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Potty training

Linnis

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My Grandmother warns me against early potty training. She did so with my Father and older of my two uncles and it backfired they wet the bed until they were 11-12 years old. She waited until her youngest was ready and he stopped wetting the bed at 4.

I'm getting flack because my son is "still" in diapers. He'll get there I'm not willing to hold him on the potty however long it takes or he screams until he pees like its been suggested I do. I can't force the kid to go like eating I can provide but he has to choose to do it.
 
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My grama is 96 and told me that training at 9 months was not normal when she was raising kids.


I disagree with this, because it wasn't hard or painful for my kids to potty train closer to 3... they trained in 2 days because they were fully aware of what they were doing and were completely ready.
well my grandma isnt 96 she is only 80, maybe thats the difference, its a different generation:cool:
 
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The reason many kids are trained later is not only because of being in nappies/dipers. Many children and babies are being saved these days that would normally have died in birth or shortly after. Only the strongest used to survive and strongest would most probably be physically ready earlier than those that need a bit of help. Blanket statements are not overly useful or true. I've only just finished toilet training my daughter and she is almost 4. Seeing she couldn't even crawl at 18 months she wouldn't have been able to potty train, each child is different and must be catered to accordingly.

Also some prep work would help. Has your son ever seen you or your partner go to the toilet? Let him watch and see what it is all about with whichever parent feels most comfortable showing.
Has your son ever seen his own poo? I know it sounds horrible, but start showing him (at a distance of course) the contents of his nappy so that it takes the mystery out of it and sees is as a natural part of life and not something dirty and taboo. It is not surprising that many children are hard to potty train to do poos because many of them have never seen their own poo or know what it is, or if they have seen it, it normally has been when they've discovered it and started playing with it only to hear mum scream and carry on... poo then = bad and not just a natural part of life.

I would work on doing these two things first and see how he reacts. I agree with what one mum said. YOU have to be ready too.
 
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I wait for my children to want to train...I tried forcing it with my oldest because he was 2 and I wanted him trained...didn't happen...he finally trained closer to 3 when he was ready to do it. My youngest he trained before he even turned 2 but it was his choice..he saw others using the potty and he wanted to try...he trained in 3 days! When your child is truly ready you will know because he will show interest in training.
 
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I can answer mostly yes to those. :) We're still part time EC'ing and it's been great.
He loves his potty and crawls to it if he's in the room and needs to go. Sure he needs help getting his diaper off to do it, but he does. He's actually shown interest in the potty for 2 months since he goes in there with both of us parents when we have to go (he gets into trouble if we aren't in the room)... It's really up to the parent what they do though. :)
 
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