please pray for me

[girlscoutdropout]

ok, here's the deal.  i've been with this guy for over two years now.  i thought that he was the one for me, but i'm not so sure now.  he was the one who led me to God.  however, he's become incredibly selfish.  a little backround, his father is a bit on the abusive side, and also very selfish.  when i found this out, i was really careful not to fall into anything or fall in love with him too quickly, but there were no signs of an abusive personality.  in fact, he seemed to be very sensitive and giving.  we proceeded into a really nice relationship until we both went away to school.  it's been hard, but if you can get through the distance thing, you can get thorugh anything, right?  however lately, he's become slightly abusive, and just downright mean.  i don't mean that it's been full blown punches or i've been beat around, but it's been little things here and there.  i really need your help because i don't know what to do.  when things got rough in the past i prayed to God about what i should do, stay or go, and things always got better.  but now, i just feel so defeated that i don't know if i could.  i just ask for prayer for guidance in this relationship, and for strenth.

thank you all very much, and God bless.  i am very blessed to find a place like this and people like you.

 

[GodOwnsMe]

Father, please girlscoutdropout and her boyfriend and fix whatever needs to be. Please strengthen them, fill their heart with YOur love and peace and restore them both. Please protect and show especially gsdo what to do. In Jesus' name. Amen

 

[Mr.Cheese]

You need to not put up with so much as a flash of this.
I understand you have invested a lot into this. But this is not ok. This is never ok. It doesnt' matter if it's "just a little."
This guy, and many others, has a lot of growing up to do and a lot to learn. He's going to have to learn to deal with the behaviors he has learned from his dad.
In the meantime, you NEED to tell this guy to take a hike.
Abuse is serious and absolutely not cool.
Be glad you learned this now.
*hug*

 

[Camebk4God]

Cheese is right. We verbally abuse or wives/girlfriends enough to make it physcial is not any place you need to be. I once pushed my wife againist a wall when I was 15 i couldnt even look at her in the face it was pure shame, even had a tough time touching her for a period of time. She forgave me and I never again did anything like that, I couldnt live with myslef. But that is not the point you should have nothing to do with him, NOTHING. I hate to say this but those type of things tend to carry over, and as I always say there is an exception to the rule can he change, yes. Will he only God know, I dont adivise you stick around to see if he does or not but you will be in my prayers. If my wife or girlfriend at the time would have left I would have no one to blame but myself.

Warrior Poet

 

[nomad]

Praying for both of you.

 

[endure]

well,
pray about it, even if you dont have alot of energy or hope, just fall down before God ask him to help you, even if all you can say are a few words.

i know you probly dont want to do this, but you cant just allow him to be this way. i know he was probly a great guy, but people can change, he isnt right for doing any of this, dont think for a min that he has the right to do this or that you have kind of reason to endure this. you have to confront him about this and tell him how you feel, you cant allow yourself to be led around. if you dont make your own future, someone will make it for you, and it wont be what you like.
if you dont live your own life, youll simply be handed on, one that someone else didnt want.

i know you love him, and im not saying to leave him and not look back, but you have to confront this issue to still, simply becuase you love him, and you dont want him to be anything else except that person you feel in love with.
i know a girl who use to think i was the world, the sweetest guy to ever live, but overtime, i let her love for me go to my head, and i treated her like a real jerk, and i never really realised it untill she confronted me about it, im glad she was strong enough to stand up to even though she wanted to be with me.

you have to confront this, stay in prayer about it.
i remember paul saying this,
"be anxouis for nothing, but in everything let your petitions be made known unto God."

dont worry about anything, but pray about everything.

i know him being the one who led you to Christ gives him a great seat of respect in you, but really.
you have to follow God for yourselves, and sometimes, like it happened to me, even our mentors fall away.
i know it hurts, but sometimes we have to pull away from something that once fed us, to really complete the rest of our lives.
like a man leaving his father and mother, and taking a wife.
ya know?

 

[TryJesus]

Let me tell you, my wife and I went through the same situation you are going through. I had a terrible childhood because of my parents divorce when I was around 5 yrs old. No matter what, a child needs both father and mother's love. I was completely traumatised because of this when we got married. But I thank God that He gave me a good understanding wife. I also would like to tell you that we met in a blind date and and 6 months later we were married. We been married for 37 yrs..

Don't be afraid of accepting him as your husband.

 

[endure]

and dont you think you have to submit to him as is your duty as a wife, when he isnt loving you as his duty as the husband.
you dont have to take that. your Gods child too and God loves you just as much, he has no right to treat you wrong.

the bible says "he who despiseth, despiseth God"
and we are commanded to "increase in love more and more"

no one has the right to not walk in full love toward another person, becuase that person is Gods creation, anything unloving toward them is not done to that person only, but it is done to that persons father and creator, God.
people sin agaisnt God, when they treat you wrongly.
God never wills for any person to live in that atmosphere.