perceptions

[janny108]

sometimes I wonder about my perceptions. I know that when I am tired and not feeling good, that they can get kind of warped. I emailed a chaplain and he told me because I am a new student in college(I'm an older student) and being anemic due to abnormal bleeding that would take a toll on my emotions.

When people don't speak to me say when in choir, I think they don't like me. Granted I'm not real funny or cute or extroverted, but to me it should be about walking in the spirit, not on how someone's personality is.

I really have a problem with this. I don't feel I have to be the center of attention. Like if it's quiet for 5 minutes, someone just HAS TO say something they think is funny. It kind of gets on my nerves.

I'm not a night person either so when a crowd gets together I have to try extra harder somehow to be "cheery".

Anyone know what I am talking about? It's making me down. I've been in the church for 6 months and don't feel like I have friends there yet. Have a lot of acquaintances I'm sure you can relate to that.

Thanks for listening.
Jan

 

[janny108]

I really do try to be friendly and maybe comment on a prayer request or something. I will talk with people about that, but they don't take the initiative to talk to me. It's always like I have to make the first move.
Jan

 

[AWorkInProgress]

sometimes I wonder about my perceptions. I know that when I am tired and not feeling good, that they can get kind of warped. I emailed a chaplain and he told me because I am a new student in college(I'm an older student) and being anemic due to abnormal bleeding that would take a toll on my emotions.

When people don't speak to me say when in choir, I think they don't like me. Granted I'm not real funny or cute or extroverted, but to me it should be about walking in the spirit, not on how someone's personality is.

I really have a problem with this. I don't feel I have to be the center of attention. Like if it's quiet for 5 minutes, someone just HAS TO say something they think is funny. It kind of gets on my nerves.

I'm not a night person either so when a crowd gets together I have to try extra harder somehow to be "cheery".

Anyone know what I am talking about? It's making me down. I've been in the church for 6 months and don't feel like I have friends there yet. Have a lot of acquaintances I'm sure you can relate to that.

Thanks for listening.
Jan

Tell you two things;

First is that you are a beautiful child of God. Where everyone else judge or fail to see how gifted you are, God knows. Try not to find yourself in how others view who you are, instead take stock in what God sees in you. He is our friend, he never forsaken us, and has been with us long before we were saved.

Second is that you should take the next year and just get to know yourself. Learn what your strengths and weaknesses are. Find out what your passions in life are. Keep seeking His wisdom from the word of God. Realize the truth, that we are all students. The learning never stops. Learn how to use your strengths to overcome your weakness or deligate them to others.

One of the best sermans I listen to was teaching about seeking the face of God. To understand the person who created us, helps in understand ourselves. Should ask for help in our prayers, but don't forget to seek his face. To spend time just talking to him, working out problems or sharing pains we suffer. Look at the psalms, King David suffered thru a great deal. He cry out to God asking for his help, sharing how he felt. Over and over again God graced him with his mercy.

Don't hand over your self image to others. Put it in the hands of our savior. We have a heavenly Father who corrects us and truly loves us. Listen, learn, and grow in Him.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

Hi Jan,

When I feel down, I get sensitive to others and my perception of how they are "thinking" about me sometimes... or their lack of paying attention to me. When I feel good, I'm pretty outgoing.

I attended a church after moving several years ago, and it was a small group of people. I thought it would be a good match. As hard as I tried, I just didn't fit in because they wouldn't let me in (I have never had difficulty fitting in at other churches if I participated in something like classes or social or something).

When you are feeling good, do you feel like you fit in there or have you not been doing well the past 6 months you've been there? Sometimes it's our perceptions, and sometimes it's just the people there.

Glad you posted.

Kristen

 

[DoesAnybodyHearHer]

i know how you feel, because i find its the same at college but i am very shy and dont like big crowds of people.

i cant really offer much advice apart from try and be yourself because God created you to be you!!!

 

[janny108]

i know how you feel, because i find its the same at college but i am very shy and dont like big crowds of people.

i cant really offer much advice apart from try and be yourself because God created you to be you!!!

I'm in college too. ((hugs))
Jan