Please help me

[sinnergalore]

Hi. I'm new to this site. I need some support and prayer. I figured this was a good place to get it.

I have always wanted to be pure. But I have fallen. I am so ashamed of myself. I lost my virginty about a year and a half ago. And in the time span of about 4 months had 2 seperate partners. I only slept with each of them once. Not that it makes it ok at all. I was overwhelmed with guilt back then, and I told myself no more sex until I'm married. After that I was raped. And that was just awful in itself. Last weekend, I fell again, and slept with a guy I just met. I've asked for forgiveness, and I know the Lord has forgiven me. But one of my friends has been giving me a hard time about it and all I want to do is cry. We were at her cousin's house when it happened, and it was with a family friend. I apologized to her. But who knows if she'll accept it.

I'm so mad at myself and disappointed. I mean, it was bad enough when it was 2 guys. Then it became 2 guys and a rape. Now its 3 and a rape! I need direction, advice, prayer... help me, please.

 

[Criada]

You know, sweetie, we are all sinners.
But the great thing is, that God loves us just as we are, and that He forgives us and makes us new.

1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

He has not only forgiven you, sister, He has purified you.. the sin has gone.
Now you need to learn to forgive yourself.
The rape was in no way your fault, sweetie! That was evil that was done to you, nothing that you did. Are you getting any kind of counseling or talking to anyone about it? Because it is hard to deal with that on your own..

As for your friend, if she is a Christian, I am sure she will realise that she has sinned too.. and none of us can jude others.

I am praying for you, sister, and here if you need to talk, ok? I have faced very similar issues and feelings... I know where you are, sister, and I know that God can bring you through it.

 

[Carolyn H]

Dear Sister,

We are all sinners! We all have fallen into temptation of one kind of another...that is why we need Jesus so badly! He knows us, and He loves us. He cherishes you so much that he chose the nails for you, and washed those sins away forever!!! You are made new and whole and white as snow in Him.

I am praying for you my sister! God loves you very much!

 

[Bellicus]

When I were at church yesterday, a man there talked about forgiveness. He used electricity bills as a example. And I don't know how it is like where you live, but where I live electricity bills is not much fun. It is letter I get in the mail every 3 months, when I least expect it, and the money-demand is usually much higher then what I expected, so it usually gets me pretty grumpy. The bills got a really long account number, and another number to identify what bill it is which is even longer, and after paying these bills and writing in all those numbers then I know I have to be careful with the money for the rest of that month, and maybe even the month after too. But after I've paid it, the last thing I do is to remember it, and to sit and think abut this bill that I payed. As soon as I've paid it, it is out of my head and I never think about it again.

And the man that talked also use shoes as a example. He said that his shoes was not much worth, but if David Beckham would sell his shoes, then he would probably get a lot more for them then his shoes was bought for, just because he have had them on his feet and he is a famous soccer-player.

And maybe we don't think much about ourselves, but we know that Jesus didn't pay with money for us. He payed with his life, and that is what we are worth to him. I don't think anyone would pay with their life for anything on earth. And often we think that we have no value at all. But for Jesus we got so much value that he died for us, and he payed all our debts.

So we should think as little about our sins, or even less about our sins then our old electricity bills, because they are not payed with money, but with the life of the Son of God. We don't think about the electricity bill we payed in January 1998 or the electricity bill we payed in June 2005, we don't remember any details about it, like the account number, or the how much we payed, even if we probably wanted that money for something else. It is something we have put behind us. And if there is anyone that reminds us about the sins we have done, then this is not God. It is someone else that wants to remind of us how sinful we are. It is someone else that wants to make us feel worthless and low. And we should not listen to him. He only tell lies.

And about the one that raped you: Did you tell this to the police? It is not good that people that can't control themselves in such a way, go free about it, or else they won't understand that this is wrong and might rape more people.

And I agree it would be good to talk to someone about this, if you haven't already.

 

[Carolyn H]

amen!!!!!!!!!

 

[madison1101]

Your sins are no worse than anybody else's, including your friends. Stop beating yourself up, or worse, letting the devil beat you up. You are already forgiven and pronounced pure by Jesus. Believe what the Bible says about you, instead of what the devil is saying.

Given the fact that you were raped, you need to seek therapy to help you deal with that trauma. Many women who are sexually traumatized, either as children or adults, react to it by becoming sexually promiscuous. It is a complex issue, but it happened to me, and I had many partners prior to my husband of 25 years. After my divorce, I thought I was immune to it because I am now a Christian and had been married for 25 years and had three grown children, BUT, I went back to my old sexual acting out behaviors and had to work on that big time with my therapist. Being a victim of sexual crime does not excuse the sin, but offers an explanation for it.

The good news is that God is gracious and loving and understands our sins. The reason I believe this is that scripture says that Jesus was tempted just as we are. Also, I know that His love is greater than our sin.

Feel free to PM me if you wish to talk.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[sinnergalore]

Thank you all so much! Your words have helped me a lot.

As for therapy... I had been going for a few months after the rape. She was a Christian therapist, and wonderful at first. About two months into our sessions she started this new theraputic technique with me, and I didn't like it. So I called and left her a voicemail, letting her know I needed a week or 2 to decide if I wanted that kind of therapy. She left me a nasty voicemail the next day and I haven't gone back to any kind of therapy since. I can't really afford it either. So I've been trying to deal with it on my own.

 

[Carolyn H]

Praying for you, honey!

 

[Carolyn H]

Praying for you sis!!! God Bless us in this earthly walk!