Passing Up On Potentials!

[Annova]

Do any of you over and over pass up on men or women?

I did AGAIN! Stupid me let another guy walk right out and the SIGNS were there.

Don't understand why I did but kind of his fault because he knew I was leaving for college this summer and waited until the last minute to make his MOVE!

Known him since January of last year and waits all this time. Probably did it on purpose. Ugh...!

 

[MysteriousDisciple]

I have twice... because I am like insanely shy. I've had a few nice Christian girls come up and talk to me, then I just froze and said idiotic things, like introducing myself twice or something weird and not knowing what to say... any other time I have lots to say... I didn't "pass up" them on purpose, it just happened and I wish I could change it, because you never see those people again if you don't ask them for their info or try to and get to know them.... unless they go to your Church or something, seems like the majority of girls in my Church have boyfriends... oh well... lol

 

[Im_A]

Do any of you over and over pass up on men or women?

I did AGAIN! Stupid me let another guy walk right out and the SIGNS were there.

Don't understand why I did but kind of his fault because he knew I was leaving for college this summer and waited until the last minute to make his MOVE!

Known him since January of last year and waits all this time. Probably did it on purpose. Ugh...!

think maybe it's both of your faults? i'm not meaning to be mean here.

but you let him slip out of your hands while you very well knew that you were leaveing for college and he did the same. obviously not much of a potential eh?

 

[Annova]

think maybe it's both of your faults? i'm not meaning to be mean here.

but you let him slip out of your hands while you very well knew that you were leaveing for college and he did the same. obviously not much of a potential eh?

I know. But still I could have let it go long distance.

 

[Tenorvoice]

Do any of you over and over pass up on men or women?

I did AGAIN! Stupid me let another guy walk right out and the SIGNS were there.

Don't understand why I did but kind of his fault because he knew I was leaving for college this summer and waited until the last minute to make his MOVE!

Known him since January of last year and waits all this time. Probably did it on purpose. Ugh...!

Did it @ Youth Camp last year.

This young lady that was there for the summer doing her Nursing Degree (our camps are @ Liberty University), and she was hittin on me so bad (hindsight 20/20.)

Me being a guy was 100% totally oblivious to it at the time.

Oh well, live and learn

 

[Macrina]

Me being a guy was 100% totally oblivious to it at the time.

Sadly, it's not just guys who have that problem, although the stereotype would tell us otherwise.

I wouldn't say that I pass up potentials "over and over," but I've let a few slip by in my time, and most of that can be credited to oblivion on my part. Unless a guy says "I'm attracted to you" or "do you want to date me?" I pretty much figure that he's not interested. I might wish he were interested, but even then I'm bad at discerning signs.

At the end of the day, though, I can look back and see that they probably wouldn't have been wise choices anyway, so perhaps divine Providence was at work through my oblivion.

Although it would also be nice if divine Providence chose to work through the right guy being bold and straightforward.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I don't pass up potentials all that often. But I have had instances where a guy was showing his interest and I was totally not getting it. Subtleties don't work on me, you have to be completely straightforward, lol. Maybe I'm just dense

But hindsight IS 20/20. But things didn't work out for a reason so I can't dwell on it.

 

[plum]

I can recall one time, yes.

We hung out at a college age bible study, had some laughs, and then saw Spiderman 2 together when it came out. Had a great conversation, had heaps in common... he was handsome, sweet, family-oriented, godly, etc etc etc... and for some inexplicable reason I just stopped talking with him and started talking to an old friend of mine instead (who ended up being my boyfriend in the worst relationship I've had yet)...

 

[Kawliga]

There was a loan officer (female) back in Memphis that saw my name on a title to a car that I sold my buddy and she got all excited and asked my friend all about me. He told me how her eyes lit up when she saw that, and I was like "what!?". I wasn't sure, but I thought the signs were there. Apparently women need to break out their skillets and start hitting us over the heads.

 

[Im_A]

Do any of you over and over pass up on men or women?

I did AGAIN! Stupid me let another guy walk right out and the SIGNS were there.

Don't understand why I did but kind of his fault because he knew I was leaving for college this summer and waited until the last minute to make his MOVE!

Known him since January of last year and waits all this time. Probably did it on purpose. Ugh...!

i didn't even think to answer your question in your OP in my first response. my apologies.

the answer is no. if i don't want them, they aren't a potential to me.

 

[Photios]

To my knowledge, not since I became a Christian.

That being said, even before that, I was oblivious until after the fact. As I've been overweight since about the time I was 12, I generally go under the assumption that no one's interested.

 

[IseekTheTruth]

Ladies... give the guys some signs you like him... look him in the eye... laugh with him... touch him on the shoulder or something. Say things like, "We should hang out sometime!"

Guys... grow a pair.

okay okay... maybe not the best advice haha. Honestly, though, is that not 90% of the problem right there?

 

[MysteriousDisciple]

Dude, you should write books and stuff.















P)

 

[Luther073082]

I have twice. One was a mistake, the other was not. The second one I just didn't have any feelings for her. She was a great person but for some reason or another it just wasn't there.

 

[WendyV]

What can I say - the chance would be a fine thing

 

[Annova]

Ladies... give the guys some signs you like him... look him in the eye... laugh with him... touch him on the shoulder or something. Say things like, "We should hang out sometime!"

Guys... grow a pair.

okay okay... maybe not the best advice haha. Honestly, though, is that not 90% of the problem right there?

Loving it, LOL!!

 

[Jenster]

I passed up on someone (intentionally) after thinking about it. Now he is starting to hang out with my friend, and I can't help but have those twinges. "Should I have dated him?" "Was I wrong?"

How do you know if you made the right decision? I can't help but think I did, but maybe I'm just not open to a relationship. Yet, that might not be true, since I do have a crush on someone (though he is not available). So it's not that I don't like *anyone* -- it's that I don't want to get into a relationship just for the sake of getting into a relationship. Ya know?

 

[IseekTheTruth]

I don't want to get into a relationship just for the sake of getting into a relationship. Ya know?

Yes. Good. Don't.