Partner influence

[DZoolander]

When I see other people talking about things in their lives, I always kinda put myself into their position and wonder "what would I do/think in a similar situation?"

With that in mind - I've got a friend who has a daughter that's married to a guy that fights in one of those UFC type leagues. He makes an okay amount of money at it - not a lot - but enough to get them by. The daughter is basically a stay at home mom with a lot of student debt.

Recently on FB I saw my friend make a post where apparently her daughter is throwing her hat into the ring (literally) and has her first fight coming up in that same league.

How would you react to that as a parent? I can say that it wouldn't make me all that happy.

 

[OK Jeff]

I would absolutely not approve. But when the child is an adult, what could you do?

 

[Poppyseed78]

I would not like this. But as others posted, if she's an adult, it's her choice. Simply not a choice with which I would agree.

 

[Tropical Wilds]

I hate UFC/WWF/wrestling/boxing/whatever. Like, I looooathe it.

If one of the kids wanted to get into it, I’d do the annoying parent thing of “is your insurance square,” and “will you be covered if you are injured for a prolonged time,” and another 3,000 insurance questions, I’d request they have “in case of” plans for the kids should the worst happen and I’d want to know their medical directives so I could support their partner in making sure they’re adhered to.

Then I’d say “you know I love you, you know I can’t watch, but I hope you do well and stay safe and I hope you are doing what you love.”

That said, I’m especially sensitive to wanting to follow a dream and how much it sucks to not, so despite how much I hate the sport the fact that it’s their dream would cover a lot of sins.

 

[RedPonyDriver]

When I see other people talking about things in their lives, I always kinda put myself into their position and wonder "what would I do/think in a similar situation?"

With that in mind - I've got a friend who has a daughter that's married to a guy that fights in one of those UFC type leagues. He makes an okay amount of money at it - not a lot - but enough to get them by. The daughter is basically a stay at home mom with a lot of student debt.

Recently on FB I saw my friend make a post where apparently her daughter is throwing her hat into the ring (literally) and has her first fight coming up in that same league.

How would you react to that as a parent? I can say that it wouldn't make me all that happy.

She's grown. You could be as upset as you want to be but you have absolutely no say in it. Past a certain age, a parent's opinion really doesn't mean squat.

 

[Odetta]

Hmm. I don't have daughters, just sons. So if my child wanted to do that and make some money, I'd be in the stands. Cringing when he gets hit, but in the stands none the less. Heck, they've already done it for medals (martial arts). I really don't know how I'd be with a daughter.