I'm a gay man, but I am going to respond to what I like in a guy anyway.
My study is complete. I would like to thank everyone on this website who participated, and offer these brief self-scoring scales for the use of anyone interested. The study abstract is given below.
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Romantic Preferences QuestionnaireHeterosexual Women
This quick inventory is designed to measure womens preferences in men. For each item, put 3 for something you like, 2 if you cant decide or dont care, or 1 if its something you dont like.
Part 1: Turnons and Turnoffs
1. Bulging muscles 2
2. Small genitals 2 like it to be attached, basically
3. Delicate features 3 I have no idea what this means for a man
4. Black clothes 3
5. Very large genitals 3
6. Weak Chins 1
7. Theatrical clothing 3
8. Fair skin 2
9. Broad shoulders 3
Part 2: I like a man who is
10. Kind 3
11. Pretty in the face 3
12. Dangerous 1
13. Extremely tall 1
14. Educated 3
15. Young 2
16. Virile 3
Youre done! Now its time to score it:
Manly men or pretty boys?
Add your answers to questions 1, 5, 9, and 13, and subtract your answers to questions 3, 7, 11, and 15. If you scored 2 or more, you like big strong hairy men; if you scored -2 or less, you like elves and anime.
Bad boys or Nice guys?
Add your answers to 4, 8, 12, and 16; subtract 2, 6, 10, and 14. If you score 2 or more, youre into the rebel who wears dark shades and is too cool for school; if you score -2 or less, you want someone sweet and kind to look out for you.
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9-12=-3
So, I like elves and anime?
I guess I'm lost. It's interesting how men demand of women that regardless of their age, that they always look 20, while they feel free to often not manscape (hairy backs), wear jeans that rest far below their waist, often have wrinkled clothes and beer guts.
I like a guy who takes care of his body, but doesn't worship it. I like a guy who is nice guy, rather than someone who is so competitive that they need to one up everyone and gloat. I like someone who can be very deep but also watch The Tick. I like someone who is spiritual but not overly religious or a worshipper of doctrine and dogma. I like someone who can challenge me when he sees my limitations, rather than see it as an opportunity to condemn and exalt themselves. I like someone who knows what is going on in the world, and not just Hollywood gossip. I like someone who appreciates Shakespeare and Chopin as much as they do America's Next Top Model, 30 Rock, and The Black Eyed Peas. I like someone who is searching for Truth, rather than constantly claiming they have found it.
Physically, I tend to like guys my height. My physical attraction has changed over the years. I once like blonds, but after only seeing blonds for years in Minnesota, I prefer darker guys, brown hair, brown eyes, and darker colored skin, olive to chocolate.
But what really makes me want to meet them? The light that I see in their eyes. If they don't have it, I am not interested. Then, the beauty begins to fade as they talk. I start to see them as less handsome, as hollow, or even unattractive.
I often see people in my mind's eye. They either seem to be glowing, like a lantern, or they seem to be dim or even dark. I sense people's energy a lot, and that has a lot of effect on how I feel about them. When I talk to them, humility scores points, gentleness, a great sense of humor, someone who "gets me", and someone who seems to have one foot in the spirit world with the understanding that there is more to life than the physical, all are very attractive.
Being well dressed, well groomed, taking care of themselves, doing things in moderation, show that the person cares about themselves. However, if he spends 2 hours in the bathroom getting ready to go out, it's a deal breaker.
I now kind of like guys who have buzz cuts and shaved or bald heads, tend to like moderate body hair to smooth, but if the guy has more hair on his back than i do on my chest, I'm understanding of the natural thing, but come on. Get it waxed.
I also like a guy that is a good dancer, is creative and pursues the arts in some way, a guy who likes languages, isn't really into watching hours and hours of sports or really cares much about million dollar guys who are "our team" that get traded the very next year.
And I need a guy who can talk. I like big kind eyes, someone with a nice smile and great laugh, and down to earth.
And while I have always pictured the Perfect Guy when looking for him, he is rarely my perfect ideal, but physically much different, and absolutely mesmorizing.
i can tell in the first 10 minutes of talking to him where it is going to go, or if it will work, and I have never been wrong, although I would be open to being surprised and proven wrong.
(I hope I'm not going to get my hand slapped for talking about this)
