People hate me.

[appointed]

I don't really know when this started, or when it's going to end, I'll I know is that I'm sick of life and everything in it. People hate me, and to tell you the truth, I hate myself. During adolescence, my parents assured me that everything would pass, and I would feel normal again. Everything is not normal, years later in college. In fact, I feel hopeless. But, I haven't had a genuine friend... ever, to come to think of it.
People probably....

You know what, I really don't want to type anymore.

 

[WhoeverLovesGod01]

Things never seem to get "normal", no matter how hard we try. In fact, things seem to get worse the more we move out of that childish isolation most of us are blessed to enjoy. The thing is, the older we get, the wiser we should become. We can learn to deal with life's difficulties and respond to them better.

You can't expect people to like you if you're not enthusiastic for anything. I know I spent a lot of years without friends and even now, i'm lonely in a new country. I never coped well with the social scene in high school and college, but then again it's very superficial and you might be observing others without understanding that thier lives are filled with sugar-coated emptiness too.

The key to all difficulties of this type is to focus on God. He's your Father. He's your best friend. He's the one you tell your secrets to and the one who understands your heart. He's the faithful and joyful God which loves you with more love than any friend could provide. First and foremost, you should have a relationship with God; other relationships will follow.

Why don't you just think to yourself: "Okay, i'm lonely. Things aren't working out in my life right now, but that's okay. I have what so many people dont have - a relationship with God. That relationship is the most important relationship I have and the one that will bring me true joy. I believe that my relationship with God is real and amazing and if I persue it, I will see it's reality more and more!"

God said: "I am your portion." The key is to PRACTICE in order to BELIEVE and FULFILL this promise - that God is always enough for everybody.

 

[Soulwings]

My question to you is... how do you know that people "hate" you?
Perhaps they are simply put off by your attitude about yourself. That has happened to me. I'm not the most self confident of people, and I hate myself too, and it tends to scare off many people, especially those of the opposite sex.

 

[RaddMadd]

who cares if people hate you, we don't need people we need God, and He love you!!!

God bless!

 

[PrairieGurl]

Dearest Appointed,

I agree with Soulwings... how do you know people hate you?? I found with myself that the more I disliked myself the more I thought people disliked me. Please do not try to figure out what others think ! I find more times than not...I'm wrong with what "they think".

Are you on meds? Do you have a pdoc or counselor? I'm glad you feel free to post your feelings.

Middlemoor had wise advice. Sometimes I didn't want to hear advice like this, but "hang on" appointed..."things" WILL change.

In Him, & "s

 

[saucyspicysoy]

Hey i was going through the same thing you did for awhile. You know, it will pass. You will realize that maybe your perceptions are skewed, and that's normal too. i know how hard it is, i've been through the same thing basically. It's easier if you learn how God loves you, and that He had created you fearfully and wonderfully that you realize that you ain't that bad. I'm sure also that you're not the only 1.

 

[Ruth~]

I don't hate you. God loves you and you are someone special who deserves good. Be good to yourself.

 

[HolyOne87]

I don't really know when this started, or when it's going to end, I'll I know is that I'm sick of life and everything in it. People hate me, and to tell you the truth, I hate myself. During adolescence, my parents assured me that everything would pass, and I would feel normal again. Everything is not normal, years later in college. In fact, I feel hopeless. But, I haven't had a genuine friend... ever, to come to think of it.
People probably....

You know what, I really don't want to type anymore.

I am sorry to hear you havent had a genuine friend. I wish you wouldnt hate yourself. I know its hard not to.
And I dont hate you either. If you ever need someone to talk to, I am here..Just PM me..I am online a lot.
I must admit,I don't give the greatest of words, but I do try my hardest to give the best words I can and I am a pretty good listener.

Hope you feel better!

+God Bless+

 

[TheMainException]

Hey, no one can assure to you that it will pass, least of all me, someone who knows nothing about you or your situation, but I'll offer you what I know. I took anti-D's for about a year. I'm off of them now and doing good. I have my bad moments when I get urges to SI or feel like dying, but the are rare now. I hit low spots, but they aren't so low anymore. I think that your depression has the world to do with chemicals in your brain. I really suggest talking to a doctor about this. DON'T GO THROUGH THIS ANYMORE. There is help. There are so many helpful things out there for people with depression. Spend time in the sun and exercising too, those two things have been show to help. but I really think that talking to a doctor can really help you. And don't be discouraged if you go through a whole pile of different kinds of meds before you find the one that works for you. Each med has a different amount and type of chemicals in it...you and your doc just need to figure out what works for you. I went through about 6 before I came upon the right med and dose. I hope it works for you, less people hate you than you think. Like me, you may be overanalyzing...they probably aren't even thinking about you at all. If asked what they thought of you, they would probably say, "oh, yeah, she's in my math class, she doesn't say much." And never mention a thing about hating you, cause they just haven't taken the time to come talk to you. They don't hate you, they are just wrapped up in other things. I hope things go better for you after reading all of these posts. Much love

 

[tamlis]

Have you ever taken antidepressants? Part of the problem with depression can be with a chemical imbalance in the brain. Sometimes you have to keep trying different meds to see which one is right for you.

And know that God is there. He loves us and wants to comfort us when we hurt.

God bless