Please read, very important! Should I make this promise to God?

[Animelover93]

If you struggle with an eating disorder, you may not want to read this.

I struggle with Binge Eating Disorder and it's absolutely taken over my life. It's a vicious cycle that I can't break out of. The only way I can really stick with recovery is making a promise to God that I will not give in to my disorder, and that I will let him have control over my addiction. I'm so scared to do so because I don't know if I'm just using God as a way to help me. I'm so scared to go without my disorder. I'm currently in therapy for this issue, but I haven't been sticking with it. I know what to do, I have all the coping skills in the world, I'm just not motivated to stick with it. But making promises to God helps me stick with it because I know I can't break a promise with God. I love God too much to just carelessly make promises knowing that I will break them, because I won't. But I need to know if I should make this promise. I'm so desperate to make it because I know I will have to stick with it. And the best thing for me to do right now is to give God my disorder. This addiction is killing my soul, as addiction is idolatry. I'm so guilty on the inside. I just need to know if I should make this promise or am I just using God to fulfill my needs? I'm so desperate for healing. Addiction is dangerous and separates us from God. I need to give it to God and the only way I can stick with it is to promise him. Because promises and very important and should never be broken.

 

[Tolworth John]

'm so scared to go without my disorder.

If you are not willing to deal with the reason for your disorder you will not overcome it.

Why are you scared of living with out an eating disorder?

Is it because it enables you to avoid interacting with people?

Please discuss this with your therapist and adopt a healthy lifestyle.

Suggestion try using worry beads or a lump of bluestack as a means of distracking yourself from your eating urges.

 

[Animelover93]

If you are not willing to deal with the reason for your disorder you will not overcome it.

Why are you scared of living with out an eating disorder?

Is it because it enables you to avoid interacting with people?

Please discuss this with your therapist and adopt a healthy lifestyle.

Suggestion try using worry beads or a lump of bluestack as a means of distracking yourself from your eating urges.

I'm scared of going without because that's the addiction cycle. But I am now willing to break the cycle. But besides all of that, my question was should I make the promise to God. That's the only way I can stay on track because i've always kept my promises

 

[PloverWing]

On some past occasions, when I was in a similar situation and made a similar promise to God, I wasn't strong enough, and I ended up breaking the promise. And then I had two problems instead of one.

I don't know what will work best for you. I'll suggest exploring the question with your therapist, to see if there are other approaches for helping you stick with your treatment.

Blessings to you. Addiction is a hard thing.

 

[trophy33]

... I ended up breaking the promise. And then I had two problems instead of one..

This.

 

[Tolworth John]

hat's the only way I can stay on track because i've always kept my promises

Then make a promise to yourself that you will follow the advise given by your therapist.

If you can't keep a promise to yourself, what makes you think you'll keep a promise to God?

 

[seeking.IAM]

On some past occasions, when I was in a similar situation and made a similar promise to God, I wasn't strong enough, and I ended up breaking the promise. And then I had two problems instead of one.

PloverWing speaks wisdom. The thing about promises and even therapy behavior contracts to do this or that is that lapses or failures to reach goals often result in guilt and self-recrimination which cause persons to feel even worse. I recommend you continue working with your therapist and do the best you can every day. I suspect God will be happy enough for that.

 

[eleos1954]

If you struggle with an eating disorder, you may not want to read this.

I struggle with Binge Eating Disorder and it's absolutely taken over my life. It's a vicious cycle that I can't break out of. The only way I can really stick with recovery is making a promise to God that I will not give in to my disorder, and that I will let him have control over my addiction. I'm so scared to do so because I don't know if I'm just using God as a way to help me. I'm so scared to go without my disorder. I'm currently in therapy for this issue, but I haven't been sticking with it. I know what to do, I have all the coping skills in the world, I'm just not motivated to stick with it. But making promises to God helps me stick with it because I know I can't break a promise with God. I love God too much to just carelessly make promises knowing that I will break them, because I won't. But I need to know if I should make this promise. I'm so desperate to make it because I know I will have to stick with it. And the best thing for me to do right now is to give God my disorder. This addiction is killing my soul, as addiction is idolatry. I'm so guilty on the inside. I just need to know if I should make this promise or am I just using God to fulfill my needs? I'm so desperate for healing. Addiction is dangerous and separates us from God. I need to give it to God and the only way I can stick with it is to promise him. Because promises and very important and should never be broken.

If you make a promise (especially to God) then it is expected to be kept.

Ask the Lord to help you with your addition would be a better choice.

 

[Gregory Thompson]

If you struggle with an eating disorder, you may not want to read this.

I struggle with Binge Eating Disorder and it's absolutely taken over my life. It's a vicious cycle that I can't break out of. The only way I can really stick with recovery is making a promise to God that I will not give in to my disorder, and that I will let him have control over my addiction. I'm so scared to do so because I don't know if I'm just using God as a way to help me. I'm so scared to go without my disorder. I'm currently in therapy for this issue, but I haven't been sticking with it. I know what to do, I have all the coping skills in the world, I'm just not motivated to stick with it. But making promises to God helps me stick with it because I know I can't break a promise with God. I love God too much to just carelessly make promises knowing that I will break them, because I won't. But I need to know if I should make this promise. I'm so desperate to make it because I know I will have to stick with it. And the best thing for me to do right now is to give God my disorder. This addiction is killing my soul, as addiction is idolatry. I'm so guilty on the inside. I just need to know if I should make this promise or am I just using God to fulfill my needs? I'm so desperate for healing. Addiction is dangerous and separates us from God. I need to give it to God and the only way I can stick with it is to promise him. Because promises and very important and should never be broken.

Making a promise to not do an addictive habit again, is part of the addictive cycle, you would be setting yourself up to fail.

 

[Aussie Pete]

If you struggle with an eating disorder, you may not want to read this.

I struggle with Binge Eating Disorder and it's absolutely taken over my life. It's a vicious cycle that I can't break out of. The only way I can really stick with recovery is making a promise to God that I will not give in to my disorder, and that I will let him have control over my addiction. I'm so scared to do so because I don't know if I'm just using God as a way to help me. I'm so scared to go without my disorder. I'm currently in therapy for this issue, but I haven't been sticking with it. I know what to do, I have all the coping skills in the world, I'm just not motivated to stick with it. But making promises to God helps me stick with it because I know I can't break a promise with God. I love God too much to just carelessly make promises knowing that I will break them, because I won't. But I need to know if I should make this promise. I'm so desperate to make it because I know I will have to stick with it. And the best thing for me to do right now is to give God my disorder. This addiction is killing my soul, as addiction is idolatry. I'm so guilty on the inside. I just need to know if I should make this promise or am I just using God to fulfill my needs? I'm so desperate for healing. Addiction is dangerous and separates us from God. I need to give it to God and the only way I can stick with it is to promise him. Because promises and very important and should never be broken.

Using God to fulfill your needs? He loves to meet His people's needs. God is the ultimate Giver. He gave us Jesus to be the answer to every need. God's problem is that there are not enough needy people to help! Or rather, people willing to let God help them.

The Bible says to cast our cares on Him because He cares for us. Have you read "Footprints in the sand" ? It says where at one time there were only one set of footprints, not two. When asked, God said that it was where He carried the person. I disagree with what "Footprints" is saying. We should only ever see one set of footprints as God carries us through life.

The choice is ours. We can depend on ourselves and live according to our natural abilities or we can depend on Jesus and His abilities. I know which works for me!

 

[timf]

It sounds like you are so desperate that you are willing to use the power of your faith as a tool to stiffen your resolve to fight this compulsion.

The problem is that we are not to make oaths and that you know that you will fail (something any of us would do0 which can then harm your faith as well.

It might be helpful to approach the problem from a different direction. If the basis for the compulsion is an indulgence paid for by some act, you might try to determine if there is a component of a feeling of control, a component of anxiety relief, or a component of pleasure seeking.

If you can identify the major component driving the addiction, you may be able to undercut it by working with an alternative. For example if you seek a pleasurable alternative, you might substitute a bubble bath when you would otherwise pig out.

 

[JAM2b]

We shouldn't make any promises. It's like an oath or a vow. Jesus said not to do that.

Matthew 5:33-37
33 “Again, you have heard that the ancients were told, ‘You shall not make false vows, but shall fulfill your vows to the Lord.’ 34 But I say to you, make no oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, 35 or by the earth, for it is the footstool of His feet, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. 36 Nor shall you make an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. 37 But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’; anything beyond these is of evil.

 

[BobRyan]

If you struggle with an eating disorder, you may not want to read this.

I struggle with Binge Eating Disorder and it's absolutely taken over my life. It's a vicious cycle that I can't break out of. The only way I can really stick with recovery is making a promise to God that I will not give in to my disorder, and that I will let him have control over my addiction. I'm so scared to do so because I don't know if I'm just using God as a way to help me. I'm so scared to go without my disorder. I'm currently in therapy for this issue, but I haven't been sticking with it. I know what to do, I have all the coping skills in the world, I'm just not motivated to stick with it. But making promises to God helps me stick with it because I know I can't break a promise with God. I love God too much to just carelessly make promises knowing that I will break them, because I won't. But I need to know if I should make this promise. I'm so desperate to make it because I know I will have to stick with it. And the best thing for me to do right now is to give God my disorder. This addiction is killing my soul, as addiction is idolatry. I'm so guilty on the inside. I just need to know if I should make this promise or am I just using God to fulfill my needs? I'm so desperate for healing. Addiction is dangerous and separates us from God. I need to give it to God and the only way I can stick with it is to promise him. Because promises and very important and should never be broken.

your over-eating addition is one that does not allow you to deny self - and is self-destructive. Making promises to God of that sort can also be a form of self-desctructive behavior in which case it is "more of the same".

you need to adopt healthy patterns.

1. With God - always call on him as your Father and friend - not your line judge as in 'I promise not to step over this line - and if I do - you are free to punish me". That is self destructive.

2. Put a small amount of food on your plate - then when finished - no matter how hungry you are - take a walk. Then 20 minutes later drink 1 or 2 cups of water. And only eat fruit at night for dinner. Use "exercise" like walking as your referee to break up the eating binging.

Set exercise goals for yourself.. like doing a bent-knee push up (or a setup) or leaning against a wall and doing a push-back.. no matter how poorly it is done it gives you a line in the sand and each day you can challenge yourself to improve it as you lose weight and gain strength.