Please pray for me...

[MoeJangles]

Recently my wife has decided to leave me. Her behavior has been very strange lately. I have not understood why she would want to walk away from marriage. I found out just the other day, that she has been seeing another man (reason for walking away)...grass is always greener thing going on I guess. Anyway...I don't know which way is up anymore. I have been in a very dark place. I place my trust in God, but it is hard for me to understand why this has happened. I have always dedicated myself to our marriage. I have been faithful, loyal, caring and dedicated to my wifes happieness. At least that is what I thought...

 

[mostie]

I'm so sorry to hear about the problems you're having, I know that has to be devastating, especially if it happened and there were no suspicions to begin with- it's hard to prepare for something you don't know is even coming. My prayers for you in the healing of your marriage and your emotions. Maybe God will use this to somehow make your marriage even stronger--good luck to you~

 

[mikeforjesus]

Stuff like this angers me ... I hate when they have affairs its just too painful especially for the christian sensitive heart...
Im going to pray for you my brother but I want to say one thing...
Maybe she is not the one your meant to be with or maybe she is and she will come back and repent.. but if shes not God has a chosen perfect loyal virrtous woman in store for u.

Im going to leave u with this nice proverb of the virtuous woman.. I hope it doesnt produce in u what its not meant to.. u can try to be the virtuous man but by ur description it seems that u might already be.

(NKJV) Proverbs 31:1 "The words of King Lemuel, the utterance which his mother taught him: 2 What, my son? And what, son of my womb? And what, son of my vows? 3 Do not give your strength to women, Nor your ways to that which destroys kings. 4 [It is] not for kings, O Lemuel, [It is] not for kings to drink wine, Nor for princes intoxicating drink; 5 Lest they drink and forget the law, And pervert the justice of all the afflicted. 6 Give strong drink to him who is perishing, And wine to those who are bitter of heart. 7 Let him drink and forget his poverty, And remember his misery no more. 8 Open your mouth for the speechless, In the cause of all [who are] appointed to die. 9 Open your mouth, judge righteously, And plead the cause of the poor and needy. 10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth [is] far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. 13 She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar. 15 She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants. 16 She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. 17 She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms. 18 She perceives that her merchandise [is] good, And her lamp does not go out by night. 19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle. 20 She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household [is] clothed with scarlet. 22 She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing [is] fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells [them,] And supplies sashes for the merchants. 25 Strength and honor [are] her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come. 26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue [is] the law of kindness. 27 She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband [also,] and he praises her: 29 "Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all." 30 Charm [is] deceitful and beauty [is] passing, But a woman [who] fears the LORD, she shall be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates."

 

[MoeJangles]

Thank you all for your kindness. God bless you

 

[TheMainException]

When you go through something like that, it's hard to see how God can use that...but years from now...could be a while, you will be able to look back and see how things worked out so perfectly even though you spent a lot of time in pain....keep going man...keep going...God's got something planned for you...

 

[perfection]

Your wife doesn't deserve a great person like you. Although married she seems to be immature and selfish, you have to find the strenght to forgive her, and move on with your life. Don't blame yourself, as you did everything you possibly could have done , love however is a two way road, and if she doesn't love you anymore, then it's important for you take the measures that are necessary to prepare you for a life without your wife, although this is harder then expression in words can explain, but you need to pray to god and find the courage to move on into the future. Take actions ,move on and when you are ready get yourself a new wife, because quite frankly that's the only cure for the lonelyness. it is a shame that she is so without love and cold within her heart, but that's not your fault , and people have their own free will either to stay or to leave and i feel very sad for you that this has happend to you.
However be brave, and live for the enjoyment of the future, and not of the troublesome past, every new day brings new fresh sparkling oppertunities for you , and if you grab them your life can still work out perfectly.

Hoped that helped.

 

[Silent Enigma]

prayed 4 you

 

[Gumdrop71]

MoeJangles, it gets better. I will tell you what when my husband left me it was the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. It hurt so bad, my chest hurt. 12 years later my life is better. THERE IS LIFE AFTER DIVORCE!!!! It gets better, you never fully recover from a betrayal but life goes on.
I advise you to find a good supportive church group and don't be alone right now. Also, you have every right to feel angry hurt and betrayed, however don't grovel to your wife.
That is the worst thing you can do in this situation.
GEt an attorney and make it appear to her you are coping nicely with her behavior. Just thank-God she didn't bring you an STD from her "man".