Plz plz plz Pray for my marriage!

[Chichi Perez]

Please pray for my marriage. Our names are Tanya and Ronnie. jsut a lot of pain and hurt that I am trying to get past. and please that I can have strength to carry on with all my responsibilities. im extremely frustrated because my husband has ADHD and bipolar depression and spends a lot of time away on his phone or playing video games while I do all the housework, plus work full time, plus am workign on my masters, plus we have two young children (2 &4), which I am the main person who cares for all their needs and cooking... It is a LOT, but I am trying really hard to just be respectful and submissive and not ask him for much but i get bitter often.. but I most of the time wish I can do everythign without being bitter and just being okay with him playing games while I work hard. I just wish I didnt mind.. that i could do everything with a smile.. but lately everything is just work work work work work that never ends and I hope he can soon decide to help with some chores or with the kids :/ I am not complaining. I am trying to do everthing right in the eyes of the Lord, but i am struggling and I hate my sin. I want to be a better wife.. more respectful and submissive and quiet.. but the circumstances make it very difficult for me... sometimes I just feel so neglected emotionally, but other days I understand hes just going through things himself... I want to be stronger with the workload so he can just relax and not have to worry about anything, but it also makes me exhausted that by the end of the night is am just so dead tired... I love my husband and he is an amazing person and husband and father and he needs prayers too.. just for our marriage and both our individual struggles. Prayer is powerful and I do appreciate anyone who prays for us. I thank you in advance, brothers and sisters in Christ and anyone who bothered to read this THANKYOU. i also appreciate anyone willing to just tell me that you hear me becuase I dont have friends so I dont have anyone to talk to like this and it means a lot to just be seen and heard. Thank you.

 

[tturt]

Tanya, So sorry that you are going through this. It is a lot just having small children can be very stressful.

Really glad you realize how important prayer is.

Understand Ronnie's health and other struggles make things difficult. It does sound like your husband is on overload too.

Ronnie's parents are his role models. See how they function. What type of home chores does his father do? Does his mother have to asks him to do something? Or is he the primary?

As far as yourself, some ideas are batch cooking with putting "dirty" dishes in dishwasher instead of the sink, having groceries delivered, clean up spills and messes quickly, make a schedule with the husband. (Never understood why women have to asks for help to do routine chores).You do the cooking and child care, so is cleaning, laundry, financial, andor shopping primarily his? Remembering we can't expect them to do something exactly like we do. Do you have family close? Would your parents or siblings come over and watch kids for a couple of hours or afternoon? Is it warm enough outside to asks Ronnie to take kids to play ball or while you do your most pressing item? That could be to do a family activity together.

Also, reading about how our food choices can greatly impact our mental health.

Daily will he teach the kids to pick up toys, throw their dirty clothes in the hamper and fold and put laundered clothes in the right place,, teach them to help prepare meals and straighten up afterwards and/or establish bedtime routine -baths, brush their teeth, gratitude and prayer time, and reading. Maybe he doesnt realize the many steps that are involved in each task. Remembering our kids at that age, we praised them often. They could have done a lot more than we thought at the time.

BTW, I dont expect posted responses to questions..Also, we went through a lot of the same issues. Know it is difficult. Our early married life would have been so much better if we had been able to sort it out sooner, easier. Sorry to say, I didnt wear a smile. One thing I did was get up at 4:30 BUT cutting out hrs of sleep nightly caused major problems down the road. Encourage you to forgive him - daily if needed. We did look to the Lord and He definitely helped us.

 

[Unqualified]

You are doing too much, but you are not superwoman.

 

[linux.poet]

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[Pop D.]

Heavenly Father, Holy is Your Name, we pray You will help Chichi and her family, as only You can, in the Name of Jesus. Amen and Amen.

 

[Dave Darling]

Please pray for my marriage. Our names are Tanya and Ronnie. jsut a lot of pain and hurt that I am trying to get past. and please that I can have strength to carry on with all my responsibilities. im extremely frustrated because my husband has ADHD and bipolar depression and spends a lot of time away on his phone or playing video games while I do all the housework, plus work full time, plus am workign on my masters, plus we have two young children (2 &4), which I am the main person who cares for all their needs and cooking... It is a LOT, but I am trying really hard to just be respectful and submissive and not ask him for much but i get bitter often.. but I most of the time wish I can do everythign without being bitter and just being okay with him playing games while I work hard. I just wish I didnt mind.. that i could do everything with a smile.. but lately everything is just work work work work work that never ends and I hope he can soon decide to help with some chores or with the kids :/ I am not complaining. I am trying to do everthing right in the eyes of the Lord, but i am struggling and I hate my sin. I want to be a better wife.. more respectful and submissive and quiet.. but the circumstances make it very difficult for me... sometimes I just feel so neglected emotionally, but other days I understand hes just going through things himself... I want to be stronger with the workload so he can just relax and not have to worry about anything, but it also makes me exhausted that by the end of the night is am just so dead tired... I love my husband and he is an amazing person and husband and father and he needs prayers too.. just for our marriage and both our individual struggles. Prayer is powerful and I do appreciate anyone who prays for us. I thank you in advance, brothers and sisters in Christ and anyone who bothered to read this THANKYOU. i also appreciate anyone willing to just tell me that you hear me becuase I dont have friends so I dont have anyone to talk to like this and it means a lot to just be seen and heard. Thank you.

Praying now!

Lord God I lift up Tanya and Ronnie to You right now and I pray for Your intervention in their current situation and for the complete healing and restoration in their marriage and relationship. I pray for elimination of all emotional pain and trauma and for peace in their relationship. I also pray for a miracle healing for Ronnie from ADHD and bipolar disorder, I command all symptoms of mental illness to go right now in the name of Jesus! I pray for wisdom for both of them to work out any problems in their relationship and for the healing of their marriage and relationship! Thank You God!

 

[RileyG]

May God bless your marriage and may peace and love flow throughout your lives together!

In the name of Christ I pray, Amen!