[FONT='Times New Roman','serif']Hi there! I am new to this sight and seeking some much needed advice about my precious 5 yr old son....who, bless his heart......CAN"T STOP TALKING! I feel like such a bad mother for asking him to 'stop talking for a few minutes' or not answering every single question. He is really inquisitive and I know this is a GREAT quality. Does any one else have this issue....and care to share any 'coping' tips? I don't want to shut down his little spirit, but some days I feel like I am going CRAZY! THanks for listening. Any hopefully comments would be much appreciated![/FONT]
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[FONT='Times New Roman','serif']Hi there! I am new to this sight and seeking some much needed advice about my precious 5 yr old son....who, bless his heart......CAN"T STOP TALKING! I feel like such a bad mother for asking him to 'stop talking for a few minutes' or not answering every single question. He is really inquisitive and I know this is a GREAT quality. Does any one else have this issue....and care to share any 'coping' tips? I don't want to shut down his little spirit, but some days I feel like I am going CRAZY! THanks for listening. Any hopefully comments would be much appreciated![/FONT]
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Start pulling together a bunch of quiet activities for him to do for short periods when you need a break. Keep them reserved (hence special) for when you need quite time. Things like coloring, drawing, building blocks, leggos, gig saw puzzles, connect the dots and the like.
Do not hesitate to start telling him, on occasion, that mommy needs a time out for herself. Say it in a nice way so as to not make it his fault, just factually that mommy needs some time alone. Remain in ear shot so you can intervene should you be needed. Learning to play on his own for short periods is an important skill he needs anyway
Do not hesitate to start telling him, on occasion, that mommy needs a time out for herself. Say it in a nice way so as to not make it his fault, just factually that mommy needs some time alone. Remain in ear shot so you can intervene should you be needed. Learning to play on his own for short periods is an important skill he needs anyway
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I agree with Mayzoo.
It is awesome that he is so inquisitive, but some kids are just real chatterboxes. My dad told my sister once that God only gives us so many words for our whole life and if she wasn't quiet once in a while that she would eventually run out of words. My sister ran straight to our mom who quickly dispelled that rumor.
It is awesome that he is so inquisitive, but some kids are just real chatterboxes. My dad told my sister once that God only gives us so many words for our whole life and if she wasn't quiet once in a while that she would eventually run out of words. My sister ran straight to our mom who quickly dispelled that rumor.
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I agree with the above as well. My son is the type that has to be making some kind of noise or talk or jabbering about something constantly too. Con. Stant. Ly. It doesn't even have to make any sense. It's real fun when he gets a song or a rhyme stuck in his head.
It's not always annoying, but on those days that it is, I just have to kindly ask him to give me some quiet time for a while. He's 11 years old now, so he's used to that.
It's not always annoying, but on those days that it is, I just have to kindly ask him to give me some quiet time for a while. He's 11 years old now, so he's used to that
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Talking is not only for communication, it's a chance to go over information and try out ideas. As adults we tend to be more discreeet when we "talk to to ourselves". For sanity's sake, let sme of the comments go unresponded to, or turn some questions back to him; "That's a good question Thomas, why to you think blueberry bushes only produce fruit in the summer?"
It can also be good to introduce the concept of "quiet time" when people quietly do things by themselves or while listening to some quiet classical music.
All three our kids are out and about making their ways in the world. What I wouldn't give to have them speak to me, about anything. Or nothing! You are not a bad mommy, you are just up to your eyeballs with parenting these days.
It can also be good to introduce the concept of "quiet time" when people quietly do things by themselves or while listening to some quiet classical music.
All three our kids are out and about making their ways in the world. What I wouldn't give to have them speak to me, about anything. Or nothing! You are not a bad mommy, you are just up to your eyeballs with parenting these days.
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I have a son just like that. For the most part I just put up with it and indulge him. The only exception is when he tries to interupt other people who are talking. I have taught him that this is unacceptable unless it's something important because he needs to respect others with his talking. Providing they are respectful with their talking then I say enjoy it and encourage it.
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My son is 2.5 and does this!!! Constant talking and just general jibber-jabber. Some days I can take pleasure in it; some days I want to stuff a soft toy in his mouth (I wouldn't but you know what I mean!)
I've started to try to train him to be quiet for periods (taking him to church is part of this - he is expected to sit quietly in the service for the 15 minutes before creche starts). I also insist on a 'rest time' for a minimum of 30 minutes a day - since he's outgrown his nap I put him in his room with a story CD for a while. I also encourage him to play in his room after this has finished so that I get some peace time downstairs. Independent play is an importat skill - you're not failing as a parent, in fact you are doing your job if you are teaching your child to be by themselves for a time.
I've started to try to train him to be quiet for periods (taking him to church is part of this - he is expected to sit quietly in the service for the 15 minutes before creche starts). I also insist on a 'rest time' for a minimum of 30 minutes a day - since he's outgrown his nap I put him in his room with a story CD for a while. I also encourage him to play in his room after this has finished so that I get some peace time downstairs. Independent play is an importat skill - you're not failing as a parent, in fact you are doing your job if you are teaching your child to be by themselves for a time.
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Hi Jane Winter. Welcome to CF.
A trick I used with my sons when their talking got to be too much was to tell them, "You can ask me three more questions. Then you can't ask me any more questions until ____ O'clock. When ____O'clock rolled around, I told them again, "You get three questions." It worked.
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