Please help me on this situation....

[Lacey0nes]

My husband and I have a 9 yr old daughter, whom is having trouble in school...

The trouble being, she does not do her homework, and return items from school.  This is leaving marks in her folder that she brings home every week. 

We have tried numerous different punishments as well as rewards and nothing seems to be working.

I would like to hear of some situations that may be the same, and how you resolved them.

I am at my wits end...

p.s.  Her parent/teacher conference is this Thursday... and I would like to make a change for the better in her.

 

[Eldons Wife]

Have you considered homeschooling?
-Eldons Wife

 

[Lacey0nes]

Yes, but the expenses are too high right now. We have also considerd enrolling both daughters in the Christian Academy.. but like I said earlier, the cost is a little to high for us at the moment.

 

[minniemouse]

When my brother was young he was the same way. My Mom and Dad ended up having the teacher sign off (with initials to be easy) on the 'homework notebook' that my brother was to write each assignment down in and they would check it each night. Then check it against his homework to be sure he did everything. The teacher would sign off that she had or had not recieved each assignment at the end of the week and if she hadn't he would have to make up the assignment over the weekend. It took effort on both ends, but worked. Just an idea.

 

[Lacey0nes]

Thank you, but we have tried that step already.  Our daughter would not bring home the workbook at times, and or would not write all of her homework down, or would say that she did some of it at school during class.  But I will reconsider tryin this again when we talk to the teacher at her conference..

 

[karla]

Before I became a stay at home mom I taught 5th and 6th grade. I had a few students that had problems similar to your daughter's. What I would do as the teacher was to write the assignments in their assignment book and pack their bag for them and include everything that was to be done that night - wether they had done it in school or not. The parents would then have everything at home to look over and the kids had no way of saying they forgot it or that it wasn't done. Just an idea, but the teacher has to be willing to do that too.

 

[Lacey0nes]

I will ask the teacher tomorrow during the conference to do this.. Thank you, and I pray that it will work. 

 

[JesusCult]

Originally posted by Lacey0nes
My husband and I have a 9 yr old daughter, whom is having trouble in school... The trouble being, she does not do her homework, and return items from school.  This is leaving marks in her folder that she brings home every week.  

Hi LaceyOnes,

It sounds as if your daughter's problem may not be homework, but something more.  Could there be something else going on at school or home that is causing this problem?  The age of nine is pretty old to consistently have this kind of problem considering everything that you have tried unless you are dealing with rebellion or some type of mental distress. 

If the root is rebellion, homework may just be the first signs of the problem and it will likely get worse if not addressed.  If it is mental distress, there could some underlying problem that your daughter does not know how to handle on her own and may feel awkward about sharing.

My recommendation would be to pray about the cause of the problem.  Don't ignore the homework issue, but seek God for insight and wisdom about what is really going on (and I am sure that you are doing this!  ).  There are so many distractions and perversions vying for our children's attention, that we really need to keep them covered in prayer. 

I'll keep you guys in prayer!

 

[Lacey0nes]

Thank you so much JesusCult.... I will consider this also.   And yes, we are praying daily about this.  I have gone to the point in asking her what she can do to help this situation before she leaves for school... She told me that she doesn't know, and I said "yes you do hun, you have to pray that God will help you to remember, and bring all of your homework home.  I just started doin this Monday of this week.  She has been doin good so far.  So I will keep you informed when her weekly progress report comes back. 

 

[Eldons Wife]

I know it seems expensive but there are places you can get used books maybe you check it out.

-Eldons Wife

 

[LifeInYou]

Another possibility may be that she can't see/read well because she is dislexic? Children who aren't as cooperative as they should be sometimes are diagnosed with that. And because they aren't processing the information right, they are turned off to the idea of learning because they feel they can't do it adequately.
Just something to think about.
You know your daughter better than I !