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[sparkypunkette]

I am in love with my boyfriend, i have only known him for about 8 months, and been dating him for almost 5 months ( colllectively over a this period of knowing him. His and i relationship was unhealthy ( physicallly) for a month. I have been telling him i love him for like 3 months, and i am completely in love. He is 6 years older than me. I am almost 21. I really feel we were made to be with each other. Righ tnow things are amazing ( we also live 4.5 hours away at this point.) I feel like GOd for some weird reason made our relationship healthier than i ever thought it would be ( we are not going to kiss until engagement ( whenever- if- ever that will be ). I dont know, what are some things to know at this stage, or to discuss with him. I dont want to be engaged right now..but i do want it to be him. any feedback???

 

[karla]

When the relationship was physically unhealthy how much time were you spending together, were you 4.5 hours apart then? I would be very cautious with some who was physically abusive to me at one point. I am not saying that people can't change or that you should dump this guy, but I am saying that you need to be careful and know that your first priority is your safety. I know what it is like to be in love with someone and have them hurt you and I also know the pain of leaving someone that you love, but if he is "the guy" that God has planned for you then taking it slow won't change that.

 

[sparkypunkette]

okay...so he was not physically abusive.......we were just a little too physical. things are incredible now. No kissing at all. I dont really know what i am trying to ask acutally ...haha

 

[mamaneenie]

SOrry, I wrote something else, and then realised that you weren't talking about him beating you up. Glad we got that one sorted out. You were talking about having sex right?

Once you have started sleeping with someone it is very hard to stop. I would recommend that if you do decide you are going to get married, that you have a short engagement. My husband and I before we got married, slept together, and once you have opened that door it is very hard to close it again.

 

[katelyn]

I would say concentrate on getting to know him better as a person...get to know the type of things that they encourage you to find out in premarital counseling...future goals, family history, priorities, etc., etc. As you continue to learn more about each other, you will find out whether or not you would really want to be married to him.