physical attraction...

[Sleak]

I have been reading through these looking for some peoples opinions and havent found anything quite on topic.


How important to you is physical attraction?
I realize that it is whats inside that counts, and I totally believe that, but where is the compromise?

Just after your opinions on it....

 

[RefinedByFire]

Look, here it is.

You're a guy. And guess what? You're thinking like a guy. Don't ever apologize for that. Of course you find physical attraction important. You are hard wired that way along with 99% of all men out there, Christian or not. We are visual creatures. That's just the way it is.

If you're asking for my opinion, finding your woman physically attractive is very important. Whether someone thinks I'm being shallow because of that...who cares?

That being said though, Lynn is right that attractiveness is a highly subjective matter and it *may* grow over time. I have female friends that I never found attractive before, but over the years as I have gotten to know them and spent time with them, they did gradually become more attractive to me. Yes, I mean physically! So it does happen. One of them I even dated.

So back to your situation, I don't really see why you're pressuring yourself to make a decision so quickly. Why? Just spend time with her and enjoy her company as friends. From what I see, both of you are meeting each other's needs socially. No one is pushing a relationship on you.

BUT...and here's the big "but." But when you do decide to get into a relationship with this girl, don't string her along with the intent of spending time with her "for now" until someone "better" comes along. That's just not right. As of now, you don't have any real commitments with her, so everything is cool. Just play it by ear and see what happens.

Good luck.

 

[alfrodull]

Her email indicates that you have passed the point of "just friends." Therefore, for her sake, just break it off now. With your attitude, whether it's right or wrong, you're only going to hurt her in the end, and giving her false hope is just about the worst thing you could do.

 

[Blank123]

what the others said. Don't feel pressured to start a relationship with her if you're not totally into her

 

[k450ofu3k-gh-5ipe]

Physical attraction is important.

You're not being shallow, a pig, mongrel or what have you.

One thing about physical attraction, however, is that it can be accentuated by a person's non physical qualities. If I know a girl that is physically attractive but there is nothing I like about her as a person personality wise, etc, then she becomes physically unattractive to me as well. If I know a girl that isn't too physically attractive to me, but her personality is amazing, then she'll become more physically attractive in my mind.

My fiancee is super hott and she is an amazing, beautiful woman as a person! That's what you really want!

 

[ImperialPhantom]

It should absolutely be taken into consideration. It shouldn't be the WHOLE bag, but if you're not physically attracted to her, someone else is (no matter what she looks like - everyone has a different preference), and I believe everybody deserves a relationship with someone who is physically attracted to them.

 

[puddleoffaith]

I agree with everyone else. I would not want to be with someone that found be "alrite" because I deserve to be with someone that thinks I'm gorgeous.

 

[GQ Chris]

Dude, when you're picking a mate remember if things get serious to the point of marriage you will have to be with that person for life. Why pick someone that you're not too crazy about from the Start.

 

[dobieman0488]

i agree, physical attraction is a necessity, by no means the ONLY thing, but it's a big one, if you get married, you're gonna be waking up next to her for the rest of your life, need i say more?

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

It's a whole package deal for me. I have no particular criteria for attractiveness (physical or personality wise), it's just the way it all comes together.

 

[cher1515]

Being attractive means I think two different things between men and women. Women can see past unattractive men easier than to a guy. Women get sucked into a man's soul, the way he speaks, etc. Men do as well but not as much I think as a woman. Guy's Im not saying that your more picky, Im just saying that guy's brians work differently than a woman's.

 

[RefinedByFire]

Being attractive means I think two different things between men and women. Women can see past unattractive men easier than to a guy. Women get sucked into a man's soul, the way he speaks, etc. Men do as well but not as much I think as a woman. Guy's Im not saying that your more picky, Im just saying that guy's brians work differently than a woman's.

You've pretty much nailed it in the head here. Like I've said it before, men and women are hard-wired differently. We are visual creatures. Like it or not, for the most part, the pretty gift wrapping is as important as the treasure it's concealing. Pretty blunt way of looking at things but it's the truth.

 

[Ceili]

I have been reading through these looking for some peoples opinions and havent found anything quite on topic.


How important to you is physical attraction?
I realize that it is whats inside that counts, and I totally believe that, but where is the compromise?

Just after your opinions on it....

It's very important(with me) that attraction is always there. Physical,yes. even as years pass when people age,someone should take care of themselves. I'm a bit opinionated on this.