PLEASE KNOW THAT THE FOLLOWING SECTION DESCRIBES WHAT HAPPENED TO ME LAST NIGHT! PLEASE DO NOT READ IF YOU CANNOT HANDLE THIS!
My hubby suffers with depression and it comes out as anger. IMHO he wants to be in control, but not responsible, wants to be a little boy still and even his counselor say he acts like a "bad little boy" when issues come up between us. We will be married 25 years this June. For much of that time he was, IMHO, verbally abusive to me and controlling. I got angry and hit him once and he hit me back. He does not define anything as abuse but hitting. He went through a major change (I believe a miracle from God) when I finally stepped up and kicked him our when he had my son on the floor in a fight and was trying to force him to do something and I remember him hitting my son. My son and he remember a different hit than the one I remember. This was about 4 years ago. We got into an ugly verbal fight last night and so I left the house (my second time that day) when he told me I was a horrible person. I came back to quickly grab my cell phone and a few other necessities (my meds, underwear, pj's) That was a mistake, he cornered me in the bedroom and would not get out of the way. I pulled out my cell phone to call 911 and he grabbed me and was trying to get my cell phone. He succeeded and back off enough I could get to the phone in the room but not out of the room. I picked up that phone and dialed 911. He demanded I put that phone down. I said give me my cell phone and I will (cause I knew they would call back and check in) He did and backed up slightly. He was still blocking my exit and put his feet on my clothes. When the phone rang I said you better get that and he left went to answer the phone and open the way so I grabbed my stuff and ran. I gave him time to settle down and returned to talk to him (I should have made him come to a public place) but he adamantly refuses to admit it was abuse as he says only hitting someone is abuse!!! I told him I would not put up with it and that it was assault and an offense I could press charges against if I choose to. Please pray for me to have wisdom and for the Holy Spirit to grab hold of his life and mind and thinking and help him to see beyond his anger. Please pray that I will see things clearly and be guided by God in my choices over the next few days. I know that God does not expect me to stay in abuse. Thank you!
Any comments are welcome. I am sorry for the detail and understand if you cannot read this post. I just think part of me wanted verification that trying to force me not to leave my own home by grabbing me and wrestling the phone out of my hand is truly abuse.
My hubby suffers with depression and it comes out as anger. IMHO he wants to be in control, but not responsible, wants to be a little boy still and even his counselor say he acts like a "bad little boy" when issues come up between us. We will be married 25 years this June. For much of that time he was, IMHO, verbally abusive to me and controlling. I got angry and hit him once and he hit me back. He does not define anything as abuse but hitting. He went through a major change (I believe a miracle from God) when I finally stepped up and kicked him our when he had my son on the floor in a fight and was trying to force him to do something and I remember him hitting my son. My son and he remember a different hit than the one I remember. This was about 4 years ago. We got into an ugly verbal fight last night and so I left the house (my second time that day) when he told me I was a horrible person. I came back to quickly grab my cell phone and a few other necessities (my meds, underwear, pj's) That was a mistake, he cornered me in the bedroom and would not get out of the way. I pulled out my cell phone to call 911 and he grabbed me and was trying to get my cell phone. He succeeded and back off enough I could get to the phone in the room but not out of the room. I picked up that phone and dialed 911. He demanded I put that phone down. I said give me my cell phone and I will (cause I knew they would call back and check in) He did and backed up slightly. He was still blocking my exit and put his feet on my clothes. When the phone rang I said you better get that and he left went to answer the phone and open the way so I grabbed my stuff and ran. I gave him time to settle down and returned to talk to him (I should have made him come to a public place) but he adamantly refuses to admit it was abuse as he says only hitting someone is abuse!!! I told him I would not put up with it and that it was assault and an offense I could press charges against if I choose to. Please pray for me to have wisdom and for the Holy Spirit to grab hold of his life and mind and thinking and help him to see beyond his anger. Please pray that I will see things clearly and be guided by God in my choices over the next few days. I know that God does not expect me to stay in abuse. Thank you!
Any comments are welcome. I am sorry for the detail and understand if you cannot read this post. I just think part of me wanted verification that trying to force me not to leave my own home by grabbing me and wrestling the phone out of my hand is truly abuse.
prayers, xo dee
