Potty training?

[The Gregorian]

I met the woman who is now my wife when her daughter was 2 years old. I absolutely hate changing diapers, and when we put our minds to it, got her potty trained very quickly (all positive reinforcement... giving her treats when she made it to the bathroom, etc). Our daughter is 4 1/2 now and she's made absolutely no progress as far as night time bathroom habits goes. She's very hyper when awake, but when she sleeps she's like a boulder... and even when I cut off liquids an hour before bed, have her pee right before bed... I come back 30-40 minutes later and she's already had an accident every single night. I take her to the bathroom, get her back into bed... and can come back another half hour later and she'll have had another accident.

Tried the potty watch that goes off every so often... but nothing can wake this girl up, so I have no idea what to do. Her mom apparently had similar problems until quite late, so she doesn't think there's any problem and isn't even attempting to help.

I know every kid's different and genetics can play into it... but even then, I'd expect at least a dry night every now and then. ... a dry hour perhaps? How can a kid be completely accident free in the day time by 2, and have this much trouble at night?


(By the way, she's very smart. By three, when it rained out and you asked her what was going on she'd proudly exclaim "It's precipitating!" ... and when you ask her "what's your favorite thing in the world?" ... her answer isn't puppies or ice cream... she perfectly enunciates "PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY!" ... it's hilarious.)

 

[CrystalBrooke]

If she's having accidents that close together then I'd take her to a doctor. For her to be wetting herself every half hour or so isn't normal. My daughter was fully trained during the day but wore a pull up at night for probably 3 or 4 more months because she also sleeps like a rock.

 

[The Gregorian]

Yea.... I was hoping for at least some improvement within 3 or 4 months... we're talking 2 years and she still doesn't even notice when she's had an accident (at night). Because of the frequency, my wife wants her to wear pull ups to bed.... but that seems to me like it'll make it even more difficult for her body to tell because those are designed to keep the wearer as comfortable as possible.... and I assume the problem is that having an accident should be uncomfortable enough to wake her up and not just ignore.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

Right, which is why I think it'd be a good idea to let a doctor check her out. My mom used a type of training pants on me that didn't soak up any moisture at all. They were like a plastic type of material. Wal*Mart still sells them. Just put them on over top of her regular panties. The sheets and blankets won't be able to absorb any pee either because it won't be able to leak out onto the bed.

 

[The Gregorian]

Right, which is why I think it'd be a good idea to let a doctor check her out. My mom used a type of training pants on me that didn't soak up any moisture at all. They were like a plastic type of material. Wal*Mart still sells them. Just put them on over top of her regular panties. The sheets and blankets won't be able to absorb any pee either because it won't be able to leak out onto the bed.

makes sense, I'll look into it.

 

[melissamagnus]

my 5 year old still wets the bed, and my older 2 did it until they were 6, so your not the only one I dont have an answer for you, but a doctor checkup is a good idea in case there is something wrong, a UTI infection can cause them to go really often. otherwise, they do grow out of it eventually! i have heard of special blankets you can buy on the internet that have a alarm go off when the bed is wet, so the child will wake up straight away, apparantly waking them up encourages the habit of waking up when they need to go. best of luck.

 

[mamawolf]

i wished i knew but i dont my 5 year and my 4 year old were behind in training and are back to having accidents in the day alot of them

 

[gracefulone1980]

Your daughter is still very young. It's very common for 4 year olds to have accidents. They just get so busy that they forget to go. My son is four, potty trained at 2 and just started having accidents. I have to really keep on top of him for the potty during the day. I wouldn't be concerned about night time accidents. My daughter only stopped having them at age 6, but my oldest daughter stopped at about 4.5. Bladders mature on their own schedule.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

Yea.... I was hoping for at least some improvement within 3 or 4 months... we're talking 2 years and she still doesn't even notice when she's had an accident (at night). Because of the frequency, my wife wants her to wear pull ups to bed.... but that seems to me like it'll make it even more difficult for her body to tell because those are designed to keep the wearer as comfortable as possible.... and I assume the problem is that having an accident should be uncomfortable enough to wake her up and not just ignore.

She might have a week bladder or something.My nephews almost 4 years old and doesn't wet the bed.Also he wore pull ups to bed,untill he didn't pee,when he was a sleep.If u can aford them,then put them on,she's not ready to be potty trained at night.Not worth the hassle of taking the sheets,blanket and what ever u have to do,to keep the bed dry.My nephew goes all night,not having to go to the bathroom.That's probably why he doesn't wet the bed.

 

[BeanMak]

Staying dry at night is also a function of hormone secretion as well as waking to recognize a full bladder. The 95% of children will be fully dry by the age of TEN. Many children develop this hormone between the ages of two and six years old, others between six and the end of puberty, and some not at all. I suggest not stressing too much. It will come.

 

[mamawolf]

Staying dry at night is also a function of hormone secretion as well as waking to recognize a full bladder. The 95% of children will be fully dry by the age of TEN. Many children develop this hormone between the ages of two and six years old, others between six and the end of puberty, and some not at all. I suggest not stressing too much. It will come.

thnk you this helps me out to

 

[The Gregorian]

My nephew goes all night,not having to go to the bathroom.That's probably why he doesn't wet the bed.

Most helpful advice.... ever.

 

[MessianicMommy]

Definitely agree with Beanmak.

You may find this book helps. They discuss potty related issues and the age of 4 in it, as well as night time potty issues in passing.

http://www.amazon.com/Your-Four-Year-Old-Louise-Bates-Ames/dp/0440506751

I know ya'll are probably tired of me passing on their books, but I find they're far superior, even for them being "old" than most of the modern books.

Choose your hard. Do you want to keep taking her every couple hours at the beginning of the night, or wait until she can do it on her own?

 

[Kimberly09]

It is a personal choice, but one of the things I tried with my daughter was going commando

It took her a few times of wetting herself to where she realized she did not like the feeling. So every 15-20 minutes I would sit her on the potty, sometimes she would go and sometimes she wouldn't. I had her potty trained in about 2 weeks! Then every time she would go on the potty she got a reward!

I will try the same thing with my youngest if my other options do not seem to work.

Good Luck!

 

[gods prophetess]

id say if she is having that many accidents you need to take her to the doctor thats not normal for this i dont believe be encouraged keep the

faith ill be praying for youll

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

It is a personal choice, but one of the things I tried with my daughter was going commando

It took her a few times of wetting herself to where she realized she did not like the feeling. So every 15-20 minutes I would sit her on the potty, sometimes she would go and sometimes she wouldn't. I had her potty trained in about 2 weeks! Then every time she would go on the potty she got a reward!

I will try the same thing with my youngest if my other options do not seem to work.

Good Luck!

That's what my grandparents did with my mom,she still pee'd on the mattress until she out grew it,around 10.They allowed her to sleep with this mattress for years and didn't care about the smell.So it didn't work for her,so I would never try that.

 

[lynnbeau]

My son is 8 and he had problems with bedwetting as well as leaking urine during the day. Chiropractic appts helped with daytime leakage (he had no idea it was happening but would be embarrassed, frustrated and ashamed when he saw the wet on his pants). He wore goodnites at bedtime - he is a deep sleeper. I bought a 'wet-stop3' device for him - the alarm goes off when he pees a little bit. He wakes up and goes to the toilet. It can be a bit cumbersome as the sensor goes on the underwear and the alarm (connected by a cord) is attached to pj top. It is secured by a magnet, which can become unattached with rolling around. However, with diligence and persistence, my son is now free of his 'device' and rarely wets the bed now.
My youngest daughter is a different problem and she is being treated through a pediatrician. She has encopresis. This affects the bowels as well and the bladder - she is 6. She wear pull-ups when we go out somewhere and goodnites at night. We homeschool, so at least she is not shamed about her condition in a school setting.

 

[Kimberly09]

That's what my grandparents did with my mom,she still pee'd on the mattress until she out grew it,around 10.They allowed her to sleep with this mattress for years and didn't care about the smell.So it didn't work for her,so I would never try that.

Well, that is why I stated it was a personal choice. Instead of knocking ideas, I tried all the advice and suggestions that I received to see what worked and what did not. Clearly, if my child did not continue to progress and the same accidents kept happening nightly and she was not getting the hang of it, I would indeed try something different. Some children continue to wet the bed until they are much older, that is an indication of other problems, not just unable to be potty trained. If my daughter were still wetting the bed at 10, I would take her to the doctor to seek other treatment options.

For my daughter, since she was in diapers she hated the feeling of being dirty or wet. I never tried pull ups, because to me they were still like a diaper. So after 2 weeks of her having accidents in her "big girl" panties, I tried the commando idea, and it worked. I was not suggesting that it worked on everyone.

 

[dessydell]

Yes every child has different genetics and health structure also. Potty training is always necessary after 2 years you have to trained your baby for potty in bathroom instead of changing diaper.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

Yes every child has different genetics and health structure also. Potty training is always necessary after 2 years you have to trained your baby for potty in bathroom instead of changing diaper.

He said the child was potty trained train, except she wets the bed.