Please help and answer me...yes YOU!!

[TEJL101]

Hi Im on here as a last resort. Im a 31yr old male in desperate need of support so please message me if you read this and can spare 5minutes for a stranger. I had a very difficult childhood and without going into details have had a terrible last few years on top of this. I lost a best friend in the process and I am suffering from PTSD with flashbacks and nightmares a daily battle. Counselling has not been sucessful as I re traumatise myself going over memories at the moment as they are still too fresh. I have massive guilt issues too due to a good friends death.

Im back living with my family and family friends who are all Christian and are so happy and blessed I want nothing more than to share in their happiness but God seems to not want me as I never get or feel anything special when i pray. Also I have an analytical mind and have so many questions but when i recently asked my pastor i think i angered him and he never answered none of my questions.

Im new on this site but am really struggling and hope some of you answer my call for help.

God bless you

T

Im not joking or a con, im genuinely here wanting to ask God into my life and need him to save me from this nightmare im waking up to day and night.

Please answer me if you dont mind talking with a genuine bloke down on his luck and in desperate need of some support and answers. Im running out of ideas and dont know who else to talk to anymore

 

[Spunkn]

I don't mind talking with you, if you just want someone to talk to.

Sounds like you've had some pretty rough blows. That's not easy to get over.

It's hard sometimes when we pray. We want God to answer us directly or show us something, but it seems like He is silent at times. But God is always there even if it feels like He isn't.

Anyway, I'll do my best to listen / answer questions if it will help you.

 

[strawberryhill]

You are not alone, TEJL, I have the same problems! Bad memories of childhood emotional abuse from 8 older sisters. I have nightmares about them. I'm in my 50's, blessed with my own family (pretty happy). When I confront my sisters about how they hurt me, they refuse to listen. Nightmares serve a purpose of releasing the bad stuff inside you.

The best way to deal with the icky stuff received? Clean one's house, so I won't repeat the mistakes dished out to me. I ask my little girl every day if I ever hurt her in the same way ....Our purpose of receiving pain is to NEVER INLFICT THE SAME PAIN on another person, or the next generation. I'm honored to partake the same cup that Jesus Christ took: of being judged wrongly, of being fasely accused, of being crucified on the cross.

I would rather be the victim, than the abuser. I'm NOT afraid of the future, but the abuser will be afraid of the future, of the consequences of one's sins in judgment day, and hell if not repented. I assure you that the victims won't be judged by Christ for suffering.

 

[Colleen1]

Hi Im on here as a last resort. Im a 31yr old male in desperate need of support so please message me if you read this and can spare 5minutes for a stranger. I had a very difficult childhood and without going into details have had a terrible last few years on top of this. I lost a best friend in the process and I am suffering from PTSD with flashbacks and nightmares a daily battle. Counselling has not been sucessful as I re traumatise myself going over memories at the moment as they are still too fresh. I have massive guilt issues too due to a good friends death.

Im back living with my family and family friends who are all Christian and are so happy and blessed I want nothing more than to share in their happiness but God seems to not want me as I never get or feel anything special when i pray. Also I have an analytical mind and have so many questions but when i recently asked my pastor i think i angered him and he never answered none of my questions.

Im new on this site but am really struggling and hope some of you answer my call for help.

God bless you

T

Im not joking or a con, im genuinely here wanting to ask God into my life and need him to save me from this nightmare im waking up to day and night.

Please answer me if you dont mind talking with a genuine bloke down on his luck and in desperate need of some support and answers. Im running out of ideas and dont know who else to talk to anymore

I feel for you. What you are going through isn't easy by any means. I too have an analytical mind and I'm a thinker. I'm always thinking. I learn by asking questions as do many other people. I admire your bravery because a fair amount of people have unexpressed questions and struggle alone or never really resolve things because they hold it all in. I think you are brave for seeking help. One small practical thing that helps me is to say, okay...just shut your brain off and let things go for 15 minutes. I may put on music and just lay there resting purposely shutting off my thoughts. Some times I will take a break from my feelings too because when grieving feelings can be so very intense. Other times, I stop my thoughts but sit still with God and just feel what I need to feel and this also helps me. You are not alone. There are some who do understand and won't judge our feelings or questions. Please be good to yourself during this time of grieving; you're valuable. Praying for you. God bless!

 

[TEJL101]

I don't mind talking with you, if you just want someone to talk to.

Sounds like you've had some pretty rough blows. That's not easy to get over.

It's hard sometimes when we pray. We want God to answer us directly or show us something, but it seems like He is silent at times. But God is always there even if it feels like He isn't.

Anyway, I'll do my best to listen / answer questions if it will help you.

Thanks and yes I'd love a chance to talk truly. I tried sending a private message but said I can't yet.

 

[TEJL101]

I feel for you. What you are going through isn't easy by any means. I too have an analytical mind and I'm a thinker. I'm always thinking. I learn by asking questions as do many other people. I admire your bravery because a fair amount of people have unexpressed questions and struggle alone or never really resolve things because they hold it all in. I think you are brave for seeking help. One small practical thing that helps me is to say, okay...just shut your brain off and let things go for 15 minutes. I may put on music and just lay there resting purposely shutting off my thoughts. Some times I will take a break from my feelings too because when grieving feelings can be so very intense. Other times, I stop my thoughts but sit still with God and just feel what I need to feel and this also helps me. You are not alone. There are some who do understand and won't judge our feelings or questions. Please be good to yourself during this time of grieving; you're valuable. Praying for you. God bless!

Thtankyou for your advice I will try to take it onboard and knowing you have said a prayer for me really helps.god bless u

 

[joey_downunder]

It sounds like you've been through an awful lot. It's normal to be having flashbacks under your circumstances. It is very common amongst abuse survivors. Ask God to be with you and help you see what happened through HIS eyes now. He won't be scared to do that for you.

Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. (Hebrews 4:14-16)

A great link - lots of different pages for you to surf through. A search index of inspirational biblical teaching, help and encouragement for born again Christians: Theologically sound spiritual resources exalting the Lord Jesus Christ

 

[Spunkn]

Thanks and yes I'd love a chance to talk truly. I tried sending a private message but said I can't yet.

I'll PM you my email address

 

[Colleen1]

Thtankyou for your advice I will try to take it onboard and knowing you have said a prayer for me really helps.god bless u

You're welcome. It's just little stuff I've tried that works for me. Be good to yourself.

 

[raven1]

Pm me if you want

 

[Colleen1]

Continued prayers for you.