doesn't deserve any of this.

Those two BOYS are disgusting trash, and until they understand what they did and feel genuine remorse, AND until they spend the rest of their lives repaying that woman for what they put her through, that's all they will ever be.

 

[Tone]

Oh okay, yeah, you know better than I do...you have all the info.

May Abba Yah bring peace to this situation, in Yahshua ha Mashiach. Amen.

 

[Karin12414]

Oh okay, yeah, you know better than I do...you have all the info.

May Abba Yah bring peace to this situation, in Yahshua ha Mashiach. Amen.

Thank you.. I'm sorry for getting worked up.. this whole thing has me completely messed up.. none of my frustration or anger is meant for you.. I hope you can forgive me for that..

 

[Tone]

Thank you.. I'm sorry for getting worked up.. this whole thing has me completely messed up.. none of my frustration or anger is meant for you.. I hope you can forgive me for that..

Done.

 

[faroukfarouk]

Hello guys, I really hope you are all doing well. I apologize in advanced for the length, but I need to get this off my chest..

My family has had one of the hardest weeks we've had in a long time... Long story short, my husband's brother, who just turned 18, assaulted their mom.. He has been paranoid and accusing her of using Meth. She admitted to me that she used to, but that she has not in years, but he was so convinced that he forced her down to check her pockets and found nothing but Pixie-Stix wrappers that she picked up for my daughter.(BTW, he is 6 foot 2 inches while his mom stands at 4 FEET)

First off, I don't care what he thought his mom was doing, NOTHING warrants that response! I don't care if there was Meth in her pocket! She is almost half his size and he knows she can't possibly defend herself!

My mother-in-law stayed with us during Christmas for a few days, and we all hoped the drama would be over and he would be remorseful, but he isn't.. He feels totally justified.. To the point that his mom asked him if she would be safe to come home, and his response was "are you going to keep making this a problem?" Not "I'm sorry" or "you're right". He basically promised to do it again!

My husband has done everything in his power to allow his mom to handle it, because she asked that of him. But last night it all just exploded.. My husband tried to fight him and, of course, he hid inside behind his dad. OH YEAH! and his dad is defending him! NOT HIS OWN WIFE THAT WAS ASSAULTED!

We are at a complete loss here.. I mean, they both truly believe that they did nothing wrong and that all of this drama was caused by my mother-in-law... Worst part is, she is starting to try and rationalize their UNACCEPTABLE behavior..

My poor husband is so lost right now.. he wants nothing to do with either of them, and has completely taken away any permission for them to have a relationship with our 3 year old daughter. I completely agree with my husband and support him.. but that doesn't change the fact that all of this sucks and shouldn't be this way...

When you become an adult, you have to face the hard truth that your parents aren't perfect.. but what are you supposed to do when they show you exactly how horrible they really are?

My husband is so hurt and angry.. his mom is trying to make things work.. but if that involves her accepting the blame and the way they treated her (When again, she has not committed the crime she is being accused of), is it even worth the effort? They won't accept any responsibility in this.. how is that fair to her?

My mother-in-law has been there for us through so much.. she is the primary one to watch our daughter while we work.. she is basically raising her.. why would we trust her with our daughter if she was as horrible as these pigs claim?!? There were times I felt I couldn't talk to my own family, and she was there for me.. I am so deeply hurt that anyone would do something like this to her.. let alone her own son... and for her husband to not stick up for her.. that just makes me sick to my stomach..

Thank you for reading through my rant.. this has just been too much of a week..

I'm just at a complete loss here guys.. if you have anything to say, it will be greatly appreciated.. but other than that, please pray for all of them..

@Karin12414 So sorry; keep praying; and let other family members see the order and peace of your lives.

"Drop Thy sweet dews of quietness
Till all our strivings cease,
Take from our lives the strain and stress,
And let our ordered lives confess
The beauty of Thy peace."

(John Greenleaf Whittier)

John 14.27.

 

[Mydreams]

Lord bless this prayer request, in Jesus loving name, Amen!

 

[Karin12414]

Thank you all for your responses. Things seem to have calmed down, but my husband and I are still kind of stuck in this weird state. He's still very angry, and hurt.. So it's making him depressed.. I am doing all I can to keep his spirits up. Thank you for your prayers!

 

[Stephanie7]

I agree with you, no one should lay hands on another to hurt someone, especially a child on a parent

Heavenly Father, I pray that You will take this situation in Your Hands and bring emotional healing from the assault and abuse of this woman? Also heal her other son who stood up for her (good for him) and was also hurt by this situation. I ask LORD that You will convict those who took it upon themselves to punish, may they may feel remorseful and know in their hearts they did wrong? Heal all those that were hurt by what happened?, may they all be able to forgive one another, may love and respect in the family be restored, and may peace follow, In Jesus Name, Amen

 

[Karin12414]

I agree with you, no one should lay hands on another to hurt someone, especially a child on a parent

Heavenly Father, I pray that You will take this situation in Your Hands and bring emotional healing from the assault and abuse of this woman? Also heal her other son who stood up for her (good for him) and was also hurt by this situation. I ask LORD that You will convict those who took it upon themselves to punish, may they may feel remorseful and know in their hearts they did wrong? Heal all those that were hurt by what happened?, may they all be able to forgive one another, may love and respect in the family be restored, and may peace follow, In Jesus Name, Amen

Thank you so much!

 

[LoricaLady]

I pray for you and your husband to be given peace and wisdom on how to deal with any more such problems in the future. I pray for the other family to receive salvation, too.