Physical limits before marriage

[Mela Monkey]

Also, why do organisations like Marriage Savers suggest strongly to cohabiting couples who decide to get married that they spend the last 3 months apart before marriage if not to improve the probability of the marriage succeeding.

my guess would be to help determine if their relationship only got as far as it did because of the physical part

 

[Jim the Puritan]

I came across this story a couple of days ago and thought it was right on the mark, certainly a lot like what I once went through:

Why Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

 

[UK Fred]

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[gracefulone1980]

We did whatever we were both comfortable with.

 

[dayhiker]

Didn't realize it has been so long since I got back to this tread.

Well, I don't see my comments as insulting. Its great that you want to be a virgin. It's a great gift to give your husband. So we would agree that we shouldn't get married. There are many reasons not to get married. This would be another one. Its not a priority for me.

Also this view is partly because of my age.

I'm insulted by this. Some of us women have gone thru serious trials just to keep our virginity in tact. We do it for ourselves as well as our future spouse. Why would you not appreciate our effort? Why would you not see it as a gift? Why would a man not admire a woman for keeping herself pure?
I can tell you that any man I went out with who would dare to belittle my effort, would be not so nicely booted to the curb.

Glory be!

 

[dayhiker]

That's my opinion of how to handle it.

We did whatever we were both comfortable with.

 

[LinkH]

I'm insulted, non-amused with people that push different agendas as a badge of righteousness like--no kissing till wed night, no hugging, etc etc. Who cares. I believe if there is no definite struggle with sex prior to the wedding day they probably shouldn't be getting married.

The struggle with no sex before marriage is the reason for the rules. I guess back in the old days, when you had to go sit on your potential wife's parent's porch to court, there might not have been too much opportunity to kiss before the wedding day. Somehow, I don't think that would have made the marriage any worse. If they didn't drag out the engagement, it might have been easier on the young folks involved.