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[beth4Him]

I am a new member. I have been reading these forums over the past weeks. I finally have enough courage to join. I'd just like to ask all of you to PRAY. My husband of 8 years left for work on Oct. 4, 2004 and didn't come home. He did not leave a note or so goodbye to his 3 children. He was a Christian, but has over the past 2 years returned to a worldly life of beer and biker friends. He has since told me that he can't stand me and he is never coming home. I pray that God softens his heart and that he return to Jesus. I know my husband is hurting, we have had many trials over the past few years, and I have not been able to be supportive to him. My younger sister died and I was depressed. His business closed and that left him depressed. We were both hurting and unable to support each other. So as far as I know he left me to find comfort from his single, beer drinking, non-christian friends. Please pray for us. My children are so confused and so am I. I believe that God can help us, but I am afraid of my husbands free will and he will not allow the Holy Spirit to speak to him. Please Pray. I am tired and so heartbroken. I love him so much and want desperately to grow in the Lord with him and spend my life with him and my Creator.

 

[mghalpern]

I am a new member. I have been reading these forums over the past weeks. I finally have enough courage to join. I'd just like to ask all of you to PRAY. My husband of 8 years left for work on Oct. 4, 2004 and didn't come home. He did not leave a note or so goodbye to his 3 children. He was a Christian, but has over the past 2 years returned to a worldly life of beer and biker friends. He has since told me that he can't stand me and he is never coming home. I pray that God softens his heart and that he return to Jesus. I know my husband is hurting, we have had many trials over the past few years, and I have not been able to be supportive to him. My younger sister died and I was depressed. His business closed and that left him depressed. We were both hurting and unable to support each other. So as far as I know he left me to find comfort from his single, beer drinking, non-christian friends. Please pray for us. My children are so confused and so am I. I believe that God can help us, but I am afraid of my husbands free will and he will not allow the Holy Spirit to speak to him. Please Pray. I am tired and so heartbroken. I love him so much and want desperately to grow in the Lord with him and spend my life with him and my Creator.

beth4Him… I am so sorry to learn of your plight. I have a pretty good understanding of how you feel, as I have been separated from my wife since January 17, 2004, when she moved out. I am still heartbroken and love her more than any other human being on earth. I learned through this time that the only one I can count on not to fail me is Christ. I had to put (and continually put) this whole situation in His mighty hands. About two weeks ago, I received the first call in about three months from my wife and it was a very cordial conversation (first nice conversation in almost eleven months). You must remain focused on your Savior and of course care for your three children. I would suggest that you begin professional Christian counseling (hopefully by referral) as soon as possible. You are definitely not alone, though it feels that way sometimes. We are a community of believers…the Body of Christ…and we are here to support you to the best of our ability. Do realize that we are humans and not perfect; that you are on an Internet site, which opens this up to everyone with Internet access, so you may get all kinds of different advice. First take everything you read here to your Heavenly Father in prayer and then search His Word for confirmation if something sounds a bit strange. We will most certainly keep you in our prayers…Michael

 

[seekfirst]

My prayers are with you and your family. I can only imagine how hard it must be right now, but I am so thankful that you have our Lord to turn to. I pray during this time that you will become closer to Him, and grow in wisdom, love, and gain inner peace. I pray your husband will open his heart to God once again, and come home ready to restore your relationship. I also pray for your children, that they will be able to forgive their father, and heal from the pain that they are suffering with. Big (((hugs))).

 

[bkg]

It's hard to say anything helpful that Michael hasn't already covered. It's very hard to go through such a confusing event - one that makes no sense in our minds, our hearts or in what we understand of our God. I've been divorced just under 11 months, and I still have the same confusion and pain as I did when it happened. Turn this all over to God, and never stop praying. I hate to say it, but it will get harder before it gets better. I highly recommend checking out www.marriagehelponline.com and reading some of Dan and Erin's wonderful words... bkg

 

[beth4Him]

Thank you all so much for your wonderful words and advice. I do feel so alone. I cry constantly and even though my husband will not talk to me I still have FAITH. I know that God can raise people from the dead he can bring my Bobby home. AMEN. But like I said before, it is so frustrating and painful when you want something and the other person completely chooses to turn away from you. I just cannot understand how he could say he loved me a few months ago and then completely turn it around to I can't stand you and I never want to see you again. I guess that the confusion plays with me. I know I will never give up on my marriage and I pray constantly and know that this is Gods will for me. But how can we see clearly through the tears and confusion.
Again thanks for your words and I pray for all of you too. Specifically for restoration and renewed strength in our Saviour, our Redeemer, our Counsellor and now my husband Jesus Christ.