Perfect Wedding?

[p_kitha]

What do you consider a perfect wedding? If you were to choose anything you wanted for your wedding without thinking of the prices what would you do??? what will you have in your wedding? Where will you celebrate your wedding??? What do you think its the perfect wedding?? If you were to get married again with your hudsband, or get married in a future what will be your dream wedding? Or how did your wedding was your dream wedding?..

 

[PegasusOnFire]

My dream wedding would have to be, where me and my husband are infront of the pastor, with just our family (brothers and sisters and parents only).

But alas that is not what my mother had in her mind for my wedding, so we had 150 guests.

 

[p_kitha]

that's a nice wedding private... with only family

 

[Busybee]

On a beach, with the sunsetting, and just our immediate family standing close around us while we marry. Of course, I'm thrilled with the wedding we had (it was outdoors on my inlaws yard).

 

[p_kitha]

I will also love to get married on the beach... that would be so romantic

 

[Green Orchid]

I really liked my wedding. It was big, by our own choosing, 255 guests.

4-5 months before our wedding, we wanted to elope (my family situation was terrible - not cuz of the wedding though) and just be married, no big thing.

So I guess my dream wedding would be that:
-to elope to an island,
-get married in the dress of my dreams (dress is a big deal to me, mine was not well adjusted - arrgh!)
-lots of flowers (I didn't have enough)
-no wedding veil (did it for tradition, but didn't like it)
-just enough makeup (not caked on like the makeup woman did on me)
-AND most important, to have a honeymoon over there! (we didn't have much of a honeymoon)

Dh and I have planned for our 5 year anniversary (we hope), to do a vow renewal/honeymoon in Cuba (or the like), just to make up for the first time around!

 

[LiberatedChick]

I wouldn't really change much about the wedding we had. Around 90 guests to the actual wedding itself and just over 100 in the evening for the party. Felt like a good size to us...it was still almost everyone we knew though lol. I had a big white dress, my hair done all pretty for the first time ever lol, a wonderful cake decorated by my mother, a gorgeous old red car. I felt like a princess and it was all how I imagined my wedding would be.

If I'd change anything it'd be my flowers...I had a silk bouquet which is great in one way as I've kept it and it'll still look wonderful in years to come but it would have been nice to have some real flowers somewhere other than just the buttonholes. I'd also have got married in a church. We had a lovely civil wedding service but now I've come back to Christ I would have liked it to have been in a church. I was still pagan and my husband undecided when we booked it though so we thought a church wedding would be out of the question.

 

[Jenna]

My wedding was a big bunch of fun. When Michael and I renew our vows (just because we want to ), I'd like to have a soft dress and an autumn wreath about my head. I would want to do it outside in the park, which is nice since the weather usually holds on our Anniversary.

 

[Cordy]

I don't like when people get so caught up in the ceremony when its the actual marriage itself that counts. All too often people equate marriage = *ceremony*. Marriage is the union of two people, not how many people you can fit in a church or how much money you have to spend on a dress or how pretty you can decorate.

I couldn't agree with you more! I remember a teacher once said to me that if Christians focused more on their marriages and building strong relationships rather than their wedding day, our divorce rate wouldn't be so high.

 

[PurpleBunny]

I had the exact wedding I wanted because I married the perfect man for me

I don't like when people get so caught up in the ceremony when its the actual marriage itself that counts. All too often people equate marriage = *ceremony*. Marriage is the union of two people, not how many people you can fit in a church or how much money you have to spend on a dress or how pretty you can decorate.


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As I said to my fiance, I don't care what kind of wedding we have so long as it's him 'n' me getting married... but since we can afford a good old fashioned party, let's have one! It is important that my family be there, as many as are able... and I have a LARGE family. So yeah... ideal wedding is me and Chris, with family & loved ones in attendance.

 

[LiberatedChick]

I agree that it's the marriage that counts more than the wedding. But this thread is about weddings....it's about the ceremony not the marriage. Yes, the marriage is more important but having a wonderful ceremony that'll you'll have wonderful memories of forever is also important. If that ceremony involves having a big white dress and fancy flowers like you dreamed about ever since you were little then go for it. I see no problem with having a special day in the way you want and with having the things you want as a way of celebrating the start of your marriage and your union.

 

[Katydid]

I had the wedding of my dreams, except that my in-laws couldn't come. We went to a chapel, I wore a simple white dress with baby's breath in my hair. My husband wore a suit that was 1 size too big. Both our clothes were in JCPenneys on sale. We had the preacher and my parents, I only wish that my husband's parents could have been there. It was perfect. Then we had to have another ceremony that was pretty big. 50 guests including the in-laws, and that one was perfect too. $50 dress, mom's veil. The guys wore tux's. We were out on the battlefield by the lake. We had an arch of blue and white flowers. Perfect. Personally, my first ceremony will always be the one I rember as being the Wedding. The other was more of a get together.

 

[Jengi]

I loved my wedding...I loved my dress and the flowers were perfect. One of my favorite things was my wedding cake. The florist and the baker worked together and my cake was topped with flowers that matched the bridesmaids flowers. (Which coordinated with the dresses and happened to match the new carpet in the church)

The only thing I would change is the hail storm before the rehersal that made everyone coming from out of town late and the tornado warnings an hour before the ceremony! The weather did settle down to just a steady rain by the start of the wedding, but many people couldn't make it because of the weather.

I wanted a big wedding with all of our family and friends and I had it, but the main thing that I kept in mind all through the planning process and also what kept me sane on the day of the wedding is that at the end of the day, no matter what went on during the day I would be married to the man of my dreams. We had the wedding in my hometown and our friends and my husband's family came from out of town. Everyone stayed in one hotel and we had several events the day of the wedding (bridesmaids breakfast and breakfast and target shooting for the men) so it was a lot of fun..."a weekend event". I really enjoyed seeing everyone having fun together and knowing they were there to share that special day was so exciting!

 

[p_kitha]

I love getting wedding ideas... But its true that what really matters is the union of the person you love but its also cute to have good memories of your wedding...

 

[faith renewal]

Okay, so not exactly on topic, but kind of. Maybe it's how my wedding WASN'T the perfect wedding. Jon, my husband, forgot to give the pastor a copy of the vows before the ceremony. When it came time to say the vows, his mind went totally blank. With no prompt to help him out, the pastor just moved onto the rings! It will make a great anecdote to tell our grandchildren some day, and for now it gives me something to tease him about. Along with the "What's that supposed to mean?" story. But I'll save that one for another day!

 

[p_kitha]

Weddings are so important...

 

[plum]

the perfect wedding for me and mine would be one individually crafted by us. we're both non-traditional and so we would like to bring in a lot of ourselves into the ceremony. and it would be pretty small with family, closest friends... i'd love to have a huge party with ALL of my friends though sometime after. that would just be fun and informal. perhaps that's what the 'reception' would look like. Rockin good time!

 

[isaiah5213]

gosh, if there is no money involved, then golly.. i have lots of ideas...

i would have men be my brides'men, --i had two favorite friends of mine that were my best friends for 11 years or more--but they were men..(how shallow of me, i know.. i had a really hard time giving my heart to women-better now...)

i would have had a more elaborate dress rehearsal, to the wedding party. we had a good dinner for them, where they received italian works, but i would want lobster, steak, shrimp works for them, because i wanted to show my friends how greatful i was for all their hard work w/us!

i would have skipped the photography session--i wanted not to see my man before the wedding, but then afterwards we tied everyone up w/pictures, and then when my hubby and i were sneaking a kiss in a secret room after the wedding, we got stuck in the room for 15 minutes before we could get out.. so the reception was delayed...of course. sigh.

not enough greenery. i love greenery, and if i could've, i would've absolutely went wild on the greenery, and when we were running to the vehicle, then i would have wanted japanese firecrackers to go off...

you know, i really enjoyed my wedding, and the honeymoon.. i got many compliments about how fun it was. and i have no intentions of repeating my ceremony...

if i did it over again, i would probably do it to better please my mom.. but then again, i think she should have to get over it...

 

[Southern Cross]

Here are my three choices:

1. On a beach in the evening at sunset
2. On a hill top with flaming fall colors all around us
3. If I could find a small stone chapel by a stream or lake to have the ceremony, it would be perfect. Somewhere like a glen in Scotland and an ancient chapel, at the time between times (if you know what that is, it can be very romantic)

I would pray for God's presence at my wedding, to make it incredibly special.

Then afterward, a very small, relaxed private gathering for an incredible outdoor meal with candles, white tents, and slow dancing under the moon and stars. I'd want my faith and beliefs to be clear to everyone present - and for everyone to have a great time.

I very much like the medieval style weddings I've seen. Not necessarily the clothing, but the locations and quiet reverence of the ceremony in a natural setting and the fellowship with friends and family afterward is fantastic.

No uptight tuxedos and exotic bridesmaids dresses. No loud DJs with loud music. No photographer for the whole event except just before and after the ceremony and then to rove around taking pictures of friends and family for a few minutes. No dry pastors rambling on for the umpteenth time about the sanctity of marriage and their canned stories and warnings; I'd want someone real and alive in their faith and a quietly vibrant speaker to deliver a message about the true meaning of marriage and salvation - I'd actually prefer a pastor on fire for the Lord and who knows how to smile. Definitely want a string quartet or flute/horn quartet for the ceremony, or something similar with a classic feel to it.

Definitely would not want tons of people present. 30-40 at most. Just very close family and selected friends. I didn't know 3/4 of the people at my wedding and I really wanted something more intimate. Our pastor was very, very dry and told some story about a blossoming flower that lost a lot of people. I mean, we still had a WONDERFUL wedding, just knowing what I know now I'd do it differently. Maybe one day I will marry my wife again and we'll do one of the above things to make it really special.

I attend about 1-2 weddings a week as a photographer. And sometimes it's the same old stuff in the same old locations. They still turn out to be great events. I find myself trying to be as creative as possible to avoid giving the couple the "same old" pictures (and I usually succeed very well - than goodness for b&w natural light photos). But sometimes I'm truly surprised by the creativity of the bride and groom in choosing their location and theme for the wedding, and the passion and love of the event literally permeates the air. You can just feel it. The smaller the wedding, the more you can sense God's presence at some Christian weddings.

 

[Yitzchak]

My favorite memory from our wedding was when my father-in-law layed hands on us and prayed a blessing on our marriage.
If I had to do it over again, I would add more of that sort of thing. Have friends, pastors, etc write something to be read or read it themselves blessing our marriage. I also would include something like that to be said by us to each other.