Paranoid About My Family

[LandonME]

alot of things have been happening recently in my family that im not too proud of. My grandparents are very old but they might have a few more years in em, my cousin after about 3 years of marriage is getting divorced, my parents wont get off me about getting a job when im trying my best to do so, and my brother whos 4 years younger than me (24-20) is leaving for the army in february.

and theres this thing about my brother goin into the army its.. -sigh- idk its just that ever since he turned 18 he thinks he can do whatever he wants whenever and whereever he wants regardless of what our parents say. not saying he's criminal or anything, he doesnt do drugs, doesnt drink, doesnt steal or has had sex yet (as far as i know he never tells me anything), but since then hes always thought he's the older brother just because he's physically larger than me. i dont know if thats actually what he thinks but its been seeming like it. It always feels like he's trying to show me up sometimes with him always goin out with friends and goin on dates and bein stronger than me and all that, and now with him goin into the army.. -sigh- its just.. i dont know if i should be scared for him or jealous. cuz i know I'd never last a second in the army and i think its just a place people go to die. Not that im not supportive of the people who do the things they do over there protecting our country, if any of you are reading this, this is not directed against you in any way shape or form but just at the idea itself and i do not mean to offened you. Then im not sure if even he can last more than a day. i mean hes gonna be a medic but even they get killed right? and then im not sure how strong he is in his faith but ive heard they just suck it right out (im paraphrasing of course but you get my point) and i dont want him comeing home an atheist and a bigger jerk than he already kinda is.

I just want my family to live meaningful lives and not have these kinds of things happen to them. not only that but i dont even wanna think about whats gonna happen when my grandparents pass. i dont want our lives to change like that. i know my parents and im not sure theyll be able to handle it very well. i just dont think i can live in a world where people i love and good things they have just up and die all around me.

 

[LandonME]

so can anyone help me out with this please? id rather have some peace of mind before my brother leaves.

 

[BeAuTiFuLcHaOs]

so can anyone help me out with this please? id rather have some peace of mind before my brother leaves.

I'm sorry you are having these struggles. I don't have much advice but I can pray for you. God bless you. Please give us an update if you can.

 

[LandonME]

Well seein as how this thread is apparently not dead, ill give a quick update lol. My brothers actually doing fine in the army right now so I'm not worried, I just got hired at Walmart, my cousin is doin ok he just wasn't ready for marriage and I guess I'm still a little nervous about my grandparents age. I mean grandpa has a bit of Alzheimer's and grandma has to have surgery on her kidneys I think. I mean I know they're going to Heaven when they pass but... I don't want anything to change in our family. Like I don't want us to be all depressed and grow distant from each other n stuff like that. I'm just scared of it happening and what'll happen after that. I know I don't have to be, but I am.

 

[BeAuTiFuLcHaOs]

Well seein as how this thread is apparently not dead, ill give a quick update lol. My brothers actually doing fine in the army right now so I'm not worried, I just got hired at Walmart, my cousin is doin ok he just wasn't ready for marriage and I guess I'm still a little nervous about my grandparents age. I mean grandpa has a bit of Alzheimer's and grandma has to have surgery on her kidneys I think. I mean I know they're going to Heaven when they pass but... I don't want anything to change in our family. Like I don't want us to be all depressed and grow distant from each other n stuff like that. I'm just scared of it happening and what'll happen after that. I know I don't have to be, but I am.

Hang in there my friend. thanks for keeping us updated.

 

[LandonME]

so... does anyone have any helpful advice or something on the topic?

 

[If Not For Grace]

Try to learn to live one day at a time-read your OP, all the stuff you were frantic over worked out didn't it? It usually does.

Worry is futile it will drain you and keep you in an emotional frenzy. It is a bad habit that can be broken. Alzheimers is a horrible disease-the worst I can think of on the families. My Father suffers from it. It is progressive and there are alot of adjustments you have to make-most people have to turn to insitutional care with it and there is NO shame in that, it can get rough.

Change is inevitable, it's how you deal with it that counts. Knowledge is power, learn about the disease, what to expect. Things may or may not happen. Panic NEVER aids anyone. Be proud of your brother and happy for him that he has found a way to serve his country that is not likely to involve Him killing anyone..

I'm glad you found employment-these days it's getting a bit tough in some areas to remain gainfully employed. Embrace change as opportunity, you don't want every day to be the same. You want to mature and grow.

It rains on the just and the unjust-it's not about the rain...It's about our attitude. Do Not worry if adversity comes your way. Seek Knowledge (if you lack knowledge, you know who to ask, ok?) Your God is a Big God and "fear not" is one of His most frequent phrases