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Discussion in 'Baptists' started by VerySadMom, Oct 17, 2005.

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  1. VerySadMom

    VerySadMom Member

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    Please help me with my daughter. She is 14 years old, gave her life to Christ when she was 12, and now claims she is a lesbian. She has only kissed a girl, but that is enough.

    I do not know what to do, I've cried, I've prayed. I love the Lord with every fiber of my being, and know that all tribulation will eventually glorify Him. In the meantime, I could really use some advice. Please help us to sort this out. I will check in from time to time and any help or advice is truly welcomed.

    Also, we really need prayer, please pray for her to find her way back to Christ, and to be unconfused about her sexuality. Please pray that God steers her in the right direction towards hetrosexuality and to like boys. May He bless you for your intercessional efforts on our behalf. Thank you.
     
  2. Ragamuffins

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    I will pray that like many others, she finds Christ, and His will for all of us.

    My advice would be to talk to your pastor and see what he says.
     
  3. Flynmonkie

    Flynmonkie The First Official FrankenMonkie ;)

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    Your in my prayers! This might be one of those rebellious things kids do to us to make us go grey. Speaking with a pastor is a good idea but personally I would wait to see before "going" public with this. But Raga is right - that is better than nothing if you need assistance through this.
     
  4. JPPT1974

    JPPT1974 August Back to School

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    Lord help point this child of yours to not just you. But to the right direction. And that she will like boys and become a hetrosexual again. And that her mom and dad will help her along the way. Touch this family in your name, amen.
     
  5. RED that's ME

    RED that's ME *~*God *IS* Love*~*

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    This is me posting as a member......

    I will keep your daughter and your family in my prayers. :prayer:



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  6. FreeinChrist

    FreeinChrist CF Advisory team Staff Member Site Advisor Supporter

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    Speaking as a School Nurse -
    Young teens, 12- 16, tend to take on 'identities' in their efforts to understand themselves. I know of one young man who took on the identity of "I'm gay" and got lots of sympathy/support. However, as junior in high school, he really wanted to admit he was not and was rather stuck. Luckily for him, the family moved to a neighboring town, he went to a new high school and he didn't have to disclaim his previous identity. I have been surprized at how few teens really understand what is physically involved, and back off when they do.
    Teens also like to get a reaction. I suggest you stay calm. You do not need to be approving, but don't give it excessive attention. Even your concern and anguish can be a reward (as wierd as that sounds).

    Lots of prayer for these years is very good!

    *if I need to get citations to support my statements, I can get them...but it will take some time. I just got a Master's in Education, Counseling...but haven't organized all those references I copied yet. that will take a while.
     
  7. Joykins

    Joykins free Crazy Liz!

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    There is a stage in development when "normal" young people may develop homosexual feelings, and quite often these are a temporary part of growing up. I even knew this growing up and was still unsettled when it happened to me (I am heterosexual).

    Does your church have a family counselor on staff whom you and your daughter can talk to about this, and maybe try to get things in prayerful perspective?
     
  8. Crazy Liz

    Crazy Liz Well-Known Member

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    :prayer: Praying for you, mom.
     
  9. Kawosa

    Kawosa New Member

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    SadMom,

    I am so sorry that you have had this bombshell dropped on you and I am sorry for the confusion and anger and sadness you both must be experiencing. You will be the center of my prayer tonight, I wish I could call out your names in prayer as I believe it makes a difference. But I also understand the need for privacy for sanity in all this so I will do the best I can.
    For what it is worth, I believe you should try and be patient with your daughter. She may well just be experimenting or testing you to see how you react. Over reacting now could have unfavorable consequences for years to come. Pray together and seperately and do try to continue to go to church. Don't let this dark cloud destroy your relationship together and with God.
     
  10. aReformedPatriot

    aReformedPatriot Ron Paul for President!

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    Praying for you.
     
  11. SonOfThunder

    SonOfThunder Senior Veteran

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    Your heart must be broken and I am sure you are thinking of saying...."if you chose this lifestyle, you will no longer be a part of this family" ...or hold lots of conversations, pleed, worry. You are in shock, you are also angry...I imagine you also want to lash out with Scripture verses, sermons, name calling.
    Words cut deep and one day you just might have to eat them.

    You may see this as a defeat, but it is a temporary one. Put your trust in God, your child is His.

    1 KINGS 8:56 Blessed be the LORD, that hath given rest unto his people Israel, according to all that he promised: there hath not failed one word of all his good promise, which he promised by the hand of Moses his servant

    This is a time of rebellion, perhaps tough love needs to be used during your childs rebellion. Love her unconditionally and finally hand this child back to God completely, seek Him in prayer to guide you in every word, every action or inaction.

    I am praying for your family

    James
     
  12. soblessed53

    soblessed53 Well-Known Member

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    Precious Heavenly Father, I pray for this teen girl who is confused about her sexuality. Dear Father I ask that you bind satan from this girl's life,and unblind her eyes to his deception,and let her feel the Holy spirit drawing her back to you and fill her heart with a hunger for a close relationship with you. I pray that you will be able to reach the other girl through her as well Lord,and set them both on the right path. I also ask for you to give comfort and assurance to this mother Father. Make her faith abound that she can rely on you,and I ask it in the most Powerful,Precious,and Holy name of your son,Jesus,and I thank You.
     
  13. Jesus7Lives

    Jesus7Lives New Member

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    I will pray for you, my sister. This is truly a sad situation. Our society today says that we shoud except such a horrific lifestyle. Us Christians do not except it. My prayers will be with you. God will change it all around for the best. God Bless!:hug:
     
  14. Chrissy4

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    I can understand what you are going through. My mother is one. I should pray more about it but, it is hard. The Lord wants me to talk to her about this and tell her that it is wrong. But, I have not done it. I know that I need to but I have not put anough faith in it. I do not want her to be mad at me. I love and I want to see her in heaven. But it is so hard. But I will be praying for your daughter and if you will please be praying for my mother.Thank You and God Bless.
     
  15. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl I love the US Army

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    I'll most certainly be praying for both you and your daughter!!! :prayer:
     
  16. JPPT1974

    JPPT1974 August Back to School

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    Lord help this teen girl and that she will be lead back by you.
    Be with her family and that they will lean on you for support and guidance.
    And that you will lead and guide this family into doing the right thing.
    Oh, be with this family Lord. And help this young lady.
    In your name and will, amen.
     
  17. VerySadMom

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    How can I ever thank you all enough for all of your responses? It has helped me stand up over the past couple of weeks just coming here and reading them. Please continue to pray as we need it more than ever now. My daughter purposely missed the school bus going home yesterday so she could stand in her friends closet (who I found out is a lesbian) and do Lord’s knows what until I finally found her at 10:30 p.m. The parents seemed to condone homosexuality, and we came to an agreement that these two girls should not be "hanging" out together anymore. I know my daughter is confused right now, and I am doing everything in my power to rely on the Lord and try not to come down on her too hard, but it is almost impossible at times. Last night, I wasn’t sure if she were dead or alive, and was so relieved to find out that she was okay, even if it were at this friend’s house. We are going to see a Christian counselor next week, but I got to tell you, I am concerned how long this will take to "fix" her. In answer to some of your questions, no, her father is not in her life anymore. He was a total disappointment to her and the life he lives is that of a vagrant. I have tried to raise her the right way, going to church, do the homework, have fun, spend time together, etc. ever since the divorce which was about 4 years ago. I know I haven’t done everything right by her, and I am trying not to blame myself, but going through this is really, really hard. I am just thankful that she is alive after last night’s scare. She promised she wouldn’t do it again. She knows if she is to scare me like that again, the authorities will have to step in and take care of the situation, which is something I don’t want to do. On the other hand, I cannot go through life not knowing if she will be safe or not, not knowing who her friends are is not something I am willing to compromise on either. Part of me says maybe having the authorities handle it next time (hopefully there will not be a next time) will scare her straight so to speak. All I know is I cannot continue to handle this without something breaking. I had maybe 3 hours of sleep last night, and had to go to work that way today. I have prayed, and will continue to pray. Please pray with me as much as you possibly can. Your prayers and advice are so greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for helping me through this.
     
  18. Steve_SandbachBaptist_UK

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    Only advice I can think of is to talk to your pastor and other christian friends whom you respect and can trust and keep praying with them.

    Steve
     
  19. arunma

    arunma Flaming Calvinist

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    Hello. First of all, I'd like you to know that I've prayed for your daughter. Secondly, speaking as a kid of similar age myself (well, I like to think that 21 year olds are still kids), I just wanted to point out that in high school and even in college, a lot of people start becoming interested in sex. Unfortunately, they often choose this time in their lives to depart from their walk with the Lord (the majority of people on my campus are not Christians). I know a lot of gay people myself, and so I just wanted to let you know that it's quite possible your daughter is merely feigning lesbianism to be socially acceptable to her friends. Don't get too alarmed, because I think the "rebellious teenager" scenario is very plausible.

    Also, since she's a believer, I would point her to 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Romans 1:26-27, in which apostolic teaching clearly states that God disapproves of homosexual relationships (the latter specifically addresses lesbianism).
     
  20. JPPT1974

    JPPT1974 August Back to School

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    Praying for you and your family.
    Seek counseling.
    Get the advice & help of the pastor if you feel like it.
    Talk it out with your daughter and you. :groupray: :amen:
     
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