Peacocks and oranges

[SweetDee]

Did you ever think that you would still be single at your current age?


Or did you already imagine yourself married with kids etc etc or at least closer to that stage than you are presently?









and no the title serves no purpose in this thread

 

[Obzocky]

I LIKE PEACOCKS, THEY'RE SO PRETTY.

Erm. Anyhoot. No, not really, as a young idealistic teen I thought i'd do what everyone in the village did and get married to the childhood sweetheart, pump out babies and work part-time in the big town supermarket. Everyone expected it.
That didn't work out

 

[Dzhessika]

Nope honestly I never did I thought I would be married to my best friend by now ...have a couple of kids running around in our house with a white pickett fence .But alas it didn't happen and if I'm still single by 30 I don't know what I will do.

 

[MacFall]

I figured I'd get married at around 20 until I was about 18. Then I moved it back another 5 years. At 24 and still no dates by that time I'd begun to admit to myself that I might not ever get married.

 

[Rhamiel]

i figured i would be married by now... never really thought about kids, i would start making a time line for that once i got serious with a girl

to tell the truth, this whole thing leaves me very depressed

 

[white dove]

Thank goodness for the preview button!

Did you ever think that you would still be single at your current age?


Or did you already imagine yourself married with kids etc etc or at least closer to that stage than you are presently?

Yes.



No.




Ask me again in 5 years though!

 

[Im_A]

Did you ever think that you would still be single at your current age?


Or did you already imagine yourself married with kids etc etc or at least closer to that stage than you are presently?











and no the title serves no purpose in this thread

At my age, at the very least, I imagined myself married with a woman that I'll be with the rest of my life. The way I see it is:
I have the potential...I got half way there once before.

 

[sea oat]

I don't know. I don't think I ever planned out a timeline of my life in terms of relationships, which is probably a good thing.

There have been a few times in my life when I was in a relationship with someone I thought I would get married to, but obviously it didn't work out.

I do feel left behind sometimes, as most people I know are already married, and/or parents by now. However, I'm in no rush, partially because I'm still healing from my last relationship, but also because I have to leave things in God's hands. If marriage happens for me, then wonderful. If it doesn't, maybe it wasn't meant to be.

 

[Fremdin]

I thought I'd die alone.

 

[crishmael]

I thought I'd likely be married by my mid-20s but that hasn't happened. But I'm not fretting over my singleness now at all.

 

[Oddish]

When I was young, I wanted to move out at 16, find a partner by 18, get married soon after that and have kids at 26.

 

[Gym]

I thought I'd still be single right now when I was young.. yes
and whaddya know? I am!

 

[Oddish]

I thought I'd still be single right now when I was young.. yes
and whaddya know? I am!

What are the winning lotto numbers for next wednesday?

Joking!

 

[broken_one]

I thought I'd already have met someone, and I'd be getting married in a few years.

You need a few years to make sure that this is what you want for the rest of your life, you know?

 

[Thomas1984]

I wasn't raised as a Christian and so marriage seemed like a far off fantasy. Right now, I've too many other things to deal with in life, apart from actually meeting a girl that I like AND who is also single herself. For the time being though, that's probably a blessing, although it would be great to be in a relationship.

On a sceptical note, I have often looked at the state of the world and thought, "Do I really want to create life and bring it into this?". That probably won't stop me though, when I get the chance?

 

[kevlite2020]

I almost got married when I was 20 but even during all that I didn't really think I'd be married, I was all like whoa dude. After that I didn't even think marriage at all until becoming a Christian. I still think I'll probably be like 30 or so before I'm married, but really who knows.

 

[Balugon]

I kinda got thrown for some spiritual loops before I settled in on an age I expected to be married by. I would have had to say, when I was young, that 25 seemed like a good age to get married by (aka- I thought most people got married for the first time by this age). But now I have no issues with waiting til I'm older (even early 50's, or older if both our bodies stayed in decent shape) to get married. I am able to handle myself and have fulfillment in life without being married. And honestly, I know the marriage will be able to be that much better the longer I wait, because I will know how to react and care for a wife better once I have more knowledge on how to treat people more in line with the ways of God's love. I am curious as to what the sexual experience is like, but outside of that, there's no big desire for me to get married (I can have close and very connected relationships with friends, and life and God offer plenty of opportunities for learning new things and being able to find joy emotionally).

Spoiler: Random extra thoughts

I have no big desire for kids. They take a ton of time and energy, and the callings on my life right now are tugging on me to use my time and energy on them (my callings). Not to mention I'm going to be a grade school teacher, so I'll have plenty of kids around, just not my own. And I'm okay with that, because what most people who want kids don't realize is that those kids they give birth to are going to become their own persons someday (And already are once they are born, even if the parents don't want to acknowledge that), and that those people have no obligation to choose to have a relationship with said parents if they don't want to (the kids might need parents for food, but it doesn't mean they can be forced to enjoy a relationship with their parents, and later on may have no relationship at all). So really, it seems to me, that it would be no different than loving a stranger, except you have more memories with one over the other.

 

[SweetDee]

Thank you all for the posts so far, you guys are awesome


I have always pictured myself at least married by now. I thought that I would go from my parents house straight to my husband's house. I think the main reason why I felt this way is because every female in my family did this. All of the women in my family got married around 19 or 20 and had babies within the following year. I obviously did not do that. Things change though and even though I never thought I would still be single at 25, looking at my life now I can't imagine myself married now or having kids in tow. I do want a relationship but as far as marriage and kids go I am content on not having that chapter in my life being written for some time. Also, I am happy that I am able to experience the whole 'living on your own and having room mates' thing. It is alot of fun

 

[Im_A]

Thank you all for the posts so far, you guys are awesome


I have always pictured myself at least married by now. I thought that I would go from my parents house straight to my parents house. I think the main reason why I felt this way is because every female in my family did this. All of the women in my family got married around 19 or 20 and had babies within the following year. I obviously did not do that. Things change though and even though I never thought I would still be single at 25, looking at my life now I can't imagine myself married now or having kids in tow. I do want a relationship but as far as marriage and kids go I am content on not having that chapter in my life being written for some time. Also, I am happy that I am able to experience the whole 'living on your own and having room mates' thing. It is alot of fun

Mine was several part reason why I thought the bare thing would be marriage.

In high school I only had one g/f and we broke up my senior year. So that created that expectancy to last for some time.

My dad is on his 5th wife and my mom has had 2 marriages end. Planning for me to be married by this time was my way of trying to combat the luck of my family. I figured before now would mean a higher chance of it lasting for good because we would experience life changes together etc. Yeeea it doesn't work out like that.

Lastly, it was what I wanted back then. The idea of having someone with me to experience life with sounded more than good...still does to be honest.
Now? Well like I've stated before in a thread about crushing, I'm not marriage minded whatsoever. Reasons are I just prefer to be fully minded at the place and stage I'm at. The next time I'll be marriage minded will be when I do a second proposal.

 

[traingosorry]

I was kinda hoping this would be about peacocks!

When I was younger I figured I would have been settled down by my late 20's with husband and a home. I never really wanted kids of my own, though I loved them.

A few years ago my life could have been very different had things gone a different direction and thinking back, I can't even imagine it. I'm 30 now and not rushing into marriage because there are things I want to accomplish first. What does scare me though is my age and a sudden desire to have kids that might show its face a bit too late.