I'm marrying my partner in a quick casual registry office service because he wants to get married asap. He's moved out after 4 years of living together but has now moved back in again. Getting married on tuesday. We've had money problems even though they are finally sorting themselves out. I had to go and borrow a loaf of bread of my mother the other day (yes, we are that skint). I am 38 years old so you can imagine how embarrasing this is. Parents are comfortably off but my mother has made it clear once I'm married they won't be helping me out. She has been really kind, buying me some clothes and paying for us to spend night in a hotel. They have also helped us out with rent/ bills etc before. I am having anxiety attacks as I need to trust God to provide now. We've had a mix up with bank and having to borrow some money off a loan company to pay for the rings and the wedding service and some clothes for my partner to wear. It's all very rushed, but I'm not stressed out at all. I am anxious though. I need help with my anxiety. Parents not coming to service as my dad always gets really hyped up and would make me even more nervous. We're having a quick prayer said over us by one of my partner's Christian friends in a nearby hotel afterwards and a bit of tea. Partner been living away from our flat for about 5 weeks as he had a crisis of conscience about living in sin (after 4 years!). Last night he fell out with his mate who he is staying with and I had to go get him at 1 in the morning. He is making himself ill with stress. He's OK now he's moved back in. Anyway, I got no money till tommorrow so I can't do anything today. Not a scrap of food in house, my partners birthday tommorrow. My mum lives 5 mins away and I am thinking about going up and asking to borrow some milk but I don't want her to know about our money problems. They will all be solved by tommorrow anyway. I also got to get partner birthday card. Help. Oh well, I just worried about everything. I have a history of anxiety and depression and the past four weeks I have been to church I have collapsed crying every time. But I still feel closer than ever to God. So that's got to be a positive to come out of all this struggle. Just wish I could trust more - I really do love my partner and he works so hard. He is just bad at organising but I am good at that so it kind of works. Right, might go see if I can ask my mum for a couple of quid. Parents are reasonably well off but I feel like such a failure having to ask for their help at age 38. Help!!!:o
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I assume this is the same partner you've previously posted about, whose religious pressure was making you ill and who had sex with you when you didn't want to? If so, I'm going to reiterate the general sentiment in the last thread: don't marry this dude. He's involved with a church that worries you and he yanks you around emotionally. He sounds unstable (from the last post).
Solution: If you don't marry him, your parents can still help you out. And also, you won't be marrying a jerk. Win/win.
Solution: If you don't marry him, your parents can still help you out. And also, you won't be marrying a jerk. Win/win.
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I say learn to breath out slowly and think of all that stress going out with that breath. As that stress goes out with your breath its just peace inside.
OK, easier said than done. But if you can learn to do it it can make quite a difference.
OK, easier said than done. But if you can learn to do it it can make quite a difference.
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See your previous thread, dear: you need to get the frak away from this guy for a big old pile of reasons. Your parents' reaction is just another one on the pile.
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