Physical appearance preferences in Girls.Is it wrong?

[Blaise N]

Hi everyone,

I’m asking a question regarding physical appearances in a future girlfriend(and hopefully wife).Personally the most important aspect of any girl I would date is she MUST BE a Christian,this doesn’t include girls who aren’t at time of meeting and eventually convert when in a relationship with me,that’s out of the question.

To me the most important aspect is her being a daughter of Jesus and a fellow sister.

However the ONLY physical preference Id like,with all due respects,I’ll keep it as polite and respectful in explanation as possible.So many men,desire thinner girls.I’m the opposite,I really like girls who have larger legs/hips and slightly weighing a smidge more than normal.Once again not trying to be offensive,but I feel that having that only physical preference isn’t ok.

I worry sometimes that The Lord may bring me a girl skinnier,when I like the opposite.Regardless faith is still most important.But a pear shaped girl is what I like a lot,and I feel guilty that I have one physical preference.I could have a laundry list of others but they aren’t important.


Is it bad to have a physical preference like this?

 

[Nithavela]

Hi everyone,

I’m asking a question regarding physical appearances in a future girlfriend(and hopefully wife).Personally the most important aspect of any girl I would date is she MUST BE a Christian,this doesn’t include girls who aren’t at time of meeting and eventually convert when in a relationship with me,that’s out of the question.

To me the most important aspect is her being a daughter of Jesus and a fellow sister.

However the ONLY physical preference Id like,with all due respects,I’ll keep it as polite and respectful in explanation as possible.So many men,desire thinner girls.I’m the opposite,I really like girls who have larger legs/hips and slightly weighing a smidge more than normal.Once again not trying to be offensive,but I feel that having that only physical preference isn’t ok.

I worry sometimes that The Lord may bring me a girl skinnier,when I like the opposite.Regardless faith is still most important.But a pear shaped girl is what I like a lot,and I feel guilty that I have one physical preference.I could have a laundry list of others but they aren’t important.


Is it bad to have a physical preference like this?

It't not bad to have physical preferences. Just expect the women in that subgroup to also have preferences that you have to meet, as well. The higher your preferences and the less "standards" you yourself meet, the more limited your dating pool.

 

[ozso]

It's bad if it keeps you from hooking up with the right mate for you. Not morally bad. Just bad for you as in "too bad for you". Also people can change a lot over the years. While I prefer thin women, if I chose one to be my wife, I'd be doing so knowing full well that she might not remain thin.

 

[Lost4words]

Most important physical appearance for me is a lovely shiny coat and a belly that is off of the ground!

Woof!

 

[ozso]

Most important physical appearance for me is a lovely shiny coat and a belly that is off of the ground!

Woof!

I knew we had something in common.

 

[MehGuy]

Of course, it's not wrong. Women openly talk about their physical preferences all the time. Growing up as a short man my height was an issue with women. As a man who is 30+ and not really attracted to women my own age and instead prefer thin women who are several years younger than me, there isn't any moral basis for why I should pretend that age and weight isn't a huge issue for me.

 

[Saucy]

I don't think it is wrong to have a physical presence, but I think it's important to not be so stuck to it. If you meet someone who is smaller but has every other amazing quality, then hopefully you don't pass on her. It's also important to remember that people change. What if you marry her and she loses weight? Like I said in another post, I like girls with red hair, but I know she might want to dye it and it will turn gray at some point. I shouldn't find her less attractive.

 

[Sketcher]

Hi everyone,

I’m asking a question regarding physical appearances in a future girlfriend(and hopefully wife).Personally the most important aspect of any girl I would date is she MUST BE a Christian,this doesn’t include girls who aren’t at time of meeting and eventually convert when in a relationship with me,that’s out of the question.

To me the most important aspect is her being a daughter of Jesus and a fellow sister.

However the ONLY physical preference Id like,with all due respects,I’ll keep it as polite and respectful in explanation as possible.So many men,desire thinner girls.I’m the opposite,I really like girls who have larger legs/hips and slightly weighing a smidge more than normal.Once again not trying to be offensive,but I feel that having that only physical preference isn’t ok.

I worry sometimes that The Lord may bring me a girl skinnier,when I like the opposite.Regardless faith is still most important.But a pear shaped girl is what I like a lot,and I feel guilty that I have one physical preference.I could have a laundry list of others but they aren’t important.


Is it bad to have a physical preference like this?

• It's fine to have physical preferences.
• Don't worry about what your future wife will look like, because you will propose to her, and you will choose to marry her. You have a choice, why would you choose someone you're not attracted to?
• If you like fat women, the US has no shortage of fat women. More women tend to become fat over time, so if she's not quite fat enough for you now, she probably will be later.