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This thought has been on my mind lately. I have a decent job making decent money. I have a budget, save a little, tithe, have life insurance in place, etc. I feel like I'm being financially responsible (I should hope so, I was a financial services major). Yet, I don't feel like I'm making enough to consider marriage. I actively trying to find a new job that pays more so I can afford a relationship.

Now, before I get written off as materialistic, I admit this much. I feel like I live pretty spartan. I haven't bought new shoes in a year. I've only bought dress shirts recently. I drive a 7 year old vehicle. I'm not a spendthrift. Where am I going with this? I don't know. There's so much I don't know about relationships. Case in point, the girl is broke up with over a year is now one of my best friends. That's how it goes with me. I guess with as much as I don't know about relatiuonships, I don't want money to be an issue.
 
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If you can track your spending for a month or two to see where it's all going to, you'll usually find corners that can be cut. But to me, it sounds like you are living a financially responsible life.

But what would affording a relationship mean to you? What expenditures would you consider to be relationship related? Dating/courting isn't always expensive. And there are some women out there that like to treat the man to a night out. (I'm taking a male friend, for lack of a better word, to a concert next month.) When it comes to marriage, you have combined income if your spouse is employed. That does ease that financial burden.
 
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Seriously, getting married has huge financial benefits (until you have kids of course).

Two incomes, one rent.
Cheaper car insurance.
Tax benefits.
Food is cheaper for two.
One set of bills.
Not to mention the fact that when you get married, everyone gives you stuff.

You sound like you're doing alright... definitely better than I am! I think that if you have a savings and are responsible with your money you will be fine.
 
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I drive a 20 year old vehicle Then again, I'm still a student.

Anyway, it sounds like you know more about relationships than most. Being best friends with an ex is a tough thing for most people to do - and if you are able to do that then you certainly must be doing something right!

Women are not as expensive as people like to joke about them being. They don't *need* a continuous supply of diamonds or expensive clothing or gourmet meals at fancy restaurants. Not all women spend like there is no tomorrow - many actually dislike shopping. If you can afford a place big enough for two people to live in, and roughly double your current food and clothing bills (probably wouldn't be quite double, but that's close enough) without difficulties then you probably don't have anything to worry about financially.
 
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Everyone I have a friendship with were priced like a Corvette. I would love to find a women who would enjoy not going to the local mega mall. It would seem they all enjoy shopping till you drop. I have yet to find one who would trade going to the mall for the lake or up to a park.
 
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They're out there, keep looking
 
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Dood! I will taking water skiing or biking or scuba diving, or hiking or camping over the freaking mall ANY day.
 
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