My boyfriend and I were going out for 16 months-everything was great. We thought we made the perfect partnership- we never argued and got on with each other, same values and morals and just everything clicked. We loved each other and saw each other most nearly everyday and if we didnt see each other we talked on the phone. Until 2 weeks ago... we had been at a number of family events- his cousins birthday where he introduced me to his extended family and joked he hoped we got on cause this was the family I was marrying into. the next day was my nephews baptism and famly lunch which he came to. Everything was fine and we were just happy as always. A couple of days later he rang me up saying we needed to talk. He said he loves me and cares for me dearly and hates hurting me but he thinks theres something missing. To me i thought we had the perfect relationship and he still has no idea what he is looking for. We were best friends as well as boyfriend and girlfriend and now i feel like im losing everything. From the moment I met him I knew that this was the man that God intended me to be with forever. I had been obedient and waited til i heard clearly. When i met my boyfriend though he wasn't a christian. He started coming to church and was intrigued by small group and now i think the think he is searching for is a deeper relationship with God. He had a really rough childhood and so with me its probably the first time hes felt loved. we started to deal with alot of things from his past and also help him find a job he liked more. but this has all just come so out the blue and i'm finding it really hard to cope because im sure our relationships is right. I've talked it over with my minister and she was sure that our relationship was 1 for good but had a picture for my boyfriend of a sheepdog and a shepherd rounding up the sheep. He still says he doesnt know whats missing but i cant find the right words to explain to him that no relationship will fill the void of God. He says he wants to get back together and maybe sometime down the line when he figures out whats wrong we can meet up and see how we feel but I'm just really struggling with patience. I know Gods hand is on the situation but I really need prayer to try and understand why this is all happening. We both want to be together but there is this thing stopping him... and now ive lost everything i was sure of- my boyfriend and my best friend. im at a loss about what to do.
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Hi Flo 
welcome to CF!
I feel for you in your situation
that heartache is hard to bear!
As confusing as it is, it is better he figures things out now, rather than later.
All you can do is give him some space, and pray for the Holy Spirit to enlighten you both re: God's will for your relationship.
My hubby and I broke off our engagement, only to get back 3 months later.
This past October we celebrated 37 years of marriage
So keep the faith, and trust in God's perfect will and Divine Providence for you both.
If you haven't already....You may get better responses if you also want support/advice by posting this in
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May God bless you ~ Be assured you have my prayers
welcome to CF!I feel for you in your situation
that heartache is hard to bear!As confusing as it is, it is better he figures things out now, rather than later.
All you can do is give him some space, and pray for the Holy Spirit to enlighten you both re: God's will for your relationship.
My hubby and I broke off our engagement, only to get back 3 months later.
This past October we celebrated 37 years of marriage
So keep the faith, and trust in God's perfect will and Divine Providence for you both.
If you haven't already....You may get better responses if you also want support/advice by posting this in
Life Stages , Women's Discussion or Christian Advice
May God bless you ~ Be assured you have my prayers
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Jeremiah 29:11 It's good!
Prayers for you to receive the wisdom you need in this relationship. Also that God grant you strength to wait. Praying that your boyfriend will get past his hesitancy and be able to do the right thing as God wills. 
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Aw, I'm sure that does hurt! Praying for both of you. Keep waiting on the Lord, and trusting Him even when you don't understand it. He knows what's best. There were times when I was sick and was mad and not getting any answers, but fast forward a couple of years I can see God had such wonderful purposes and a great plan for all that happened! Now I"m SO thankful for it! So hang in there.. it may not make sense right now, but keep trusting the Lord, He is faithful and trustworthy!
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