Pda

[Mrs. Luther073082]

He puts his arm around me at church and we hold hands sometimes. We snuggle and hold hands around family and friends as well as pretty much anywhere but we do not kiss in front of other people.

 

[HisLittleHazelnut]

My family doesn't even want us holding hands or staring into each other's eyes when we're around them.

 

[Luther073082]

How much PDA is appropriate ....

First of all it depends on who your friends and family are. I will make a point with me and my gf because we have two different families with two different belief systems. My parents arn't Christians.

- when you meet at church

I usually just keep it to handholding at that point with the exception of hugging and kiss on the cheek during the sharing of the peace.

- around family
- around friends

My family: We don't kiss in public but it wouldn't bother anyone in my family if we did. We cuddle, give massages, hold hands etc.

Her family: We're less forward. We cuddle and hold hands but the cuddling is much lighter and less apparent.

When is it too much? And why?

Whenever the people around start getting offended or disgusted by your behavior.

 

[seremela06]

How much PDA is appropriate ....

- when you meet at church
- around family
- around friends

When is it too much? And why?

Jonathan

well, i used to think that PDA at church was innapropriate even though all the married couples did it. now, i disagree because my husband and i do it! we hold hands, put our arms around each other, hand on the leg, sneak in a quick kiss. i don't really think PDA is wrong, at least after you're married. i'm proud of my husband and want everyone to know it! now, i've never broke out into a full blown make out session in public, that's really gross, but just holding hands, kisses, arms around each other, etc is fine in my opinion.

 

[seremela06]

What do you guys think about always having to sit together (especially at church or hanging out at someone's house)? Especially if there are single friends around but we are all good pals... ? Is it an unspoken rule that couples sit together or is it ok to mingle or what...

i prefer to stay with my husband in a social setting. i don't mind if he gets up and mingles for a few minutes, but at church or like, at dinner or something, i expect that we will always sit together. he is very big on this as well. apparently his parents wouldn't even let their children sit between them.

 

[Blank123]

i don't think there's anything particularly insecure or strange about wanting to sit with your SO, although if one insists on it all the time and throws a temper tantrum because the other chooses to sit with someone else there very well could be some issues going on that need to be addressed.

personsally i like sitting next to my bf at different things, but then we're in a LDR and we don't really go to a lot of social events when we are together so its not like i have another friend i could sit with if we did go somewhere with friends and he chose to sit with someone else leaving me to sit with another friend i doubt i'd freak out though and neither would i complain if he chose to sit next to me.

its funny though, i remember my mother telling me about a get together she and my father had with a few other couples at someone's house and they were the only two that chose not to sit together so one of the wives asked my mother if they were fighting because she couldn't comprehend how you could be happily married and choose not to sit with your spouse