Parenting: Children Today

[tannicv2]

I have no kids but I do have a questions to parents though. I'm not here to make anyone look bad but a thought came to me which might be a good topic to discuss here.

Do you think how some children behave today are a result of not following God instructions on certain issues like discipline?

 

[katautumn]

Do you think how some children behave today are a result of not following God instructions on certain issues like discipline?

If you're referring specifically to spanking, then I don't agree. Sorry, but I'm 100% opposed to using any sort of discipline tactic that relies solely on breaking a child down/making them feel awful in order to build them back up again. It's the same thing an abusive adult does to their romantic partner. You break them down and go through the "honeymoon period" to build them back up and get them in your good graces. I'm against using shaming language, threats, isolation tactics designed to make a child feel the emotional pain of being alone, or physical pain to teach a child valuable life lessons.

Some children behave the way they do today because many parents don't have the tools to effectively handle problematic situations without yelling, threats, shaming or inflicting physical pain. Diet is also a huge problem. Too much sugar, caffeine, HFCS and gluten are known to cause behavioral problems in children. Parents are also ill equipped to deal with what is common, age expected behavior and instead think it's vital to address and alter those behaviors by use of corporal punishment.

 

[SiyoNqoba]

Yes, bad behaviour is probably due to not following God's instructions. But, no, I do not think that it's just "how some children behave today." People have been sinning since the fall. It hasn't gotten any worse (just read a history book). How people have behaved almost since the beginning of time has been a result of not following God's instructions.

 

[akmom]

I think kids today are generally better behaved than my childhood peers. There is a greater focus on communication and conflict resolution now, and it helps children choose to behave because they understand the value of it, rather than fear of discipline. But I don't think you can raise children with completely tear-free discipline either.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

I have no kids but I do have a questions to parents though. I'm not here to make anyone look bad but a thought came to me which might be a good topic to discuss here.

Do you think how some children behave today are a result of not following God instructions on certain issues like discipline?

People I know that spank their kids, their kids still misbehave. Mabey kids are just being kids and that's why they don't always behave. Also the majority of people in the USA still spank their kids. I've only known of a few parents that didn't spank their kids,they seem fine and don't act out of control. You should be asking if adults break laws because their parents didn't set a good example. I've seen kids spanked and their parents don't set good examples.

 

[gracefulone1980]

I think it's a mix of both of God not being in the home and of parents not doing there jobs as parents. (I don't mean spanking either...I don't believe spanking solves anything.) My personal thoughts are parents are so over busy these days and by the end of the day, honestly, some are too busy to parent. Also, some of them seem to want to be their kids friends, not parent. Parents who are involved with their kids will most likely see better behavior. Kids who are peer oriented are going to follow their peers, not adults in their life. That does not mean that kids sometimes are just being kids. I suppose you would need to elaborate on your post to specifically say what you mean as far as kids behavior "today".

 

[IamStefanie]

Discipline does not always include spanking. Discipline, to me, is doing the right things over and over until they become a part of you. Spanking is done rarely in my home. I really don't even like hurting my son or seeing him cry because I have physically or emotionally hurt him. But like someone else said, children have been misbehaving long before now. But keep in mind, we are in a fallen world. But God is still here, and if we continue to abide in His Holy Spirit, I believe we can make good decisions in regards to parenting our children.

 

[JRSut1000]

If anything, I think children misbehave because the PARENTS dont follow God's ways. Just cuz children grow up with parents who go to church doesnt mean that they are going to behave like little Christians. If the parents arent behaving like and exemplifying Christ in the home, then why should the children? If the parents are mean and out of control, why wouldnt the kids be? If the parents are arguing and disreprecting each other, why wouldnt the kids too? Just sayin...

 

[white dove]

I have no kids but I do have a questions to parents though. I'm not here to make anyone look bad but a thought came to me which might be a good topic to discuss here.

Do you think how some children behave today are a result of not following God instructions on certain issues like discipline?

I think these things have an impact on how children behave:

* How parents love their children - how much they show their children that they are loved and that they matter to them, how much quality time is spent with their children each day
* Parent's disciplining techniques - either they are too harsh (hitting, yelling) or non-existent
* To coincide with the above, not giving children positive reinforcement when the situation calls for it
* Society - what children learn from themselves and others through society (television, movies, other children, other adults, etc.)