Prayer... and advice... both would be appreciated

[Penguin50388]

Alright.. I'm not 100% sure on how to say this... but I'll do my best.

A friend of mine keeps on getting beat up by her little brother (she's 15, he's 14). Well anyways this girl keeps on getting abused... her parents won't do anything about it.. and she won't tell the authorities (she could take legal action about it... I asked some of my friends (cops and laywers)).. this girl comes from a bad environment... I mean she loves her family... but they are slowly killing her inside... she's not allowed to do anything but Church and school, and her little brother beats her to show off to his friends. Her older sister does weed... and also sleeps around some. The parents are letting the older sister's boy friend live in the house (and sleep in the same room as the older sister). That guy treats people like ****... oh he's nice to the parents because they let him live there, but the other people he treats bad.

I want to be able to help this girl. It's just that she won't let me do what needs to be done (call the cops... get her to move to a friends house... ect..) my friend and I have a place where she can stay for an indefinate amount of time.. but she wouldn't accept our help because it will show other people that stuff is wrong (she's pretty prideful)

This girl needs prayer more than anything... but if you can give me any advice on what to do I would greatly appreciate it.

 

[herev]

Hello Penguin, tough situation. I will pray for your friend. Here's the problem in a nutshell, if I understand it correctly. YOu believe she is being abused, but also believe that if you do something to stop the abuse, she will be angry with you. Is this correct?
All of the other issues are really not germaine to this issue, but could present a bigger problem.
You are sixteen, correct?
I would do this--really I would. I would go to YOUR parents and present your evidence to them and do what they say.
As a pastor, if I KNEW someone was being abused, I would be compelled by law to go to the authorities. That helps us pastors make the decision in that we have no choice but to get her some help.
You, as a friend, unfortunately are not under such a law, so you have to choose what to do wisely.
The other thing you could do is to anonymously talk to YOUR pastor. By anonymously, I mean without telling your pastor who this girl is--get advice there
Of course, most public agencies like social services allow for anonymous reporting as well.
I wish I could tell you more, but I recommend that you get an adult involved no matter what
God bless

 

[Penguin50388]

Hello Penguin, tough situation. I will pray for your friend. Here's the problem in a nutshell, if I understand it correctly. YOu believe she is being abused, but also believe that if you do something to stop the abuse, she will be angry with you. Is this correct?

She believes that she is being abused. And yeah if I try to do anything to help her I think that she would be mad at me. Knowing her she would not allow me to help her if she was mad at me... making another problem. I can deal with her being mad at me but, I want her safe.

You are sixteen, correct?

Yes I am.

I would do this--really I would. I would go to YOUR parents and present your evidence to them and do what they say.

their advice "Don't interfere with other people's families." But this girl is just as close as any member of my family.

The other thing you could do is to anonymously talk to YOUR pastor. By anonymously, I mean without telling your pastor who this girl is--get advice there

Now that's something I hadn't thought of... thanks... I'm going to make an appointment with my pastor for Wed. right after school.

God bless

God Bless you too... and thanks for the advice.