Please read this, I need advice...

[buddy_holly]

The reality is that lack of love ruins everything in life.

A man that requires "financial stability" of his wife, lacks love, and spirituality as a whole.

Your thinking is too materialistic.

You are thinking too close minded. Love is very important. Otherwise the marriage wouldn't happen. But just because you love someone does not mean you have to absolutely marry someone. There are a host of things that must be in order to enter wedlock, love playing a big part, but nowhere near the only part. I've just been married in September, and I can tell you that I do love my wife. With all my heart. Unfortunately, to let the love flourish, and truly experience it, you must take care of the neccesities in life, food, clothing, shelter, etc... (see: maslow's heirchy).

I would never have proposed to my wife if we were not able to handle being together financially.

Please, just keep in mind that love is a big part of marriage, but nowhere near the only thing.

 

[buddy_holly]

I totally agree with everyone who said that you need to be financially stable before you get married!
Darkgreenmind: It's not that he doesn't love me, I'm quite sure he does if he wants to marry me but he loves me enough to push me to try and do things that are beneficial to me-and him.
But i guess i was just looking at it the wrong way. I talked with him last night and he told me that he's sorry if it sounded like he was nagging me, he just didn't want to see me in a position to have to rely on everyone else for money. And i don't want that for myself either, so I agree with him. But i asked him to stop making it the topic of everyone of our conversations and so he asked me to pay him back for paying my phone bill. lol. It serves me right. I need to be more responsible.

But thanks guys for all of your comments and stuff! You have been a big help!

You seem very mature, I am sure everything will work out the way you intend it to, knock on wood. Just make sure all the cards are in place before you take the plunge, because as they say, "'til death do us part".

 

[My Savior My God]

He loves you i bet!

 

[xJesus.Freakx]

You seem very mature, I am sure everything will work out the way you intend it to, knock on wood. Just make sure all the cards are in place before you take the plunge, because as they say, "'til death do us part".

Thanks Buddy! And, that's exactly one of the reasons that this is such a big deal for us, (being financially stable, that is) There are many parts that make up a marriage, and we want to make sure that all of them are met first. And God willing, our marriage will work! And it will be the greatest thing ever!!

Have you and your bf discuss both your views on different issues, and topics that go along with marriage? Do you guys have certain disagreements on certain things? The time to answer these questions is now if you are going to marry.

Yeah, we have...this was the guy who i wrote the bulletin about on my myspace about our breakup. But i need to update the whole story on that ha. Anyway we have talked a lot about topics that go along with marriage and every subject that comes up, we try and look in the bible to see what it says about that. And we hardly ever "fight" we get in arguments but they're always calm and we talk stuff out which is awesome!! I definitely think that we are both really compatible and I've prayed about marrying him before we even started dating haha. That is, i prayed that if he was the one that God set aside for me, then for God to show me and He has, time and time again!

Jesus.Freak, I love your profile picture by the way. It's really cool.

Thanks!! I loved that pic!