Plans for the future / Check in thread [open]

[tryingtobeagain]

Hello Everyone,
I thought it might be a positive thing to talk about our plans for the future and what we're doing to move on/heal/recover from the tough times we're going through. This thread is for anyone who would like to post about how they are doing, or what they are doing, or what they need to do, and then we can also check in on each other to see how we're moving forward. Please feel free to post goals, accomplishments, ups and downs that we're going through and we can all support and congratulate each other.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

I'll go first!

I'm working hard on healing right now. I'm still dealing with a lot of pain and questions about how I could have been fooled into this relationship but I'm focusing on receiving answers and comfort from Jesus. I've been reading scripture and looking at how I can be a better Christian all around. I just got baptised and I feel great about it and I've been reading the divorcecare litterature online because there's not a group at my church.

My goals are to get my divorce processed (but I struggle with it because I have a separate custody case going on and I don't want one to affect the other). Other than that, I'm trying to move, finish my degree (only a few credits away), and become more involved in my church. Things at work are going well although I'm always looking for opportunities for advancement with learning new programs and taking on new tasks. I'm also at a really high point for my creativity and I've been writing alot and performing whenever I have the opportunity. I am very thankful that I am in a position right now where I can support my friend who has been staying with me for the past 2 months but kind of looking forward to having some privacy soon. I also have the goal of remaining celebate which is going well.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[faith177]

I am working on getting into the university here, to get my social work degree. Emotionally I feel more at peace than I have in the last year of the marriage. However I am still dealing with his bad choices, specifically financially, but I know God will take care of me. I am very blessed with the support that I have right now.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

Great to hear Faith! I actually work in the social work department of my local university and I see the rewards of the social workers in the community! It's a great profession and I hope you get in!

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Going to counseling and divorcecare. Trying to buy a house, and trying to really improve my performance at work so I can be a competitive for a job here in civvies after I retire.

Other than that, figuring out who I am and what I want rather than trying to fit myself into some mold because I think it will make someone love me. She and I probably both did this. I'm going to try to be more aware of issues in future relationships.

 

[Gimpy]

I just take one day at a time, hoping and praying for the best. I know God has something great for me in the future. I am 58 but I remember that Moses was 80 before he was ready for God's work. Abraham was pretty old too as you may recall. My family is pretty long lived so I figure I have only hit my middle ages now.
Got a long way to go.

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Besides re-evaluating my relationship with the Lord I'm trying to better myself by trying to get into better shape (lose some weight- get more fit). I updated my resume and have been exploring ways to utilize my skills and talents better than I am currently. I'm considering a move to another state (away from my kids unfortunately but it would benefit them and myself financially)......

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Checking in ...

 

[SearcherKris]

This is old, but I think we need to bump it up!

My plans right now are to just get everything situated, settled, and draw closer to God.

I do hope that I will be married again someday. Having just asked my lawyer to file the divorce for me, I'm not looking yet. I am open to whatever the Lord wants.

I'm working on getting better routines for me and my kids. We need to establish a better way for ourselves.

If things work out well, I'd like to return to college or start a business. I've some serious stuff to take care of first, and I'm praying through it, seeking the Lord's will.

This is very much like rebuilding, starting a new life. I feel like I've had a return to adolescence. Who am? How do I relate to others? What does this mean in my walk with God?

I'm relearning who God is, and how to respond to Him. I'm closer to Him than I have been in soooooo long. Drawing close is how the future will work out, because it will work out according to His plans.

 

[faith177]

It would be interesting to see where everyone is at again. I am funny enough still dealing with his bad choices, still trusting God, but have changed my schooling and am now enrolled in a long term care aid course. I am really enjoying it, and trying to heal my emotions. Not sure if I will ever be able to trust myself to a long term relationship again but you never know what God has planned. Right now I just want to get through school, get working, pay my bills and go on a trip to somewhere warm and beautiful.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

I asked her for reconciliation on Monday, and she refused. It was really hard - I wasn't sure I wanted it, but it felt wrong not to try again when we're so close to the end.

Now? Moving on I guess. I know I'm probably not raedy, but I'm talking to girls about dating now. Just trying to get by now.