Please Help!!!!

[Screamforjesus]

So i've been with this girl for going on three years now. and we had a discussion yesterday. and she told me that she cheated on in the first month of being together but never after that and she is seriously remorseful. i love her alot. i just feel like i wasnt good enough. she said she didnt tell me before because she didnt want to lose me and she regrets it everyday. what do i do?

 

[Catherine4Christ]

I believe that since she had apologized, you should forgive her. After all, we are supposed to, as children of God, act like Him and He forgives us no matter how bad we "screw up"

 

[Screamforjesus]

its just a hard thing to let go

 

[Tom2]

Find another girl.
Girls come and girls go. When you find the right one she'll stay and be faithful to you.

Although be advised, I'm 56 and never found the love of a woman and more than likely never will.
That's one reason I embrace Jesus Christ.

Actually love from anyone of the flesh is extremely elusive.

 

[Screamforjesus]

and on top of her telling me that i found out the next day my mom cant afford her cancer treatments so its an extremely rough time for me

 

[Bordamere]

I was in a very similar situation a few years ago and I forgave her. In my case this ended up backfiring and led to an awful stage of hate. Consider you have been together three years, I would feel that she is genuinely sorry about it and that you should forgive her. Just think about it, she could have never told you and you would never have known. If it really wasn't biting at her she probably would have not decided to tell you.

In then end it is your choice, and I will also say that lovely dovey feelings can cloud your reasoning. You know the full story and can make the best decision. I would just suggest leaning towards forgiveness, but if anything like this ever pops up again, like if she didn't tell you the full story or actually cheated on you another time, then end it right there. I know that is harsh, but it will save you emotional pain.

 

[ebob8b]

Jesus Christ forgave those who Crucified Him. You have the opportunity to forgive this girl for the deed she has done. Rest Assured, you will feel better after having done so. FORGIVE and make every effort to FORGET. Go with GOD.

Warm Christian Love, Bro Bob

 

[Tifegirl]

Forgive her as God forgives you and keep on being faithful

 

[prophecyistrue]

and on top of her telling me that i found out the next day my mom cant afford her cancer treatments so its an extremely rough time for me

there are alot of better treatments for cancer that cost next to nothing, the medical worlds treatments are basically unchanged for the 80 years, radiation and chemo.....both destroy your immune system.......u-tube Royal Rife and also Alternative cancer therapy, B17 (2 of 5) - G. E. Griffin - YouTube

 

[Screamforjesus]

i really appricate everyone taking the time to read this and give me extremely helpful advise

 

[Phoenix92885]

I want to start by saying I'm sorry your mom is battling cancer but keep your spirits up. I know *A LOT* of people who have won their battles with cancer. Most of that battle is positive thinking and determination.

As for your girlfriend. I believe everyone deserves a second chance. Obviously you were good enough for her since you guys have been together for 3 years! She must care for you deeply since she had the courage to tell you about her shameful deed and she respected you enough to tell you rather than keep it a secret. Love is something that you shouldn't let go of lightly. Tell her how it made you feel to hear it and you two should talk about what steps to take to move past this bump in the road.

I wish you two the best of luck!
Phoenix

 

[Nice Dream]

You know yourself and her better than i do, but it's easy to be deluded by love. By all means forgive her, but you're young and i don't think you should continue in this relationship. You won't ever forget that she cheated. Find someone who you can start fresh with without painful memories of cheating. I personally have stayed in a relationship where i was cheated on repeatedly and it's often hard to differenciate between being a forgiving person and being walked all over when you are in love. I don't think settling for someone who never thought you were worth being faithful to works very often.