Please help. Did I do the right thing?

[Squidward110]

Hi everyone, I have a slightly long story here so bear with me. I am a 19 year old commuting college student. I was recently involved in an almost two year relationship with a girl whom I believed was my soul mate. Along our relationship I would catch her flirting (via messaging devices) other boys and flirting with them sometimes graphically. I was always heartbroken but eventually forgave her because I loved her. Around a month ago I found out that during our relationship she had cheated on me with 8 other guys. She had sexual relations with all of them. We lost our virginity to each other (a stupid mistake but I thought she was the one) so this crushed me because I always was faithful and avoided girls altogether. She claimed it was because I "didn't have time for her and it wasn't fair for her". I am extremely busy with school and I saw her at every opportunity I could manage. We didn't talk anymore. About a week ago I saw (through social media) that she has a new boyfriend already. I got very depressed and began comparing myself to this older, more attractive, manlier person. I prayed and prayed to ask what would help me and the only thing I could think if was "forgiveness"

Here's where I need your guys advice. Yesterday I messaged her saying that even though she put me through a lot I have forgiven her because I believe it is what God would want me to do. She didn't hardly say anything. I wished her the best in her life and we haven't spoken again. I felt like a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders but I'm still wondering if I really did the right thing. If you guys could give me your thoughts I'd really appreciate it!

Thanks for reading that while thing and God Bless!

 

[turkle]

You absolutely did the right thing. You put a period at the end of the sentence. Now it's time to finish the chapter and start a new one. You are very fortunate that you are no longer involved with this selfish, promiscuous person. In due time, you will find a lady who is loving and giving if you wait on God to bring her to you.

In the meantime, I wish you well in your studies. That is where your focus should be for now. Praise God you are moving on!

 

[raven1]

Yes you did. What else could you do?

 

[Joshua0]

Around a month ago I found out that during our relationship she had cheated on me with 8 other guys.

"love" is a drug and she is an addict. Let her go. After 8 guys there is not much chance that she will turn away from her addiction.

I felt like a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders

Yes, we benefit when we forgive others. Sometimes forgiveness needs to be a work that God does in our lives. In and through us. God will give to us what He can get through us to others. So we need to forgive so God can forgive us.

 

[quietpraiyze]

You did just fine. She didn't say much because she can't. She is living a life she can't defend. So you be at peace knowing you are doing what God requires of you. You forgave her. Once you did that you have no further responsibility to this young women. You can pray for her as the Lord leads, but you are free of her to live your life. When you stay with the Lord what a life it will be! God will not disappoint you.

 

[RuthD]

You did a great job of closing that relationship. Forgiveness helps us to go on and to be free of heartache. I know she really hurt you and now you have forgiven and that is the Christian thing to do. I think she has some sort of problem going around with all of those men. I will pray for you and her. You both need prayers at this time. God bless you.

 

[fdsfndls]

Congrats.