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I never wanted my picture taken in middle or high school (in school pictures or out of school candid shots by friends or family) b/c I didn't feel pretty. I didn't want a reminder of that or a comparison of myself to others lookswise. It didn't matter how many times my parents told me I looked beautiful or gorgeous or that they wanted my picture.
 
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I agree, it's totally a confidence thing.
I was really big and shy in junior high. Often this made me the target of bullying.
Went so far as to join yearbook to steal my photo from the room in 8th grade.
Not proud of it, but I really wanted to have others just forget me.
If you don't feel confident in your body image it can be really difficult.
 
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so you are saying it's no big deal?
I don't know if it's a big deal for your daughter or not. I was just answering your question based on my own experience. Talk to her about it and find out why she didn't want her picture taken. If it is a self esteem issue for her then it's deeper than just she did it b/c it was the wrong thing to do. Help her build her confidence. If it's another reason and issue why she didn't get her picture taken or didn't bother to pay for the hardcopy then address that issue.
 
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It could be an issue of confidence.

I never had confidence issues, but I still hated formal pictures. I always thought it was dumb. I preferred candid pictures that actually showed me living my life. To this day I still hold that mind set.
 
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I don't know if it's a big deal for your daughter or not. I was just answering your question based on my own experience. Talk to her about it and find out why she didn't want her picture taken. If it is a self esteem issue for her then it's deeper than just she did it b/c it was the wrong thing to do. Help her build her confidence. If it's another reason and issue why she didn't get her picture taken or didn't bother to pay for the hardcopy then address that issue.


I did talk to her; she is really into skin care and she is 14 so she still has acne. That and her hair. She got her pic taken by the school, just did not submit the check to order some.
 
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My junior high school years were pretty much a blur. Friendwise and otherwise. I remembered being bullied, that was pretty much my biggest memory and also going to the Cider Mill for donuts and cider. In some ways we are similiar. I don't remember having a lot of confidence either at that age.
 
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Don't you remember what it's like to be a teen? Every day is filled with some measure of insecurity, angst, and wondering if you're "good enough". Sure, lots of teens will ham for the camera, but that doesn't hold true for everyone. My mom was always a camera fiend, and since I always felt insecure, shy, and even ugly, I HATED it. She would try to guilt me into complying by saying "don't rob others of the joy of having a picture of you". Don't do that to your kids, people. Let them be themselves, shy or otherwise.
 
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I destroyed every last picture of me in my awkward teen years. I was one of those really dorky kids with the raging acne, bad hair, big coke bottle glasses...*shudder*.

Although not wanting your picture taken isn't limited to the teen years. My 72 yo mother in law won't let us take her picture, either.
 
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there could be several issues at hand here.

1) did she steal the money or return it to you?

2) Perhaps they were not her best pictures-and she knew you would buy/show them anyway..

3)Are you all the type to "show" pictures to lots of people, does this make her uncomfortable?

4) Just plain self esteem issues

ALL or any of the above indicate something you can help her with-not the biggest issue you/she will ever face but here's an opportunity to help her. Now you know she has an issue.

What did you say to her when you found out-and what was her reply?
 
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