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Possible Proposal

Discussion in 'Requests for Christian Advice' started by KaraErin4673, Dec 18, 2009.

  1. KaraErin4673

    KaraErin4673 New Member

    In Relationship
    My boyfriend and I have known each other since we were children in the same elementary school. Years have passed and we've been great friends. Now things have turned into a relationship.
    Now, I have been dating him for four months, even though it feels like it should be years, since I've known him for that long. :D
    My parents have told me that he asked them on advice of marrying me. I'm a little shocked. I haven't thought about marriage really in my whole life. I've been focused on college and jobs and friends. I have prayed very hard about this for the past couple of weeks. I feel like God is telling me this may be the right thing for me.
    I do love him and could see us getting married and having a long life together. My parents keep telling me not to rush things. I figure if he wants to propose, he could, but I would wait a while before I got married, about a year, to see how we stick that out.
    This is not my first engagement, and my first one was for the wrong reasons. I know that, and I don't plan on making the same mistake, nor do I want to be hurt again.
    My boyfriend is a Christian, and shows love, respect, and is openly honest with me. What's more, he challenges me in my faith, and helps me stay strong with God by reminding me that He is in control.
    I just need prayers and advice on my next step. I think I know what God is telling me, but I just want to be certain.
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  2. Cassandra

    Cassandra Guest

    First off, congrats on finding a wonderful guy who wants to share his life with you! I'd say keep up with your studies and get your life together. There are a whole lot of responsibilities that go into decided to get married, let alone being married. I had friends who were engaged for 4 years before deciding it was the right time to get married.

    In other words, I agree with your parents. Don't rush things.
  3. Scroll

    Scroll Newbie

    You say he's a Christian and challenges your faith. Heck, you got yourself a great guy. I'd say yes for the proposal but not yet for the marriage. Finish school first before getting married and having kids.

    *Gosh. I should be saying this to myself* ^_^ Thank God for letting me stumble in your thread.

    Good luck and keep praying about it.

    God bless.
  4. AngelicRose

    AngelicRose Regular Member

    Take your time with the engagement. I found that when I entered college, I ended up changing A LOT (God was refining me :) ) and you two may find out that these next couple of years will change the both of you a lot as well. I'm not saying it as a bad thing, but the majority of the couples who went into college together found that at the end they were two very different people.

    Of course, if you two do get married during college I'm sure you both will be dedicated to one another and find ways to make things work. It's wonderful that you two have that long friendship to fall back on. The friendship that I have with my beloved is what has helped us to keep going, in love.
  5. seashale76

    seashale76 Orthodox Christian and Unapologetic Iconodule

    Eastern Orthodox
    What AngelicRose said. I would definitely take my time if I were you. At the very least, if he ever proposes and you accept, I'd set the date for after you both graduated. It's harder being newly married, working, and going to school than you think. There's nothing wrong with getting married young IF you are both sensible, mature, and on the same page financially, religiously, etc. (which is rare these days- sadly).

    I've been married since I was 23 (that is quite young- especially when I look back at pictures) and I won't lie to you. I don't regret getting married when I did, but marriage hasn't always been easy. Go in with your eyes wide open. Definitely get pre-marital counseling.
  6. spidergains

    spidergains Well-Known Member

    These words illustrate wisdom beyond your years. It is the words that I don't read that makes me wonder. Do you love this young man or is he just a soothing bandaid for your wounded heart?

    Pray to Jesus to reveal this truth to you. Your boyfriend's love is not enough to make this relationship work. Your love is required also.
    Last edited: Dec 19, 2009
  7. live4grace

    live4grace Senior Member

    I will just tell you the story of my wife when it became clear I was serious about our relationship - unto marriage (though I hadn't proposed yet). She also had been through another relationship and told God she didn't want that again and asked God to take away this one. Instead of "removing" it, the Lord gave her peace. We were married about a year later. That was 27 years and 3 kids ago. It has been AWESOME!!

    So .. I'll pray for your peace because that's the best way for you to know what you are to do.