Please someone help me

[theforgottenfallen]

I am not Christian but my girlfriend is shes very strongly Christian. I'm Scared that one day i will put in here a position of choosing between me and god and she will undoubtedly pick god. I dont know what i should do i tried believing but i cant because that would mean that i believe everyone I have ever loved who has died is burning in hell and i cant accept that. I have been soul searching but im so lost
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[AllTalkNoAction]

. . i cant because that would mean that i believe everyone I have ever loved who has died is burning in hell . . .
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No it wouldn't, people don't go to hell until after the second resurrection at the end of the millenium, then they don't have everlasting life in death, they are made to see their rejection and die.

You don't know the hearts of everyone you ever loved so you don't really know how they stand with God, but you can know how to be right so that if any of them are right you can see them again AND you can help those that are still alive AND be a real blessing to your girlfriend.

Do you want a relationship with the living God ?

 

[theforgottenfallen]

I dont know if i do want to it seems so cruel and evil.... everlasting torment and suffering no one no matter how evil deserves that. And how can there be a choice to salvation god knows everything so he would already know what you choose before you choose it... im so confused

 

[theforgottenfallen]

well if he already knows who's getting into heaven whats the point of everything and why did he create the people who aren't getting in

 

[AllTalkNoAction]

well if he already knows who's getting into heaven whats the point of everything and why did he create the people who aren't getting in

The point is that he gets people who want what's good and they had a real choice - they chose to love him instead of their own ideas - which do you choose ?

 

[theforgottenfallen]

What im saying is that god already knows what im going to choose. So if he knows im going to choose wrong whats the point of creating me. For that matter whats the point of creating any babies in other religions. They don't have a choice but to accept there religion.

 

[Criada]

God gives everyone a choice at some stage!
I don't understand how, but I know He is a loving God.
He says in His word that it is not His will for anyone to perish.
The only choice you can make is for yourself - you will have to leave everyone else to God.
He loves you.
He died for you.
He is calling you.
What are you going to choose?

 

[theforgottenfallen]

I dont know why but there no way i could abandon my friends. either they all go or i stay i think.

 

[Criada]

Make your own decision - then pray for your friends.
God can save them too - but you need to be in a position to tell them about Him as your loving Father!
He is saving my friends!
Some aren't there yet, but I trust Him to answer my prayers.
His timing is perfect - and now is your time!!

 

[theforgottenfallen]

Thank you for your kind words. But its how god made me so to speak, I care about my friends and loved ones more then i do my self.

 

[salida]

theforgottenfallen--

First, one must find out if the Bible is true or not. If you are interested there are a couple books - Evidence Demands A Verdict by Josh McDowell(which would stand up in court) and Examine the Evidence by Muncaster (a former athiest but now a christian).

If not - Then I would have a face to face discussion with your girlfriend. If she is a strong christian - then most likely she will choose God. People don't change their perspection about things by marrying them and/or being their girlfriend or boyfriend. This isn't reality.

I don't know your girlfriend obviously, but I wonder if she thinks she is going to change you somehow. People come to Christ by an individual and personal basis - no one is talked into this conversion concerning a long term (life time) commitment to God.

 

[theforgottenfallen]

the thing is i would convert for her i think if only to make her feel better

 

[Mary_Magdalene]

that wouldnt matter. God knows your heart. if you are "converting" to please another person, it is not true.

Come to Christ because you want to know Truth.

 

[theforgottenfallen]

what is the truth

 

[Criada]

Jesus said "I am the Way, the Truth and the Life."
If you are serious in your search for truth, read the gospels and ask Him to show you the truth of who He is.
Praying for you!

 

[theforgottenfallen]

i have tried asking but i got no reply.

 

[fellowshippingwithjesus]

i will be keeping you in my prayers as well.

 

[Criada]

i have tried asking but i got no reply.

Wait.
Keep reading.
Keep asking.
He will answer you.
Perhaps through people on this forum, or Christians you know.

 

[ReformedChapin]

Not that I want to sound like a close minded biggot but if your gf is such a strong Christian why is dating a none believer? And in order to accept Christ his word must become truth to you, it's no longer about you like or dont like it's about what God wants. Also if you are pretending to be a Christin for her, it will never work out it will end in a mess...I have seen it happen many times.

 

[Mary_Magdalene]

Jesus said "I am the Way, the Truth and the Life."
If you are serious in your search for truth, read the gospels and ask Him to show you the truth of who He is.
Praying for you!

COmpletely agree with this!

Read the bible with an open mind and pray that God will show you His Son as Savior!