Pray for my relationship please..

[lynxfx]

Hi there, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months. We met through a mutual friend and have a lond distance relationship. We both met with similar previous relationships and identical struggles. We were both on a low and I believe we were brought together by God to pick each other up. After months of challenges and hurdles both our realtionships with God are where they should be, and a month ago a recieved a prophetic word that said I need to increase my faith and turst in God for him to truly bless us as a couple and move forward together.

After a hard summer I felt I was finally able to furfill this but I have just had the hardest weekend of my life. My girlfriend had been ill and just moved in to her new Uni house so she has been a bit of a wreck, i thought I shouldn't visit and let her settle in but she wanted to see me and I was totally missing her. Basically as she was in this state she treated me really abruptly, and showed harldy any compassion towards me. We both realised the situation and she has come up with this conclusion:

That God used this relationship to rebuild our faith, bring me closer to God and now that has happened she feels it may be time to be apart. This was exactely what happened with her X-boyfriend, and has said she has noticed so many parallels.

I still hold the prophecy close to my heart and is the reason for my current faith, but am beggining to think maybe this prohecy was wrong ? And am scared that if my relationship falls apart so will my faith because it will destroy my most powerfull testimony. She feels she needs to pray and get revelation from God, but have a feeling she has already decided to end it and make the wrong choice for both of us.

Neither of us are happy at this moment in time but I believe the last 8 months have built a foundation for us and she believes the complete opposite.

I love her, she loves me but says she may not be 'in love' with me.

Pray please and encourage me.

 

[MissKittyFantastico]

you have my prayers!!!

 

[Inperfected]

Whilst you have your thoughts on this situation, you have to come to the point of realising that she has free will. And what she wants to do with this relationship will happen.

Now, everyone thought me and my ex would marry, and I thought I'd heard it from God (I don't mean just friends but adults also.). But you see, he had the same change of heart, and whilst I tried to stop us breaking up, I really had no say in the matter.

Trust God to let the right thing happen. It worked for me as 2 years later I've just married, my ex's and my best friend. And the ex has a great relationship with me, so much he was my husbands best man Trust God cos you don't know everything

QUOTE: Let God be God, and man be man

 

[javan]

tough situation. i understand the need to see the prophesy fullfilled. i will be praying for you. let her do what she wants to do but encourage her in her faith as much as possible. is it possible she's bummed out about the long distance? may be God wants you two to get married now because it is time and long distance is not helpful to couples for long periods of time.

take care of her as your friend no matter what you do.

 

[everlast]

Hi lynxfx, this is a difficult situation because you both love each other, however it seems that the love is on different levels between the two of you as you pointed out she felt she wasnt "in love" with you, I always find it cruel how people can be with someone for a good amount of time then pull out the 'love' 'inlove' card at the most peculiar timing, this is real disheartening because its as if all that time was simply to help eachother feel better again, and who knows maybe it was as you said God brought the two of you to heal eachothers wounds, you know regain that self confidence, then once their back on their feet its time to move on, I dont know if this is the case but it sounds like that kind of situation, thats why it depends on how far you take the love..this could often times only end up hurting the other person who was unaware of the other persons real intentions. I really dont understand why she would push you away though, was their any event that may have triggered some distance between you all? Or was it the sheer fact that the long distance wasnt working out as planned. In any case ill pray for you man.

 

[sherri]

I got together with my last b/f because of prophesy. I'm absolutly serious. He was an awesome guy. So Godly and amazing and etc but I knew I wasn't ready. However I sought prayer over it from other people and got the green light from virtually everywhere. I'm not kidding, I got prophecies and encouragement into it 'from God' from at least 6 other people. All great christians. All genuine. Most in full time ministry. One from the actual pulpit - true.

I didn't get anything myself from God but I trusted them instead of my own judgement.

BAD move.

It didn't work out and we both got really hurt.

That was the hardest lesson I ever learned on trusting your own judgment and not listening to other peoples spiritual insight if it clashes with your own common sense or lack of peace.

You've got to get your own words from God. People make mistakes and the devil can really use a situation like that to shatter your faith in God and really hurt you.

Just be careful bro

 

[lynxfx]

Hi lynxfx, this is a difficult situation because you both love each other, however it seems that the love is on different levels between the two of you as you pointed out she felt she wasnt "in love" with you, I always find it cruel how people can be with someone for a good amount of time then pull out the 'love' 'inlove' card at the most peculiar timing, this is real disheartening because its as if all that time was simply to help eachother feel better again, and who knows maybe it was as you said God brought the two of you to heal eachothers wounds, you know regain that self confidence, then once their back on their feet its time to move on, I dont know if this is the case but it sounds like that kind of situation, thats why it depends on how far you take the love..this could often times only end up hurting the other person who was unaware of the other persons real intentions. I really dont understand why she would push you away though, was their any event that may have triggered some distance between you all? Or was it the sheer fact that the long distance wasnt working out as planned. In any case ill pray for you man.

Yes I believe through prayer and speaking to my pastor I have come to the right mind frame. Our relationship has never 100% been focused on God, and believe we either brake up as at the moment neither of us is happy or take a leap of faith with God, inviting him into our relationship and seeing if we are meant to be.