Let's talk about babies development, babies ages & stages. Share with us your ideas and tips about Parenting Babies.
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Parenting Babies
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The rates and stages babies and children develop at and through are vey individual... I have heard of babies take their first steps at 6 months and some at two years and are still all normal healthy lovely babies... so I think these are intersting to observe but are not to worry about or be overly interested in. Ther is an increasing push to use these attributes inorder to moniter development and establish a norm... but in my mind it is individuality itsef that is a norm of our humanness.
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Yep they differ from one end to the other. We had an 8 mo. old walker (#2) and a almost 12 mo. old walker (#4). Talking varied too. Best way to parent a baby? Love and more love and patience.
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Ok this will be great and as soon as our baby is born i'll pop in with my words and stuff.
but i have a question..... can you give this stay at home dad any ideas on what to expect and any resources to help a stay at home dad?
but i have a question..... can you give this stay at home dad any ideas on what to expect and any resources to help a stay at home dad?
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Manna
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Here's a few sites:
www.dadstayshome.com
www.wksu.org/news/features/familyseries/homedads.html
www.npr.org/features/feature.php?wfId=1359753
www.athomedad.com
Hope they help!
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My pediatrican ALWAYS said the best and only thing we need to do is Feed them and love them. never answer the phone or door when they are in the tub and strap em in. LOL.. he was a good doctor.
really though all Kids are different.my 2 girls are night in day from the way the look, act and learn. I think the best thing you can do is find out the best thing that works and go with it.. and mostly just enjoy them.
-Jillian
really though all Kids are different.my 2 girls are night in day from the way the look, act and learn. I think the best thing you can do is find out the best thing that works and go with it.. and mostly just enjoy them.
-Jillian
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You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
You can not spoil a baby.
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So here's a question for all of you how many of you practice attachment parenting. in it's truest form with no spanking and all that Oh and wearing the baby in the sling until they are 2-3 adn nursing until they decide that they are uncomfortable with it even if they are 6 at the time??
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Busybee
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With a baby, all I can say is expect the unexpected. Sick days, cranky days, sleepy days, every day can be different.
Errrm, AP parenting is not for me in the truest since. Although I have some tendencies. I co-slept with my first until she was 3.5years (had to get some sleep because she was NOT a sleeper as an infant), breastfead for 16 months, rarely spanked.
Slings you say
? I just got my two yesterday and I'm breastfeeding and supplementing with formula, and I do co-sleep early in the mornings. I'm still learning how to wear her in the sling though. I'm not going to wear her constantly. I have mine for shopping and so I can get my oldest out to the park or just outside more.
I'm thankful she will sleep by herself now in the cradle beside the bed. It's crucial for me to have the option of snuggling up next to my husband in bed (since she slept on the outside of the bed I had to sleep facing her and with my back to my husband). When I do put her in the bed with me, my husband is then gone to work.
I don't want to be a TRUE APer, but I do admire them for being able to do what they do. It tires me just to think about it.
Errrm, AP parenting is not for me in the truest since. Although I have some tendencies. I co-slept with my first until she was 3.5years (had to get some sleep because she was NOT a sleeper as an infant), breastfead for 16 months, rarely spanked.
Slings you say
? I just got my two yesterday and I'm breastfeeding and supplementing with formula, and I do co-sleep early in the mornings. I'm still learning how to wear her in the sling though. I'm not going to wear her constantly. I have mine for shopping and so I can get my oldest out to the park or just outside more.I'm thankful she will sleep by herself now in the cradle beside the bed. It's crucial for me to have the option of snuggling up next to my husband in bed (since she slept on the outside of the bed I had to sleep facing her and with my back to my husband). When I do put her in the bed with me, my husband is then gone to work.
I don't want to be a TRUE APer, but I do admire them for being able to do what they do. It tires me just to think about it.
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No, I don't do all of that. My son who is 3 at the end of November is occasionally spanked, when he disobeys the things we have asked him to do. I didn't use a sling because I had an emergency c/s and was advised not to use one until after 6 weeks, then when I did try after that time, I found that it wasn't really comfortable for me. I can't believe parents use a sling until 2-3. I think my back would break carrying my 14kg toddler around all day. I did breastfeed until 16mths and he was the one who had decided to stop.alexeeah said:
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alaskamolly
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Attachment Parenting works great if you have one child...though the mothers often look a little frazzled! It even works ok with two, but if you do "strict" AP with more than two (close in age), you may wind up in a mental hospital eventually! 
I use elements of AP, but that's because I think they are just natural normal parenting methods. I use elements of a lot of things--I do WHAT WORKS.
Isn't that what's important? If it lines up with God's Word and it creates a good strong relationship between my child and me--well, that's it! That's called Good Parenting.
The biggest flaw I see in AP is that it is child-led, whereas the Scriptures say that a child needs a leader.
Certainly we pay attention to our baby's and child's cue's (duh!), but that doesn't mean we should always obey them.
Just because the one year old whines for something doesn't mean it's what he should have--and always giving in to his whines teaches him what--that when he wants something and whines for it, he gets it. Now that is NOT setting him up for a healthy and happy adulthood! And it's not nice to do to his future spouse, either!
I think a happy and healthy child will thrive in an loving environment with boundaries--not in an environment where they set the boundaries.
God likens children to lambs--and we all know that lambs need a...shepherd!
That's us, the parents! God put us in that place--and is going to hold us accountable, NOT for how we let the child lead us, but for how we led the child!
Obviously a good shepherd doesn't go around beating on his lambs all the time, either. I'm a big fan of spankings and training swats--God says it is loving to spank your child!--but not beatings, yellings, screamings, shamings, etc. In fact, God says it's better for a millstone to be wrapped around a drowing man's neck than for him to offend one of the little ones! Yipes! Abuse is NOT tolerated in God's camp!!!!
Anyways, all that to say that a loving momma will learn to discern when to cuddle and snuggle her little one (a lot, a lot, a lot!!!), but also when to start gently and slowly teaching that little one that he's a part of a big big world, that the world does NOT revolve around him and his desires, and neither does God! ...That he was born with a PURPOSE--that his life is going to make a difference in this ol' world, that he belongs to a Boss who his family obeys, and that he is a special part of a much bigger family.
If they are always getting what they want everytime they want it, they aren't going to learn this very well.
For us, when ours are in the womb we are already speaking to them about what God has planned for them, about how they are a part of something much bigger...and when they are born, we speak that to them when their diaper is getting changed, etc... We just make it a part of their reality from the start, and slowly teach it to them, step by little step, as they grow.
Love in Him,
Molly
I use elements of AP, but that's because I think they are just natural normal parenting methods. I use elements of a lot of things--I do WHAT WORKS.
Isn't that what's important? If it lines up with God's Word and it creates a good strong relationship between my child and me--well, that's it! That's called Good Parenting.
The biggest flaw I see in AP is that it is child-led, whereas the Scriptures say that a child needs a leader.
Certainly we pay attention to our baby's and child's cue's (duh!), but that doesn't mean we should always obey them.
Just because the one year old whines for something doesn't mean it's what he should have--and always giving in to his whines teaches him what--that when he wants something and whines for it, he gets it. Now that is NOT setting him up for a healthy and happy adulthood! And it's not nice to do to his future spouse, either!
I think a happy and healthy child will thrive in an loving environment with boundaries--not in an environment where they set the boundaries.
God likens children to lambs--and we all know that lambs need a...shepherd!
That's us, the parents! God put us in that place--and is going to hold us accountable, NOT for how we let the child lead us, but for how we led the child!
Obviously a good shepherd doesn't go around beating on his lambs all the time, either. I'm a big fan of spankings and training swats--God says it is loving to spank your child!--but not beatings, yellings, screamings, shamings, etc. In fact, God says it's better for a millstone to be wrapped around a drowing man's neck than for him to offend one of the little ones! Yipes! Abuse is NOT tolerated in God's camp!!!!
Anyways, all that to say that a loving momma will learn to discern when to cuddle and snuggle her little one (a lot, a lot, a lot!!!), but also when to start gently and slowly teaching that little one that he's a part of a big big world, that the world does NOT revolve around him and his desires, and neither does God! ...That he was born with a PURPOSE--that his life is going to make a difference in this ol' world, that he belongs to a Boss who his family obeys, and that he is a special part of a much bigger family.
If they are always getting what they want everytime they want it, they aren't going to learn this very well.
For us, when ours are in the womb we are already speaking to them about what God has planned for them, about how they are a part of something much bigger...and when they are born, we speak that to them when their diaper is getting changed, etc... We just make it a part of their reality from the start, and slowly teach it to them, step by little step, as they grow.
Love in Him,
Molly
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What matters is meeting a baby's needs, and the needs will be different for each child. An infant crying for comfort or being hungry or awake in the middle of the night is not leading parents or trying to control them! I've heard some Christians say that parents should control the feeding schedule to establish who is in charge! They even use Jesus crying out "My God, My God why have you forsaken me?" from the cross as an argument that it's OK to leave a baby cry!!
On the other hand, a three year old stamping her foot and demanding something is a whole different story. We need to learn to read our unique kids and understand where kids are developmentally.
On the other hand, a three year old stamping her foot and demanding something is a whole different story. We need to learn to read our unique kids and understand where kids are developmentally.
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